[Movie Experience] Love's Past Progressive / To the Boy I've Loved Before S1-3: No one is born knowing how to love

(There is a thunderbolt in the text! There is a thunderbolt in the text! There is a thunderbolt in the text! It is very important, so I will say it three times!)

1. Love is useless only if fantasy is useless and there is a chance to speak it out

Lara is a Korean-American female high school student who is not popular in school, but she is as eager for love as any other girl, and she is introverted and never conveys her intentions. Having liked 5 boys, she could only express her emotions by writing love letters that could not be sent at home alone.

Unfortunately, those letters were sent by her sister. In order to hide her emotions from Josh, who was also the recipient and her sister's ex-boyfriend, Lara had to go with another recipient—the boy she once loved and wanted to make her ex-boyfriend. Peter, whose girlfriend was jealous and changed his mind, started a fake relationship, but they fell in love with each other over time, and finally the fake drama was real.

2. Encountering the right love can help each other grow

In the process of falling in love for a long time, Peter couldn't let go of his nostalgia for his ex-girlfriend, and at the same time he couldn't stop his love for Lara, but Lara enlightened him, who resented his father and reorganized the family, "We can love a person and hate him at the same time. ." Peter was finally willing to face up to his feelings for his father, and finally knew who he really liked.

And Lara dare not face true love, she only wants to hide in the room to write letters and fantasizes. In fact, she was affected by the death of her mother and did not want to experience the pain of parting, so she did not dare to face love, but helped Peter grow up In fact, because Peter is growing up, she is willing to face love, and her campus life has become clearer.

3. There may be good intentions behind misunderstandings and deceptions

Worrying that her sister would be angry because she wrote a love letter to her ex-boyfriend, she had to play fake with others. Lara didn't really want to deceive her sister. She loved her sister, so she never took the initiative to confess to Josh. She was afraid of her sister. Angry, afraid that her sister will leave her, and after losing her mother, she is afraid that she will lose another important person.

My sister also sent the letter because she loved Lara. She knew how much her sister longed for love, but she didn't have the courage to say it.

In the film, there is no vigorous cross-knife win over love, no serious family revolution, teenagers grow up in love with each other and get out of the shadow of the family, and the three sisters also value each other by solving misunderstandings.

4. It takes learning to love someone wholeheartedly

The first part talks about the confusion of many teenagers in pursuit of love, and how to grow up in an imperfect family relationship. Part 2 is all about love.

The male and female protagonists encountered some interruptions from third parties and fourth parties in the second part, so they were shaken in love and almost lost each other due to a momentary error in judgment.

"Sometimes you kiss the wrong person to find out who you love the most."

Although most people think that wandering in love is a scumbag/scumbag, not everyone understands love from birth, and maybe it takes some collisions to know how to love someone and who is the most important person to them, right? I quite agree with a teacher I met in high school who shared with the classmates, that "it is possible for a person to like many people at the same time, and there will be inner struggles to choose who to like", but once an intimate relationship is established, it is necessary to Learn to take responsibility for the relationship and learn to love the person in front of you with all your heart.

Five, understanding each other can go a long time

The hero and heroine of the third part are facing the problem of graduating from high school and about to run away from each other.

The male lead was recommended to Stanford University because of his sports expertise. The two were afraid that a long-distance relationship would lead to a breakup, so the female lead decided to apply for the same university, but the female lead never thought, "Do you want to go to Stanford?" She only thought about being with her lover, not her own life plan.

It was not until the application for Stanford University was approved and the heroine visited other universities in person that the heroine knew that she really wanted to go to New York University, so she was trapped in the multiple choice question of love vs. dream.

Although at first the male protagonist could not understand that the female protagonist wanted to go to other schools, the female protagonist was also hesitant, but after the two of them sorted out their moods and understood each other's considerations, the male protagonist no longer restricted the female protagonist's life planning and let go Let her pursue her dreams; the heroine is also bravely chasing her dreams, believing that the sincerity of each other will not let the distance become a stumbling block on the road of love. The relationship between the two did not end because of different life plans, but became stronger because of this event.

The person who truly loves you will not let you sacrifice completely for him, but will let you be what you want to be.

Lovers must respect and understand each other. They should not unilaterally ask the other party to sacrifice completely for themselves, and they must not lose themselves in their relationship. Only then can they truly love each other, and it is a relationship that is healthy and beneficial to each other.

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