If you feel wronged, please ask someone quickly

Occasionally, I will receive some very dramatic phone calls, crying and crying as soon as I speak, and the content is nothing more than what kind of bullying in the workplace, asking us what to do.

Here we need to clarify the problem first. In fact, the best situation is that there is no problem, just go to work, go to get off work, and pass the day. But if there is a problem, you will be faced with a route choice. Simply put, it is to tell the person who is looking for you not to do this, to reflect on yourself if you really have a problem, to leave, to sue someone, to stab him (thousands of people) don't)...

There is a very bad way, just be patient...

Patience is different from the above self-reflection. If you find that you have no problem after reflecting, you still have to face a choice, and if you really have a problem, then correct it, that’s all.

Patience is swallowing.

It is true that sometimes it will get better after a while. After all, people have emotional ups and downs, so if you happen to meet someone else’s low tide, you really have to endure it for a while and pass it.

But I still want to say that if you are going to endure, it is best to make sure that you "think clearly", I mean, if you are not willing, then don't endure, this kind of forbearance is meaningless unless You have already calculated the gains and losses.

To put it simply, there will be no accumulation of negative emotions because of patience. Just like stocks falling, most people will not rush to sell. They may wait and see until the stop loss point. At this time, the loss is psychologically prepared, so it will not be cause significant shadows.

Usually people who are emotionally broke call to ask, most of them have already left, are about to leave, or even if they don’t leave, the working atmosphere is very bad and can’t last for long.

There are few choices you can make in this situation, especially whether you are wronged or bullied, it is not necessarily true in an objective determination, because your feelings are only your feelings, don’t be as stupid as the #MeToo movement, thinking that as long as you say it , If you want others to uphold justice, you must know that things are not yours to decide, but will become "other people's feelings", after all, you need others to judge for you.

Of course, your feelings are definitely respected, and some people will stress that they are being bullied to the point of going to a psychiatrist. Yes, I understand that everyone has different resistance to stress, but I also want to emphasize one point. Many people think that the other party bullies him with depression or something, but on the other hand, others are not obliged to give it to you because you have depression. Privilege, it's a mutual thing, and if you ask for equal treatment, then that's equal treatment.

Well put it this way, if there is a supervisor who usually "always" speaks loudly to employees, and today some people can't stand to say that the supervisor is bullying, to be honest, it is not possible to set up, it is because the supervisor has a bad temper and needs more practice, but the workplace is like this. One thing is that he is a supervisor, or even a boss. He does have management authority. If he is not satisfied, it is only a temper if it does not involve explicit and blatant insults.

Unless you can prove that he "only targets you", it also depends on whether your work performance is the same as everyone else's. If your performance is really poor, it can't be said that people are targeting you, and you are indeed targeted. by.

So if you want to seek legal assistance, don't wait until it gets out of hand. To be honest, there is nothing to get justice at this time, just to expand the scale of the quarrel.

I've heard a lot of people say "I'm just slow", "I don't know how to use a computer", "I'm bad at math and I need to count money", "I'm depressed"... There are a lot of reasons, but remember, no Anyone has an obligation to pity you. The boss invites you to come, just to help him make money. You give him results, he gives you money, and both money and goods are received. In fact, it is also a transaction, and there should be no charity in it.

It is also because it is a transaction, so you should not bully people, but management and bullying actually have some overlapping areas, especially business management. For example, asking people to work overtime on holidays to get things done, is this considered bullying? Is it bullying to generate documentation? None of this can be arbitrarily determined.

My own experience is that those who cry and complain will find out that their problems are actually bigger after being appeased... Only those who make a coherent statement can discover the problem.

In short, don’t deal with it until you have a breakdown. It is often the case. Before the breakdown, your performance in the workplace was already terrible. Maybe you were indeed victimized, but because you can’t handle your emotions, it seems reasonable to become someone else’s management in the end. Even the other person's madness is considered a legitimate emotional outlet.

If you want to ask a third party for help, you have to make yourself reasonable to win, and emotional collapse is by no means a good bargaining chip, but a reasonable reason for the other party to hate you, so don't pretend to be pitiful!