Filial piety

filial piety first

[Hundreds of Elements put filial piety first] Filial piety is the most important and the first among all the beautiful virtues of human beings.

Filial Piety - Filial piety for children and filial piety to their parents has always been an important virtue in China, and even the first among various virtues.

Filial piety, to be obedient.

filial piety, to respect.

I think it is reasonable to give back to the parents who have given them life and nurturing grace, to respect them during the growth period, and to care for and take care of their parents in a timely manner when they grow up.

But in many cases, "filial piety" is twisted into a kind of "foolish filial piety" that must be obeyed regardless of the truth, and is put on heavy moral shackles.

If you do not obey your parents' wishes, you are not filial;

If you don't support your parents financially, it's not filial;

It would be unfilial if you don't always ask questions and care about it;

It is also unfilial if you do not dedicate yourself to handling all kinds of chores.

As soon as he is labelled as "unfilial", he will suddenly become less human-like than beasts.

However, has anyone reflected that not every parent is worthy of filial piety?

How many parents use coercion, force, and intimidation to make their children blindly obey, or beat and scold them if they don't obey, or even threaten not to give pocket money, school fees, or meals, and implement economic blockade. What's more, some parents are neglectful and even abuse their children.

For such parents, neither hatred nor resentment is already very serious, do you still need to support them, and then pay for the discomfort?

As for normal parents, I think that you treat me well, I treat you well, respect each other, and each other is an independent individual who can care for and take care of each other, but at the same time, they can take care of themselves separately (of course, when the parents are old, it is another matter of course). ), not as if the child is a debtor and a debtor, demanding time, care, money, etc. every day, and even requiring children to obey everything when they become adults, and not to violate their parents’ wishes.

From which subject you choose to study when you are a student, to which job you choose to do when you grow up, which one to marry, which district to live in... Parents' opinions are purely to give their opinions, or to ask their children to follow everything, they cannot be contrary to their parents. position?

Everyone's life belongs to themselves. Parents choose their own lives. Can they let their children choose their lives? When everyone's ideas and practices are inconsistent, is it necessarily the children's "unfilial piety" and the children's fault?

Life should respect each other, both parents and children should respect each other, rather than force others to obey in authority or morality. If parents are good, they are naturally worthy of respect; if parents are not good parents themselves, why would their children be "unfilial" and bad people if they didn't treat them well?

Therefore, I have never understood "patriotism". If a country is good enough, it is naturally worthy of the people's love.

(I have no complaints against my mother X 100000000)

orderly

king, minister, father, son

[Old and young orderly] Follow your age, abide by your duties, be courteous, harmonious and orderly.

[The ruler, the minister, the father, the son] The ruler should be like a monarch, a minister should be a minister, a father should be a father, and a son should be a son.

In fact, is it really necessary to grow up in order?

Can't everyone be created equal?

Can't anyone take care of someone in need?

Can't we just listen to whoever is wise?

Can't be fair, respect each other regardless of age?

Whether the so-called "orderly" is actually for the convenience of managing the country and the family, so the phrase "old and young is ordered", if you are born later and younger, it is God's will that you obey, don't ask the question, just obey the elders or superiors.

Actually, isn't this unreasonable?

Respect for teachers

[Respecting teachers and respecting Taoism] Respect the teachers who teach and attach importance to the principles taught by teachers.

Just like filial piety to parents, I often have doubts. There are many teachers in this world who are not worthy of respect. If teachers do not do their duty and teach with heart, how can they ask students to respect them and obey them? Isn't this yet another matter of bullying others with authority?

 When I was a TA, I once worked as a teacher assistant at my alma mater for one year. Because it was my alma mater, many "colleagues" were actually teachers who taught me. As a "colleague", I watched the "teacher" of this class, and secretly talked about the right and wrong of the students (human nature), some who are lazy, who are uneasy and kind, and of course there are those who teach with heart.
That is to say, it is a sentence to talk about the sun, and it must be good to call it "teacher"!

Everyone has been a student, and there must be some teachers who you think are not worthy of respect, right?

Irrational teaching, lack of solid knowledge, direct speech, abuse of authority... For such teachers, I really feel that there is no need to "respect teachers and Taoism", because they themselves don't even respect their own work.

frugal

Frugality is certainly a virtue.

However, being thrifty does not mean being a miser, it does not mean being "lonely" (stingy), and it does not mean being mean to yourself or your family.

Some people spend their whole lives making money constantly, and then save money, but in life they always have to "save as much as they can", and they are reluctant to eat better, dress better, and use better, in exchange for a bunch of bankbooks.

My grandmother taught my mother, and my mother taught: "If you remove ten mosquitoes, you will make nine mosquitoes at most, and you will need to store one mosquito."

I am not someone who knows how to manage money, so I just remember this sentence. The general principle is that you can't make ends meet, you can't spend more than your income, and no matter how little money you have, you must have a little savings.

Or I often feel that life is impermanent, and I don’t know if I will die at any time, so I don’t want to belittle myself, I eat what I want, and go wherever I want, but I don’t care about the enjoyment that I can’t afford to spend.

But no matter how you say it, even if I'm not extravagant, I'm not really frugal. I still have to study hard in the future.

After all, how "beautiful" are Chinese traditional virtues?

I don't know either, but after I said it, I realized that I didn't really agree with some traditional Chinese "virtue".