Hong Dudouer: If you want a face or a breakup fee

In the TV series "Women's Gang", a local tyrant asks a woman, tell me, how much money do you want to leave my son?

In the TV series "Beijing Love Story", there is another local tyrant. He asks a man how much he wants to break up with his girlfriend.

Money has different uses at different times. When it is used for breaking up, it is called "break-up fee". In romance dramas, this kind of plot has been rotten on the street. At every turn, a man who is so poor that he has only money appears. Either he wants to use money to smash his rival, or he wants to use money to buy true love.

When watching TV series, we despise those men who pay breakup fees, and also despise those women who want breakup fees, and feel that when love involves money, it is vulgar.

However, in reality, a local tyrant told me about his love history. He said that he had lived with that girlfriend for two years. He was tired of it and wanted to break up. The girl didn't agree with anything she said. If his parents are making trouble at his house, he will be annoyed to death by going to his company to make trouble. Later, when he thought about it, he had tossed for so long, and he had long lost his feelings, and she said that she would never break up. What did she want to do? Think again, do you want money? I gave a sum, but the woman didn't agree. In the end he gave her all the money he made in those years, and she immediately disappeared from his life without a word.

The local tyrant sighed: Don't you just want a breakup fee? Let's say it directly, it's hard to tell what to do!

Don't take the breakup fee seriously. There was a case where a man and a woman were in love, and the woman said, you have to write me an IOU to prove that if you break up with me in the future, you have to pay me one million . The man who is in the stage of love thinks this is just a little woman's coquettish joke and signs it. Later, as soon as they broke up, they were sued by the woman in court - look, the IOUs in black and white are here, quickly lose money!

Although the breakup fee has no legal basis and is not protected by law, but a love finally goes to court, what a heartbreak. Therefore, no matter how dizzy two people are in love, when the other party asks you to write a large IOU for no reason, you have to be careful. Once you break up and tear your face in the future, these irrefutable proofs of signatures are enough for you to drink. pot.

There are indeed men who offered to pay for the breakup. A girl he knew talked about a boyfriend. When he broke up with his ex-girlfriend, he gave her 100,000 yuan, whether it was a break-up fee or compensation. In short, he felt that her family was poor, her job was unstable, and she could not support herself. Out of sympathy, she was given a sum of money to protect her life. When it was my turn to break up with this girl, I didn't have a penny. She felt strange, so she asked him why he treated him differently. He said: You are independent and capable, and you don't lack anything. Even if you leave, I can live well without giving you money. I am also relieved.

When feelings have been lost, it is comforting to be able to keep money. I once knew a small boss who transferred all his property before preparing to divorce his wife, including villas, cars and savings. His wife didn’t get any of it, and she was a housewife and had no ability to survive. After the divorce, she could only go to pets. The market sells goldfish. If the breakup is miserable, this kind of breakup with nothing left is even worse. Keeping property is actually very important. With sufficient material foundation, no matter how sad you are, you can live in a high-end community, drive a good car, buy whatever you want, and eat whatever you want. You can still travel around the world, stay in a five-star hotel, come A trip where you just leave without thinking about money. The spirit is injured, at least the body can be very comfortable.

If a woman has the scheming and means to fall in love with a man, she will figure out all kinds of retreats, think up all kinds of strategies to win his money, use soft tricks and hard tricks, or pretend to be weak and make him feel guilty. And take the initiative to pay the breakup fee, or act as a shrew to make him overwhelmed and exhausted and be forced to pay the breakup fee. In short, as long as he dares to leave the relationship, he must be made to pay the price. It sounds like self-preservation, but it's not love.

When a person is really immersed in love, he will not think of these intrigues, and only trust each other. Even if we break up, I don't want to turn against each other, but should be like the song "Just treat him as an old friend, it also makes me feel bad and makes me worry". Only when the love is not deep enough, do you always calculate, always be vigilant, never want to suffer a loss, and just want to take a big advantage.

Just don't worry about the breakup fee, it's rude and hurts self-esteem. Even if you meet a scumbag, he cheats on you, breaks your heart, wastes your youth, and throws you away, don't ask for the breakup fee because of anger. If you lose so much, don't let him throw the money in your face at the last step, and then step on it with laughter.