About private videos | What causes the frequent occurrence of sexual violence in private videos?

"I'm concerned about sexual violence in private videos." Why am I writing this on IG BIO?

After being deleted many IGs, there has been no redistribution of articles about private images. Recently, many students contacted me for interviews, which also made me think again and again about how private filming at the age of 18 affected me.

 "Private photography" originally refers to private photography, that is, in a broad sense, all privately agreed shooting activities can be called "private photography".

However, in the context of Hong Kong, private pictures are not just private pictures, but have a narrower meaning. For details, please refer to the Hong Kong Internet Ceremony - Private Pictures .

Before continuing, let's take a look at the sentence in this picture "forming a vicious circle" - "The girl knows that the picture taken will become the plane picture of Longyou, even at the cost of sex, she has to embark on this road, But he is completely blind to the degradation of his own character.”

When I saw this, I couldn't help laughing. Blame the victim's remarks are really everywhere (laughs)
Translate the rice cake: "You know that you are an attractive fruit as a young girl, and you still shoot it. If something goes wrong, you deserve it."

Do you understand what this means? XD

 People are always in a hurry when it comes to issues related to sex, and hearing about sexual assault in private videos always puts the blame on naked women: if you're not so sexy, how could the other party be like this?

Is this really the case? Are you thinking, I'm going to say that men are wrong again XD
: It's not just like that!!!

There are so many incidents of sexual violence in private films, why?

Because private images are "desire", the desire for beauty, the desire for eroticism. For the former, we can speak loudly and keep shooting with the banner of pursuing beauty, but no one dares to say or admit the latter. Why?

What is the most attractive thing about the private film? A real, living woman—clothed or not, a living woman rubbing hands in front of you, smiling at you, showing sexual attraction. Have you ever wondered why women are so attractive in the context of private photography?

 Is it because girls are attracted, or are we taught to feel girls are attracted?

Before discussing who is right and who is wrong, we should discuss what causes the frequent occurrence of sexual violence in private videos.

1. Society teaches us to watch women's bodies, but it only teaches us to watch women's breasts, waists, and hips.

Where did we learn how to look at the female body? When wearing a skirt when I was a child - "Girls don't spread their legs, they will be seen by others." When they grow up, the entertainment version always uses "a certain actress disappears, suspected of showing nipples, pubic hair" as a gimmick, chasing after the actress disappears. appearance. All kinds of breast enhancement and slimming advertisements also focus on women's breasts, waists, and hips, making people always pay attention to women's bodies.

 Society never taught us how to appreciate the male body, or just to see abs. Regardless of gender, there always seems to be only one standard for what is worth looking at. Women should have breasts, waist and hips, and men should have abs with mermaid lines. No one taught us how to appreciate other body parts or lines.

But it is difficult for us to see the complete female body. The only way is probably AV/Porn. However, these ways are too far away from us to feel the sense of reality at all, so people are more and more curious about "real" women.

We can't say we're curious. Because society does not allow it, society has certain norms for sex (refer to the following figure "Sex Hierarchy: Inner Circle and Outer Circle"), some sex is considered "good", and some are not.

We can't say it, but we know that we can't say that we are curious about other people's nudity, so people have to use other excuses to package our sexual/physical curiosity, such as the pursuit of beauty, such as wanting to photograph female lines, such as wanting to photograph pseudo-sexual Image (laughs)

Therefore, the girls who are privately photographed become the body of desire.

2. Only deal with visual violence without acknowledging visual pleasure

With the popularization of photography technology, the threshold for shooting has become lower and lower, and there have been many “image-based violence”, such as deliberately shooting models in private photos, leaking or publishing private photos without consent, street photography, and recording sexual images, both consensually or unacceptably. Sexual images that are outflowed, grafted, etc. I don't need to list all these video-based violence, everyone can say it.

In the face of these video-based sexual violence, especially the situation of "agreeing to shoot sexy/sexy images and then being dumped", most people adopt the attitude of "if you don't shoot, you'll be fine", which is always the saying of Blame the victim. To put it to the extreme, in the face of outflow, is it really useful to tell people to "don't watch, don't like, and don't retweet"? It can be done without Like or retweet, but it is also possible to see it without telling others, right? Do you dare to say that you have never seen an outflow video? Or is it a bit of a fluke mentality, just read it and not talk about it?

So why has it been so difficult to deal with video-based violence?

Because we have been afraid to admit that this generation needs visual pleasure. The sexual attraction in sexy images, the fascinated sense of screen manipulation when taking a shot, the ambiguous and ambiguous provocation in front of the camera, these are all sexual pleasures produced by the images.

So it's hard for us to resist all the sexually charged images that come to us, even though we know in our hearts that the source isn't what we should be watching, but without a "legitimate" way, we still watch it.

 Can you see these images? Really can't.
If there is a legal way, such as someone setting up Onlyfans to display sexual images of themselves and their partners, images that are desirably shot and desirably made public can be viewed. These images are just as real, and a way of acknowledging the sexual pleasure of images.

When we refuse to admit image-sex pleasure, we only block the most visible "source"—those who agree to take images. "Isn't it supposed to be a private film?", "Isn't it better if I didn't shoot it in the first place?", but in the end, why can't it be filmed?

I am the one being filmed, and I admit that I just love being watched, filmed, recorded, but I have not consented to any form of sexual violence.

I understand that photographers have their own motives, perhaps to see female bodies, perhaps to pursue beauty, or to satisfy personal desires.

But the job content of the private film is to shoot, and it does not include any form of sexual violence.

You go to see an office assistant, there is no reason to ask you to provide sexual services after you join, right? Why do the photographers use the packaging of private photos to infringe on the person being photographed, but people naturally accuse the girls of the private photos?

3. Powerful seduction

Before discussing the power seduction implicit in private images, we need to understand what makes a power difference. In addition to the difference in position, gender, knowledge, age, social experience, etc. will directly cause differences in power.

Age or social experience seem to be easier to understand, so where does gender create power differences? For example, society generally expects men to be more active in all aspects and to take the lead in sexual matters, while women are taught to take into account the overall situation and to be reserved in sexual matters. From these small clips, it can be seen that different genders have proficiency in controlling power. difference.

 So what is power seduction?
It refers to the behavior that when the two parties have a relationship of power, the perpetrator uses his age, power, and caring status to make the victim have sex with him, and the victim is forced to obey because he is under his power.

Here is a quote from the Taiwan Lixin Foundation :

Power sex is in the case of "seemingly agreeable", and there is actually a power relationship operating, causing the victim to be oppressed by this power, such as "fear of power", "fear of damage to interests", "worry of power's retaliation" and so on. Have sex with the offender. Because it appears to be consensual, but the victim is unable to express opposition or refusal at the moment, this does not mean consent to sexual intercourse.

In the context of private photography, especially one-on-one indoor shooting, whether the photographer pays the model or not, the photographer (photographer) has more power.

Imagine that you are taking a group photo of a group of people in the mirror. Is it up to you to direct "everyone to the middle" and "so-and-so to the left"? The presentation of the picture is known only to the person in charge of the camera, and the "power of manipulation" only falls in the hands of the photographer.

In the context of private photography, it is not difficult to hear that most of them are males about 30-50 years old and have social experience shooting girls about 15-24 years old. The photographer uses his powerful identity and experience to make good use of it. Society uses women's sexual shame as a weapon, making models subtly feel that it is their own fault, and then pushes forward and induces models to "unable to refuse" sexual contact or sexual harassment (see related article: "Coping in Private Photo Sites" ).

Are these powerful photographers really unaware that they have greater power? Can you really say "Why don't you know Say No" to a victim?

4. The ethos of rendering falsehoods

When people mention private photos, they say that they are very lofty and will only treat models politely. Second, they say that many people touch their hands and feet during private photos. Third, they say that I don’t have private photos.

I heard a new girl ask, "Are there really so many unscrupulous photos of private photos?"

not like this. You are not responsible for anyone's sexuality, you are not obligated to be touched, and not so many "other girls" agree to be touched. Everything is based on falsehoods, but some people deliberately use sexual repression and sexual humiliation to seduce models with weaker powers.

"Private photography is photography." There should be no physical contact of any kind between the photographer and the person being photographed, nor should there be any sexual compliments.

This is how we should all respond to every fear or question, that no one deserves any form of sexual violence.

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In fact, photographers can admit that private photos are just packaging, the purpose is to see women's bodies, but no one will do this, because society has always taught us that sex is taboo and should be suppressed.

So people find new ways to try to circumvent the social restrictions of sexual repression, package them with filming, and then let "private images" turn into gray areas. The models in the middle cannot shout, but once they shout, they will only be denied and no one will understand. Then more and more "photographers" follow the "banner of pursuit of beauty" and try to deceive more people.

 I think "sexual violence stems from sexual repression".

If our society is more liberating about sex, will it reduce the chances of people using "sex" as a weapon (shame)?

Talking about how society's overall attitude towards sexual repression affects the behavior of photographers in the private film circle, is it not wrong to say that the photographers who inflict sexual violence are not wrong?

of course not. They are criminals.

It's just that I personally try to understand the context and causes of private shadow sexual violence from the situation of social repression, which does not mean that they are not wrong.

May all sinners die. (laugh)