This is a letter officially saying goodbye to the 29-year-old

Looking back

I still remember that the 28-year-old was the most violent year in my life. I was out of control, helpless, and angry. I couldn’t learn how to control my emotions in my native family, let alone organize my emotions first and then communicate with each other rationally. A lot of effort has been put into expressing and communicating, especially for family members, it is necessary to pay more attention to the flow of emotions. A slight imbalance will set off a huge wave, and no one under the same roof will be spared, and it will not benefit anyone, so I am more emotionally sensitive.

turning point

But fortunately, there are noble people who are willing to patiently teach me how to crawl and comb my emotions first and then communicate with each other. I will also share this method with you here: if possible, first find a trusted and mature person, and put what you want to say. Write it down on paper, and then discuss with the "friend" which are emotional words and which are the key points to solve the problem. Then you can use the sandwich method. Write good words in the first paragraph to relieve the other party's defense, and then cut into the second paragraph. Focus on expressing more rational content such as what you want the other party to adjust and where you can cooperate. The last paragraph can express your emotions, such as what the other party said made you sad, angry, wronged, etc. Before speaking to the other party, you may have to go back and forth with your friends to revise it several times, but this process is very worthwhile, because the final result is a consensus reached by everyone, and the other party will be more willing to keep their promises.

back to the present

After some rectification in the past two years, I have officially become version 2.0 of myself, and I have found that my strengths are better at writing than speaking, and as long as I write positive articles, many substantial feedbacks, such as Prizes, medals, bonuses, etc. Everyone likes my words, but I also like to create, so I am more willing to work in this area. The expectation for the 30-year-old is to become a more gentle person. Only those who are firm enough in the heart know the power of gentleness. On the other hand, I also hope that I can become a person with principles. I am anxious when I know who I am. If I catch a central theme, what is the principle I want to tell everyone, I am such a person, and you won’t be so anxious when you catch it.” At the age of 29, it is really more than before. I know my own likes and dislikes. I am not as confused as I was in my early 20s. I have to ask others before making a decision. I am often hesitant, and I am afraid that I will regret making a wrong decision. Now I have the courage to be responsible for my own decision, so no matter the outcome is good I can bear the bad. This is the only way to grow. I hope that in the future, I can live a colorful life and live a confident look☺️