Sweet Wild Boy Ding Zhen is the spiritual redemption of this country that lacks love

After Ding Zhen, known as the "Sweet Wild Boy", became an internet celebrity, I joked with my Tibetan friends: Those fans are really rare and strange. There are many more handsome guys in Tibet than Ding Zhen. I know a lot of them, only But I've kept it a secret.

My friends laughed, they didn't ask me why I kept it a secret.

The reason for not saying it is: I know how much the Chinese (Han people) lack love, and how eager they are to find a true love without utilitarianism and pure as a smile in this utilitarian society.

A few years ago, I swam along the so-called National Highway 318, taking the northern route when I went, and the southern route when I came back. Along the way, I met many Chinese tourists. They chatted with each other about the reasons for going to Lhasa. Many of them went to the holy city with emotional pain. Many people were surprised to learn that I was visiting purely for sightseeing. At that time, I learned that there are so many crazy men and women on 318.

When I traveled all the way to a national park in Nepal, I met a dozen or so tourists from China in an inn. Most of them were young people in their 20s and 30s, most of them were girls, and several of them were traveling alone like me. Next, everyone will naturally play together, because many excursions require groups.

On the night before we left, the inn held a small party, and everyone sang and danced together. Chinese people are more shy, and most of the time they watch Nepalese sing and dance. I watched it for a while and then went home to sleep. When I woke up the next morning, the expressions of several female tourists were a little weird. Later, after a private chat, we realized that the innkeeper actually took the opportunity to confess to all of them one by one. In order to avoid more embarrassment for everyone, I didn't tell the beauties that the boss had also confessed to me, a half-old man.

In addition to laughing, a well-informed girl told everyone. The boss is so strange because a tour guide in the shop used to fall in love with a Chinese girl who came to play here. Although the relationship ended without a problem not long after the girl returned to China, it left the locals with a lack of love for Chinese girls. , the impression of being easily hooked.

God, that's Nepal. Although Chinese women may not be discriminated against less than Nepalese women in other respects, at least we won't be kicked out of the house and driven out of the village during menstruation, frozen to death in a small shed in the wild, or frozen to death. Bitten by a poisonous snake. Chinese women who go there to find true love must have suffered a lot of grievances at home.

The lack of love in China is not difficult to understand. Since the reform and opening up, more young people have received better education and new concepts that are completely different from those of their parents. The younger generation of women generally has a stronger sense of feminism, while the previous generation and many men of their age still expect them to be good wives and mothers. Under such a gap in concept and cognition, it is not easy for some women to find a male partner who is more aware of gender equality and has a deep connection with them; It's just as hard -- given the sexist-selective abortions and resulting imbalances in the sex ratio, it's probably even harder for men to find true love.

After that 318 trip, a lot has changed in China: the anti-birth control faction's online and offline activities have become more rampant, and in order to achieve their goals, they have published all kinds of discrimination and demonization of only children, women, especially older unmarried women. Now they are hyping up the so-called "aging" crisis and discriminating against the elderly. Apart from themselves, the various groups that make up China's population of 1.4 billion have been discriminated against by anti-birth control groups.

Under the soft knives and hard knives of the voluntary forced marriage committee and forced birth committee, more and more unmarried women choose to rush with a man who does not like it very much but has better economic conditions in order to get rid of the gossip of the seven aunts and eight uncles. marry. This kind of love-deficient marriage is often highly utilitarian, and it quickly exposed its hidden dangers: In recent years, the divorce rate in China has been rising steadily.

An article on Phoenix.com, " China's Divorce Rate Is as High as 38%? Talking about the Marriage Rate and Divorce Rate with Data " explores the true meaning of the divorce rate, pointing out that "the divorce rate in China is as high as 38%" is a misunderstanding, and that the resulting panic is misled by the "divorce-marriage ratio". In the screenshot of a suspected Weibo posted in the article, it can be seen that the blogger deliberately picked up the only child group to hang and beat it, indicating that this panic is probably the result of malicious speculation by the anti-birth control group.

However, at the end of that article, the author still had to admit that "China's (actual divorce rate) is around 3‰, which is indeed an increase compared to the past." The reason for this phenomenon is "the side effect of economic and social pressure on the willingness to marry". Combined with the previous screenshot of the suspected Weibo account of beating the only child, it is self-evident where the "pressure" comes from.

An article in People’s Daily on Sina Online, “ People’s Daily: Young People Married Late for 15 Years, Divorce Rate Rising ” also used data to show that in the 37 years from 1987 to 2017, China’s divorce rate rose from “0.55‰ to 3.2‰. ‰”, the number of divorces in the same period increased from 581,000 to 437.4, an increase of 6.53 times. In the survey of "Why do young people get married late" initiated by People's Daily Online, the proportion of "not meeting the right person" is the highest, as high as 29.5%. This data shows that the number of young people in China lacks love. crowd.

Not only unmarried young people lack love, but married people also lack love.

An article on Sohu.com, " China's Divorce Rate Rising Year by Year, What Happened? ” pointed out that loveless marriage is one of the main reasons for the soaring divorce rate in China :

The widening gap between the rich and the poor in society has led to many marriages that have no emotional foundation . Some women get married mainly based on the material wealth of the man. They don't care whether they love or not, as long as "the conditions are good". On the other hand, it doesn't matter if a man thinks that the woman's temperament is suitable for him or not, as long as he looks beautiful. When the material conditions are met, those women will feel that men have more shortcomings in all aspects except for being rich. When men want to pursue sincere love, and men want to pursue younger men of the opposite sex, their marriages will come to an end.

In a Reuters report " China's Divorce Rate Soars, Younger Generations Question Marriage ", the Nut Brothers said when they talked about a flash marriage and flash divorce performance art they planned:

Many friends around me were also forced to get married, and I saw many people get married for the sake of getting married. Marriage has undertaken what it should not undertake. Marriage and sex, property, social stability, and many other things are packaged together.

Young people who lack love are forced to marry, which leads to utilitarian marriages that lack love, and utilitarian marriages that lack love lead to soaring divorce rates. It's that simple.

Next, the article further analyzes and points out:

China's social security system is not yet perfect, and society traditionally expects the younger generation to support the older generation. In this context, when young people are under pressure to marry and have children , material possessions often take precedence over mutual understanding. …From 2011 to 2014, the number of divorces in China increased by 27%, in part because some people believe that marriages that appear romantic but lack true love cannot be maintained.

Behind the high rates of loveless marriages and divorces, the obligatory marriage commissions and forced birth commissions, instigated by anti-birth control propaganda, are looming.

Against the background that Chinese people generally lack love regardless of whether they are married or unmarried, it is inevitable that Ding Zhen, an ordinary Tibetan youth from a cow herd, will become popular because of his innocence.

An article on Tencent Online, " Miss Man Tianxing confessed to the new Internet celebrity Ding Zhen, just wanted to be a "nympho" quietly, and complained about his injustice " wrote:

It's no surprise that Ding Zhen became popular. He's used to watching greasy niches. I believe that after a boy with innocent eyes appears in the camera, anyone will want to take a second look.

Then the ladies and sisters chased after Litang and waited in line to take pictures with Ding Zhen. "The more people gathered, the more and more people gathered, and the half-hour group photo time was dragged to two hours."

Seeing that the girls are all nympho Ding Zhen, it is said that the most unbalanced psychologically is the male quiz writers. To this end, the China Youth Daily wrote an article " Why do you want to spread the grievances of "asking writers" on Ding Zhen? ”, in fact, that article expressed considerable sympathy for the situation of the male inscription writers, but it still attracted the siege of the inscription writers. Several pink inscription writers even dug up the author of the China Youth Daily article from Taiwan. After graduating from university, this matter has risen to the height of insulting China.

As a matter of fact, the questioners who are venting their anger at Ding Zhen or the China Youth Daily are completely looking for the wrong target - they should be venting their anger at the huge population and distorted education system. As some people have said, Ding Zhen attracts female fans because he has a pair of "clear eyes that have not been destroyed by nine years of compulsory education". This kind of brainwashing education not only kills the nature of children, but also castrates them into a group of "love incompetence".

The huge population and the lack of opportunities have made the competition among the inscribers for the dream of "becoming a farmer in the morning and ascending to the heaven in the evening" into a battle that has no gunpowder but tends to become white-hot. war. Just like all the survivors who were destroyed by the brutal war, the survivors of this "war" will inevitably have mottled scars in their hearts. As for Ding Zhen's innocence, he was already doing the innocence when he stepped into the "battlefield". already dead.

Tibetans who generally believe in Buddhism and are kind-hearted are just the opposite of the writers: they may not have any education, but because they have compassion for all living beings, sympathize with the weak, respect life, and are optimistic by nature, many There is a natural nobility in Tibetans. The Qinghai-Tibet Plateau lacks oxygen but not lacks love.

For this woman who lacks love for the country, Ding Zhen may be an existence similar to spiritual redemption. In fact, Dante can't save anyone, not only that, he might lose his original innocence in this lucrative field.

Therefore, although I have seen many Tibetan boys who are more handsome and purer than Ding Zhen, I have always just admired them quietly and never made any public noises. The Last Paradise has become The Lost Paradise, how long can those innocent eyes last?