Love yourself more for the rest of your life

No one in the world will love you all the time, except for your own parents, because this is blood, you have no choice, but even parents, some parents may not be able to fully fulfill their role as parents, not to mention some parents may The child who is born does not love him, and even hates his own child. Perhaps, such parents have not learned what love is from their own parents. Therefore, their next generation, how can they In such a family environment, learn what it means to love, what it means to be loved, and what it means to truly love?

Some people never learn how to love in their whole life, which includes how to love others and themselves. Some people may gain love by pleasing others. Based on the mentality that I am good to him, he will also be good to me, hoping that through continuous catering, giving and pleasing others, we can finally get the same love, but often we end up getting the same love. But it is disappointment, and then repeat this pattern again and again, sacrifice, pay and contribute, but be disappointed again and again, and finally make myself bruised, no longer trust others, no longer believe in love, and close my heart. Desire to get love, but also because of fear of hurt, and finally lived as an island.

There are also some lucky people who are able to meet people who treat themselves with the same sincerity and treat themselves well in the process of giving. Others, in the end, everyone understands and gets love, and everyone is happy. Such people also exist, perhaps because they are luckier than others, or because they have some qualities that attract people who are equally willing to give and give, rather than selfish spirits who only know how to ask for love but never give it.

I don't want to talk too much about why some people are lucky enough to understand true love along the way, while others are not so lucky. To some extent, it is influenced by many factors. Sometimes, there are things, as human beings, we can never know everything that happens in the universe, and we can't understand the working mechanism of the universe. We have to believe that there are some arrangements. Instead, I want to share my thoughts on love, especially how to love yourself. Because the meaning of the word love is too deep and broad, love includes many things, the love between relatives, lovers, friends, parents, partners, big love and small love, and the most important ones are easily overlooked, I think it should be Just love yourself.

Loving oneself is easier said than done, but many people forget or ignore it, and even regard loving oneself as a kind of selfish behavior, thinking that loving oneself means selfishness. Putting only your own interests first, doesn’t that mean that you only think about yourself in everything and don’t care about the feelings of others? Then because of the inner shame, I am afraid of being accused of only caring about myself and being too selfish, so I deny the positive effect of loving myself, and I deny loving myself subconsciously. It is accepted by the world and society. So everything suppresses your inner real needs and turns to constant sacrifice, catering to others to gain positive affirmation from others, but you still expect yourself to be treated the same way, until you are scarred, hurt and disappointed countless times, only to find out, oh ! It turns out that I have never loved myself!

Because you don't love yourself and despise yourself, you choose to cater to and please others, and desire to get love from others, but the source of this love is in the hands of others, which is unstable. To put it bluntly, you let yourself When the key to happiness is handed over to others, how can we expect stable happiness and love? This kind of love is inherently unstable and unequal. When you hand over the right to make yourself happy to someone else, no matter who this person is, he can take back his kindness to you at any time, and he can also take back your kindness to him at any time. Take it for granted, don't cherish you, make you bruised and bruised. Is it that person's fault? No, at the end of the day, you don't love yourself enough.

Fortunately, we also have the right to make ourselves happy. The key is to love ourselves. The love of others is always unstable and can be withdrawn at any time, but you can choose to love and accompany yourself forever, at least until your body dies and your soul disappears, you can choose to love or not to love yourself, and obviously, the previous The scars have taught you the importance of loving yourself.

In fact, there is no need to talk about the benefits of loving yourself. The real benefits are when you start to take care of yourself more, including caring and taking care of your physical and mental health, paying more attention to your inner feelings and emotions, and no longer forcing yourself to do bad things. What you like, in the face of people you don't like, learn to give up an unsuitable relationship, live in a favorite environment, do what you like, and become the person you like. At that time, I don't need to say more, you can also experience it yourself. By that time, you will have a new look, and you will no longer be controlled by others to your own happiness. The pain of the past has not knocked you down, but has become your wings, allowing you to fly higher.

Dear, please learn to love yourself more! Life is short, please learn to live for yourself. When you no longer take care of the gulls and herons around you, you can fly all the way to your own sky.