overreaction

The topic to be discussed today is mainly from the experience of parenting, and it is also the expert who mentioned in parent-child parenting that when facing some behaviors of children, we should try our best not to overreact, why?

While we emphasize that responding positively to a child's needs helps build a child's sense of security and love, sometimes overreacting can be counterproductive, and we try to be aware of these behaviors and correct them.

Keep calm when your child is frustrated

For example, when a child is still in the toddler stage, falls are inevitable, but some anxious parents will scream when their child falls. In fact, they will scare the child into thinking that he has done something wrong, which will also affect the child. The guilt that naturally arises when one encounters setbacks. The best way is to observe the current situation and encourage the child to stand up in a calm tone as much as possible. If you need help, you can help the child without worrying too much or Overreact.

When your child's emotions ignite, don't ignite another volcano

When the children are a little older, they gradually gain self-consciousness, and they begin to face the time when their opinions are rejected. At this time, they may feel sad, cry, or even make a noise. Usually, parents still feel this situation even after experiencing it many times. Pressure, so it is easy to get angry and scold the child loudly. When two volcanoes erupt at the same time, it is conceivable that they will not be able to deal with it in a short time. Since the child's brain has not yet fully developed, it cannot regulate emotions, so try to avoid it as much as possible. The responsibility for overreacting falls on the parents. Although it is difficult, we must first understand that it is more appropriate to maintain a stable emotion and respond to the child in a calm tone. In the minds of children, when parents overreact, it is easy for them to immediately recognize that this is a big event that is enough to shake their parents. Once they want to attract their parents' attention, they will immediately flash their existing experiences and take Come out and repeat the trick until you realize that the trick has failed. (i.e. parents maintain a normal attitude)

Excessive empathy, but self-defeating

The other extreme situation is that parents feel the child's emotions excessively, such as hysterical or hugging and crying with the child, as if the child's pain can be fully conveyed to every cell in their own body. This situation is actually dangerous, because the child may later They will be more reluctant to reveal any emotions to you, because they will intimately think that their honesty will put too much burden on their parents, or that your overreaction will also make him think that you are interfering with his life, and over time they will be more concerned about their parents. Hide their true emotions because they also worry that they can't handle such an overreaction.

Reflect on overreactions and find the real source

Sometimes at first glance, our overreacting behaviors are aimed at children. In fact, when we look deeper, we will find that our inner anxiety is at work . Perhaps when we fell as a child, the feeling of being helpless without anyone’s help was deeply rooted in our hearts. , or daily stress or physical discomfort caused a certain behavior of the child to trigger the switch of our emotions. After a calm review, we will always find that the current excessive reaction is actually pointing to another more important problem . Imagine if the husband and wife are not in harmony. Is it easy to lose patience and overreact when children behave in unexpected ways?

I believe that every parent is not perfect, and it is absolutely impossible for us to not make mistakes on the road of parenting, but as long as we have the heart to clarify the context of things, and slowly adjust and improve bit by bit, we can enhance our parent-child relationship. .