Fighting at the head of the bed and at the end of the bed is the key to a long-term relationship?

I just read a study conducted by a university in the United States (University of Texas). The study conducted a two-and-a-half-year follow-up survey on 61 groups of newlyweds who had been married for less than half a year.

The results showed that within a few months of marriage, couples who had a moderate level of quarrel and successfully reconciled were able to live harmoniously and happily thereafter.

So if the relationship is going to be long, is it necessary to keep quarreling?

After looking at the results of the study, the text says: "quarrel and reconcile successfully", that is to say, "reconciliation" is the point.

Maybe you will think that since you want to reconcile, isn't it better not to quarrel at the beginning, anyway, quarrel will hurt your body.

In fact, we humans are very troublesome creatures. Eight out of ten, we don’t know what to say from the bottom of our hearts, and many times we don’t even know it ourselves. Emotions such as "dissatisfaction", "anger" and so on are often meant to express our sincere words for us to let people know, and when both parties are "angry" or "dissatisfied", a quarrel is formed.

If you can't convey the truth, the relationship will be difficult to last

It’s true that quarrels are hurtful, and more likely to destroy a relationship, but it’s also true that quarrels are a tool for true confidence. If we both cherish this relationship, I believe that we will be able to let go of "anger" and reconcile, and this "reconciliation" is not for the sake of accommodating each other, but comes after we truly understand each other, which is commendable.

If you want to get along with each other harmoniously, you might as well try to deliberately pick out some sesame small things for a small quarrel from time to time. With enough training, you will be able to solve serious disputes in the future.