Seven Days Book 04｜Lack, pursuit

The fourth day (July 4)
In a relationship, have you ever had a moment when you turned from passive to active? Whether it is love, family or friendship.

Haha, I suddenly realized that the theme of this issue of "Love and Intimacy" may have a default premise - "healthy". Compared with the Simplified Chinese world, the traditional Chinese world is already healthier at the level of collective consciousness.

Facing the topic every day, what I wanted to write at the beginning had to become what I am writing now. I felt that I was honest with myself, so I had to write "one in a million moments" into "which one" All the time...” (I really didn’t mean to go off topic😢), as if trying to find a spot without bruises on the skin of a person who has been violently violated for a long time. The collective unconsciousness and unhealthy psychology in Jianzhong are too deep-rooted. Except for a very, very, very, very few lucky few, there is no "love and intimacy" at the level of the civilized world, and they have not even experienced the taste of primitive "love". However, it all depends on acquired hard work, seeking, and constant trial and error to barely understand the outline of love, and to stumble and try to explore and establish a healthy intimate relationship from the bottom up (woo woo woo woo, cry in the storm).

Only love can give birth to love. Only if you have been taught what love is and have been truly loved, can you continue this most precious human emotion effortlessly.

So, in fact, since I can remember, I have taken the initiative in all the key moments of my family, friendship, and love; all my possessions so far (if it can be said to be "possession"), are all mine. Actively strive for it.

My parents were not around when I was a child, I was passive and lacked love, and I relied on others, so I took the initiative to please everyone around me: academic performance was the only merit that I was praised for, so I "actively" maintained good grades; my uncle was very fierce, so I I "actively" helped him catch the geese and shovel the stinky goose poop everywhere; my aunt always gave me a hard time, but she did provide me with a roof over my head to go to on weekends, so I "actively" helped her wash her clothes and even her underwear. trousers; even though I wore simple clothes and had very little pocket money, I could still "actively" become friends with my classmate from a well-off family because she looked so beautiful and was a nice person. They would order whatever they wanted, so I would find an excuse to only eat steamed buns. That's good; even though I'm always the transfer student who transferred here later, I can still "actively" integrate into the class as long as I work hard; even though the boy I like doesn't like me, it doesn't stop me from "actively" continuing to study in the class. I liked him in my diary; although my cherished friend never contacted me, I could "actively" send her messages. Until one day, I finally understood that the other person did not actually treat me as a good friend as I imagined. friend.

All my “active” giving comes from never having “passive” possession.