Weekly 3-2-1: Make sure you want what you want to be happy, don't care what other people say, accept that growth must be slow

Original source: https://jamesclear.com/3-2-1/ may-26-2022?rh_ref=ebaff8bc

3 Ideas From Me

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"Before you try to increase your willpower, try to decrease the friction in your environment."
Before trying to increase willpower, try reducing resistance in your environment.

Sometimes, it's not that the willpower is too low, but that the temptation around you suddenly comes too much, beyond your current willpower range.

When training willpower, do it gradually. And before training, you should try to eliminate the environmental resistance that will affect you as much as possible, which will be relatively easy.

 ​II.
"Your habits are how you embody a particular identity.
Your habits are how you embody a certain identity. When you make your bed, you embody the identity of someone who is clean and organized. When you study, you embody the identity of someone who is studious.
When you make your bed, you embody your identity as a clean and tidy person. When you study, you embody the identity of a studious person.

What identity are you embodying today? Who are your habits helping you become?"
What do you stand for today? Who do your habits help you become?

This is the same thing I saw recently in an article <The Role-Playing Character Setting Method of Growth Cheats> (by @Game♛Life) . First establish your own character, and the characteristics of that character can help you judge and act.

Shape yourself with human design Fake it till you make it!

 III.
"Most big, deeply satisfying accomplishments in life take at least five years to achieve. This can include building a business, cultivating a loving relationship, writing a book, getting in the best shape of your life, raising a family, and more.
The greatest and most satisfying achievements in life take at least five years to achieve. This can include building a business, cultivating a love relationship, writing a book, making your life the best it can be, raising a family, etc. Five years is a long time. It is much slower than most of us would like. If you accept the reality of slow progress, you have every reason to take action today. If you resist the reality of slow progress, five years from now you'll simply be five years older and still looking for a shortcut."
Five years is a long time. It's much slower than most of us would like. If you accept the reality of slow progress, you have every reason to act today. If you resist the reality of slow progress, in five years you will only be five years older and still looking for shortcuts.

​Progress doesn't happen overnight, but if you don't have the patience to keep learning and make a little progress every day, you won't grow as time passes, but just get older!

I know this, but sometimes I forget it!

Many times I wanted to make it fast, but only later found out,

Going slowly is the fastest

For example, if the investment is good, most people (including me) want high profits, but they look down on those targets with stable returns but low returns. As a result, the investment market is like a roller coaster, with abrupt rises. Slope, there is a flat period, there is more stimulation of high-speed falling, and finally return to the starting point.

Investment depends on the long-term, whether it is layout or vision, it must be far away!

Seeds planted yesterday will not be harvested tomorrow. Investment is like this, learning is like this, and growth is like this! Let’s encourage each other!

2 Quotes From Others

 i.
Author Leo Tolstoy on the opinions of others:
Author Leo Tolstoy's opinion on others:

"If you care too much about being praised, in the end you will not accomplish anything serious.
If you care too much about being praised, you won't get anything serious in the end.
...
Let the judgments of others be the consequence of your deeds, not their purpose."
Let other people's judgments be the result of your actions, not their purpose

Source: A Calendar of Wisdom

​Praise from others should not be the motive for your actions, but simply the result of your actions.

People who express their personalities tend to care about what others think, and act according to others' praises and criticisms. This is the most stupid thing!

What do other people think, what's up with me?

I want to do it, figure it out, don't hurt anyone, it's good for the people around me, Don't doubt, just do it!

 ​II.
Writer, artist, and podcast host Debbie Millman on happiness:
Author, artist and podcast host Debbie Millman on happiness:

"You have to make your own happiness, wherever you are. Your job isn't going to make you happy, your spouse isn't going to make you happy, the weather isn't going to make you happy…
No matter where you are, you must create your own happiness. Your job won't make you happy, your spouse won't make you happy, the weather won't make you happy...

You have to decide what you want, and you have to find that way of doing it, whether or not the outside circumstances are going to participate in your success…
You have to decide what you want and you have to find a way to do it, whether or not the external environment will be involved in your success...

You have to be able to create your own happiness, period. And if you can't, then you need to find a good shrink who can help you figure out what it's going to take."
You have to be able to create your own happiness, period. If you can't, then you need to find a good psychiatrist to help you figure out what's needed.

Source: Is It Really Possible To Design Your Life ?

​I don’t know if you have this feeling: when you don’t know what you want, you always feel that most of it is not what you want!

What are we eating today? When you don't know what you want, you always feel that it's not good to eat this, and it's boring to eat that.

Once you have something to eat, things get easier.

1 Question For You

 How, specifically, do you want your life to be better at this time next year?
Be specific. How would you like your life to be better at this time next year?

Since the beginning of the year, the whole economic situation has been getting worse and worse, the currency circle has collapsed, the stock market has collapsed, and even the mood has been affected to some extent. At this time next year, I hope that I have a clear purpose in my life, clear guidelines for investing, and stable returns on asset allocation. It would be even better if you could go abroad at this time next year when you are not troubled by the epidemic!!