human brain virus

There is a virus that is more lethal than any other computer virus. This virus lurks in our brains. Hence the name "Human Brain Virus".

What is the lethality of the human brain virus? The most disgusting thing about this virus is that many people, even if they have great potential, can only live a mediocre life. Just imagine, if your talent can make you a pilot, but after being affected by the human brain virus, you can only be an ordinary clerk. Originally, there was no distinction between high and low professions, and there was nothing wrong with being a clerk. But what if you are affected by the virus and become a person who works hard but doesn’t know what he is doing, just wasting energy and wasting time?

Having said all that, what does this virus look like? This virus only has three words: "I can't do it." You may be wondering: "Can these three short words have such power?"

Anyone with a little common sense should know that no matter what you do, actual combat is an indispensable part of doing it well. The same goes for learning. Going from unfamiliarity to proficiency requires a process of constant trial and practice. This process may take a long or short time, but it is indispensable in actual combat. The self-suggestion of "I can't do it" (many times it is self-evident! () will make you hesitate to even start taking action. Or even if you start to take action, you will shrink back when encountering a small setback: "They all say that I can't do it. It's true. "I can't do it!" This shows how big a stumbling block "I can't do" is on the road to personal development. What's even more ironic is that this stumbling block is thrown at one's own feet.

You may ask: "How on earth did such a bad human brain virus get into our heads?"

The formation of human brain viruses is the result of the intertwining of culture, interpersonal interaction and personal personality.

At a cultural level, Chinese society generally discourages personal expression. Chinese culture exalts humility. Even though I am very talented, I still often say "I am not good" in front of others. It seems that saying you can do it yourself is arrogant. In addition to verbal expressions, due to the fear of "shooting the first bird", he also tends to be restrained in actual performance. Living under such a shadow, if one's talent is exposed, one will suffer the same misfortune as if one's wealth is exposed. So most people would rather hide their abilities. I say "I can't do it" so often that I even believe that I can't do it.

Interpersonal interactions also have an impact on self-understanding. Although there are very few cases where jealousy undermines the self-confidence of others and makes people believe that they are incompetent, the irony is that often this impact comes from our significant others, such as parents. The motivation for the attack was ironically love for children. I once heard a case: a child likes to sing very much. He participated in many singing competitions and won awards, but his parents tried their best to undermine his confidence in singing because they wanted him to concentrate on his studies. I often say that his singing is ugly. Even if he won the award, he said the judges were biased and even had hearing problems. When a child's interests and talents do not meet parents' expectations, or parents believe that certain interests and talents "cannot be used as food," they will use negative evaluation methods to prevent children from developing their interests. The above cases are actually not uncommon in daily life. When you live in an atmosphere where you are not encouraged since childhood, the virus of "I can't do it" will enter your mind.

Of course, personal personality is also a breeding ground for viruses to grow. Do you have to believe when others say you can’t do it? Some people decide not to believe it no matter what. Say I can't do it, but I want to do it. Others rely heavily on the approval and admiration of others. When others do not express their approval or make negative comments, they truly believe that they are not good enough. The human brain virus "I can't do it" prefers the latter of the above two types of people as its host.

Now that we know how human brain viruses arise, how should we respond? My way of coping is not to be stubborn, just to ask questions. In my daily life, "I can't do it" often pops up in my mind. For example, I am learning to set up my own blog website. When encountering links related to pictures, I often say to myself unconsciously: I can’t see, so I probably can’t do the pictures. If I give up studying after listening to the above self-suggestion, then I will be poisoned. Now I will continue to ask: If my eyes can't see, is there really no other way to help me process pictures? Are there other visually impaired people using tools that I am not aware of that can help them process images? After asking the above questions, I will continue to gather more information. For example, ask other visually impaired people to learn how to use new tools. In the process of learning, it seems very far to go from completely ignorant to very proficient. At this time, I would unconsciously say: I am a layman at this, how can I learn it? At this time, if I continue to ask: How can I learn? In what way will it be easier for me to master the relevant skills? Then the human brain virus can't stop me. Because after asking the above questions, I will continue to take actions, including setting small goals for learning and a feedback mechanism for learning results.

Finally, most people think that achievement is something external and needs to be earned. But the truth I want to tell you is that achievement is actually hidden within us. What we have to do is to unlock achievements rather than strive for them. To unlock inner achievements, fully understand your own interests and talents, and constantly learn and seek improvement are indispensable elements. And these all require action. "I can't" is a deadly virus that consumes mobility. So it prevents us from unlocking achievements. Fortunately, this virus is not a terminal disease with no cure. As long as we don't believe it easily and are willing to ask more questions to solve it, we can easily overcome this stumbling block. I hope everyone can unlock their own achievements and live how they like.