Run to Shenzhen follow-up

After returning from Latin America, I stayed in Shanghai for about a month after the quarantine ended, and I moved again, this time to Shenzhen.

I have never lived in Beijing, Shanghai, Guangzhou and Shenzhen, except for Guangzhou, and I have almost completed the first-tier cities. However, although I arrived in Shenzhen less than a week ago, it made me fall into a huge sweetness. The amount of information and experience in the past few days is now Intertwined in my mind, madness hit me.

I think back when I moved from Beijing to Shanghai, I didn't have the mentality and state at the moment, but now this feeling is like a sudden inadvertent crush, just one glance makes people intoxicated, as if falling in love.

Beijing and Shanghai, as far as I am concerned, have given me a moment of admiration and envy, but unfortunately, I have never been able to find the so-called "sense of belonging" from them. Imprinted on myself, I tried to integrate, but I found that no matter what, I couldn't integrate freely.

The moment I stepped into Shenzhen, I felt like a burst of vitality and energy was injected into my body, holding me up high. If I imagine my relationship with Beishang as a love affair, then I am full of gratitude to these two exes, because they have left me with a lot of good memories and experiences when they got along with each other. You know it's not destined to last forever.

Because you will eventually face problems that are difficult to integrate, temperament, personality, culture, eating habits, etc. all determine the degree of compatibility between you. You walk together and say goodbye, and occasionally think of the old days together. But if you ask if you want to reunite and go back to the past? The answer must be an unquestionable "no".

Although I have traveled to Shenzhen several times, when I decided to live here, I was in a completely different mood.

I like the ocean. When I can decide my travel destination, almost all the tourist cities I choose to go to have marine elements, from Pattaya, Phuket, PP Island, Boracay, all the way to Alexandria, Egypt, Mediterranean Sea, Kamakura in Tokyo, Panama City, Lima, Hainan, Shenzhen…

Whether diving or surfing on the ocean, or hanging on the mast of a sailboat and floating in the middle of the ocean, or being dragged by a yacht dozens of meters above the ocean with a parachute on your back, you can enjoy the speed and passion while enjoying the panoramic ocean views. Going up to the ground, riding the wind and sailing, I have almost experienced all the sports that interact with the sea. The ocean element is like an inexplicable belief planted in my heart.

Whether it is calm or rough waves, as long as I stand by the sea, my state of mind will become extremely broad and stretched.

For a person who loves freedom, is keen on adventure, and is constantly exploring, I always think that my heart belongs to marine civilization, not agricultural civilization.

Farming civilization tends to be stable, conservative, and moderate, but what marine civilization faces is precisely fluidity and uncertainty, which also determines its diversity, openness, self, and adventurous personality.

When marine civilization expands and explores, it constantly experiences collisions with other civilizations. The coexistence of multiple cultures makes each culture aware of the existence of competition at any time. In order to gain an advantage in the competition, it must try to develop continuously and survive by development. Diversity promotes competition, and competition promotes development.

The diversity of marine civilization lies precisely in the tolerance of individuals to develop their own individuality and creativity.

The ocean will cultivate and inspire people's innovative and enterprising spirit, especially after the advent of the Age of Navigation, the beginning of the European Renaissance, and the Greek gods with human nature. They got rid of the traditional image of "high and big" and lost their supreme authority, but like people, they have various shortcomings and retain their own unique personality.

Although Shenzhen cannot be regarded as a strict marine civilization, the temperament and characteristics of Shenzhen are closely linked with some characteristics of marine civilization.

Some people say that Shenzhen has no cultural heritage. Because it is very new and young, it is naturally destined that it does not have a long traditional history like Beishangguang.

But I feel that it is precisely because it has no culture, so it can be all-encompassing, and accommodate different cultures from all over the world with an inclusive attitude, and this is also destined to be full of infinite vitality and endless possibilities.

Every new Shenzhen person who sets foot on this land will think that he can have infinite possibilities here, and will not feel out of place or even feel small.

(2)

I remember the moment I stepped out of Shenzhen Airport, it was not the unpleasant smell of alcohol disinfectant that greeted my olfactory senses, but a pleasant aroma drifted into the bottom of my nose. I thought it would take a lot of time to do nucleic acid out of the airport. Unexpectedly, I didn’t even have the link of queuing. I scanned the code, wiped my mouth, took my luggage, and went out. At that moment, I was amazed by Shenzhen’s efficiency, and my favorability was improved by several steps.

After leaving the station, a friend unexpectedly appeared, holding half a hot Cantonese roast goose in his hand and waiting for me at the exit. Immediately, surprise, surprise, and emotion came to my mind. Then he took me to the white stool next to him, exhausted and exhausted. Hungry, I sat down and took the roast goose and stuffed it into my mouth.

If I were at the airport in Shanghai, it would be absolutely impossible to have such behavior, but I don’t know why, when I stepped into Shenzhen, the shackles of my brain seemed to be opened. I naturally acquiesce that this place can accommodate a large number of diverse cultures. And things, because it is an immigrant city, it is open, advanced, inclusive and diverse.

It was almost midnight when I arrived at my residence, but the landlord and the agent were waiting for me without any complaints on their faces. The landlord’s sister, in sportswear, hot pants and sneakers, took me patiently to introduce the situation of the house, and taught me about the situation. How I use the house's equipment, I also left a Dyson vacuum cleaner from the house for me.

She and her husband cleaned the bathroom inside and out, and told me that I wanted to paint the walls, but the painter is not there these days, so the walls are a little dark, I hope I don't mind.

As for my agent, he patiently confirmed the contract with the landlord and me, and then when I asked about the microwave, he said to me, "Don't worry, I'll get you one tomorrow."

Afterwards, I took out the mosquito repellent from the bag and stuffed it into my hand, saying, "Take it, you can spray some in case there are more mosquitoes."

Before leaving, the agent asked me, "Have you brought your umbrella?" I said it was all packed, and he immediately said to me, "I'll get you an umbrella in the car, wait for me to get off."

Five minutes later, he put the umbrella into my hand and said to me, "If you are not hungry, I can take you around. There is a lot of food here. It is not easy for you to come here."

It was the first night I arrived in Shenzhen, and all the experiences were so good that I couldn't believe it, and I was even moved to cry.

The next day, the intermediary came to help me with the broadband. I remember that when I opened the door, I saw him holding two bottles of iced Nescafé coffee. He said to me with a warm smile on his face:

"Don't you have anything to drink at home? I bought two bottles of coffee, and I also brought you scissors. You can't take it apart by express delivery."

Then he took me downstairs to do nucleic acid. When the time was up, he took me around the neighborhood, let me get acquainted with the surroundings, and asked me what I wanted to eat.

I said, "I've always heard from friends about Shenzhen's pork trotters."

He immediately replied straightforwardly, "Okay, I'll take you to try Shenzhen's pork knuckle rice!"

When I sat down to eat, I ordered pork trotters with large intestines, he ordered char siu with pig trotters, and said to me: "I haven't eaten this meal yet, I'll give you a few pieces of char siew for you to try." Pieces of char siew were placed in my bowl, and my pork knuckles were made into three.

The enthusiasm of Shenzhen people made me even more fond of this city, and a kind of warmth lingered in my heart for a long time.

(3)

In fact, it's not just the friendly and warm Shenzhen people who impress me, even small characters have their own life stories.

And every story and experience made me emotional, maybe not in Shenzhen, it is hard for me to hear these real stories.

In the evening, the landlord was worried that I didn't have any sheets, so he specially sent me a fitted sheet, and the broker just finished his job and asked me if I wanted to have a BBQ nearby. , just went downstairs wearing flip-flops.

When I was making a string, I chatted with my little brother, and my natural curiosity about people made me subconsciously turn on the "question mode", and he also sincerely shared many of his life stories and thoughts.

He has been an intermediary for almost 10 years. The most brilliant stage was from 2013 to 2015. At that time, his most brilliant income record for a month as an intermediary in Luohu, Shenzhen was 370,000, while the average salary in the intermediary industry at that time was 100,000. Above, he bought a house in Futian for more than 1.2 million yuan, and his credit card limit has reached millions.

He took a sip of wine and said to me with a smile:

"You have to know that banks are very powerful. As long as it determines that you are rich, you can get a very high limit. At that time, my credit card limit was hundreds of thousands. I went to some banks to cancel the credit card at that time, and the staff Asked me the reason, I said, "What do I want it for with this amount?" They immediately activated the premium service for me and helped me change my card.

At that time, when we took clients to see luxury houses, we all needed packaging, because Shenzhen luxury houses were not allowed after 6 o'clock, so at this time we had to drive Land Rover, BMW and other cars, dressed like dogs, and pretended to be the owner. Drive in, and we also need to prepare Chinese soft cigarettes and stuff them into the doorman. Whether the doorman smokes or not, it can be sold at a nearby tobacco shop. These are unspoken rules of the industry. "

Recalling the glory of the past, the corners of his mouth smiled unconsciously.

"At that time, making money was so fast that it didn't count as money anymore, and it quickly floated away. When we went out to eat, we all started at one or two thousand per capita, and singing K was also several thousand or tens of thousands. You know we have played before. what?"

I looked at him earnestly, shaking my head like a rattle.

He shook his shoulders and smiled and said to me: "At that time, one of our brothers missed the opportunity to make money, so each of the other three people put 30,000 yuan into a common card. This is our common consumption money, where does it go? Just brush."

When I heard this, my eyes widened.

"Gradually, these consumptions can no longer satisfy our desires, because you have experienced many advanced experiences that you can buy with money, and the excitement will soon disappear. Later, there was a rich second generation driving a BMW 740 belt. took us to the Macau casino.

On my first day, I almost won a million. At that time, you thought that it was so easy to make money, and you could make so much money all at once by gambling, so why do you still work part-time? But soon enough, we started to lose, and we kept losing. The rich second generation lost more than 20 million, and finally lost the family factory.

As for me, the more I gambled, the more I lost, the more jealous I became. I also got involved in gambling, and even started to take out online loans, borrowing money to block the block. In the end, I sold the house in Futian for 2.6 million. As a result, the house has now risen to more than 800. My wife also divorced me. At that time, half of my hair turned white overnight.

My parents felt that if I continued like this, I would be useless, and they asked me to go to the water meter factory to screw the screws for a full year, that is, that year, they put me in a state of being unwilling to work steadily since I was a small money. , completely pulled back. "

As he spoke, his eyes gradually became lonely and dim.

While I listened quietly, I thought about it and said to him, "But anyway, you have passed this level, at least now, you quit gambling and won, and you start from scratch. If you don't have these experiences, maybe in the future. Even bigger mistakes will be made. Here, toast to you."

His dim eyes flickered again, and he raised his glass and touched me, "Yes, it's always a good thing to survive."

" Actually, the choice of industry is sometimes very important, because you never know what the future of this industry will be like. Some people rushed into the industry when they saw that the industry was hot. As a result, the industry disappeared in a few years, and some people entered the industry in a daze. , I didn't expect this industry to take off. Things are impermanent, and I just caught up with the dividends of that wave of times.

In the year I was in the factory, I found that many people really didn’t have much ideas, and it was too important to be in the circle. It's like two IT girls came here to see a house before, and they placed an order that night, because they found that there are young people everywhere, and the business is prosperous. They came here as if they were 5 years younger, and the community before them was old The transformation is very serious, only the square dance and the elderly are walking, they naturally can't feel the vitality.

Therefore, it is very important to mix circles. Shenzhen is definitely not a bad opportunity. As long as you open your mind, you can always find an industry that can make you money. Do you know why I despise people like "Sanhe Great God" who work one day and take two days off? Obviously you have hands and feet, is it difficult to find a job seriously? It's really not difficult to find a job in Shenzhen with a salary of 5,000 a month. If you accumulate it well, you will eventually be able to save some savings. When the Sanhe Great God finally wastes his life, isn't it? "

Looking at his state and mentality, I was actually happy for him from the bottom of my heart. He chatted with me a lot, and sometimes even blurted out some golden sentences that I remembered for a long time.

Maybe he did not have a better education, maybe he stepped into the society very early and was exposed to complex social rules and sophistication, but his life experience and some ideas also gave me a lot of inspiration.

Another time, I called DiDi. The driver is from Northeast China. After I got in the car, I couldn't help but start chatting with me about my experience:

"I run an online car-hailing service for 500 to 600 yuan a day, 16,700 yuan a month, and 10 hours a day. It's impossible to do it in my hometown. I can get more than 10,000 yuan for food delivery in Shenzhen, as long as you are willing to do it. , don't talk shit, don't be a big fool. You have to have a good mentality to run this thing, and you have a good mentality for a few decades.

I used to open a beauty salon and a barbecue restaurant in my hometown. As a result of the epidemic, I lost millions of dollars in business. I originally wanted to deliver food, but I was exhausted by climbing the stairs. , oil, water, etc., if you can't do it, I might as well rent a car and drive a Didi. Sometimes, you have to figure out what business you do. "

At that time, I was actually a little shocked when I heard it, and asked: "Did you lose a few million?"

The master was also very calm, and said, "Yes, my beauty salon has paid less than 3 million yuan, and the bathtubs are imported from Germany. What I do is cell activation. You girls have aging skin, don't you just turn grapes into raisins? I Turns your raisins into grapes.

Alas, when the epidemic came, I went bankrupt and divorced. Alas, things also happened. You don't need to be depressed. The past three years have really been a low point in my life, but at least compared to other people who have failed in business and jumped off the building, you are still alive and you are already very happy, so there is hope.

I still have the experience of doing business, and these are wealth. As long as you can earn the first two million, you can earn the second two million. If you ask Xu Jiayin to start another business, he will definitely be able to do it well. The cognition in the minds of these rich people is completely different from that of ordinary people. But when people are alive, money is only related to you. If people are gone, there will be a pile of waste paper. !

To be a boss, you must know how to make profits. My beauty salon at the time gave three store managers money, and I only took 30% and 70% to them. A small place in Liaoning can earn 20,000 to 30,000 yuan, you think. "

I listened to him recalling the past and sharing his thoughts and thoughts. Before I knew it, the car arrived. When I got out of the car, I said to him: "You will make a comeback, come on."

The elder brother smiled shyly at me and said, "It's a pleasure chatting with you, little sister, thank you for listening to me."

(4)

A friend of mine also left a message before and said, "Why are the people you meet willing to tell you so much?"

I thought, maybe this is really my great advantage—

Be curious about people of any identity and role, and give at least equality and respect to communicate and dialogue. Because I am willing to listen and listen to their stories from the bottom of my heart, and I always think that everyone's experience has something worth learning, no matter who they are, what level, I am curious about their experience, even if Ordinary people hope that their stories can have an audience.

I used to spend some money just to hear whether the characters who hide in the dark and are despised by society are really as hideous and ugly as I imagined, but I found that when I asked and listened carefully, I listened When I came to the experiences and stories that touched me, made me sigh and sigh, and even made me feel bad.

That experience was very touching and shocking to me. It also changed my evaluation system for some characters, and deepened my understanding and empathy for people. There is nothing like what happened around you. You saw it with your own eyes. What you hear with your own ears can shock you even more.

People are complex, not flat. Whether their social status is noble or, by definition, unbearable, there is always a part of them that makes you feel unbelievable.

In less than a week, I almost met two waves of people a day. Originally, I clearly didn’t like socializing, but the strange thing is that when I came to Shenzhen, it seemed that I had changed a personality, and I was very willing to meet people. Social, and so far every friend I have met in Shenzhen, I can give a very high rating, I admire and like them immensely, without any face-based failure.

No matter what class they are in, my strongest feeling is that these friends in Shenzhen have a good mentality, are magnanimous, sincere, and know how to understand and take care of others.

Of course, maybe I haven't encountered some nasty things, but my personality has always been optimistic, because I always believe in what kind of person I am, so I will also attract people with similar conditions. When these energies come together and nourish each other, more powerful possibilities emerge.

Shenzhen has adjusted my state very well. At this moment, I am indeed full of strength and drive. Although Shenzhen is fast-paced and everyone only knows how to make money, it is very tacky, but in fact, I don’t think it is as cold and unfriendly as it seems on the surface.

Making money has been magnified in Shenzhen, and has even become a city feature and symbol, but it is precisely this kind of naked talk about money that directly tore off the fig leaf of money, which makes Shenzhen's efficiency so fast.

However, Shenzhen is often accused of being so poor that she has only money and no culture because she is too young. As for this city, which has been criticized as "full of copper smell", will it strengthen people's utilitarian nature and weaken their humanistic attributes? I don't think so.

I have been to Shenzhen to participate in some offline activities of wealth, and I have seen the thoughts and perceptions shared by some financially free people, which can indeed crush most people, and these thoughts are precisely related to philosophical significance On the level, their understanding, insight, and spirituality of things amazed me. It felt like I was deeply moved by the author's wisdom when I was reading "Nengchuan King Kong". Similarly, their sharing also made me feel like bathing in the spring breeze. , I still have a deep memory and unforgettable memories.

The quality of Shenzhen citizens is not the highest in major cities across the country, but at least it is not low.

During the reform and opening up, Shenzhen was the first market-oriented city and the first city to develop entirely due to the market economy. In this city, there are not as many central enterprises as Beijing, not as many foreign companies as Shanghai, but only local private companies, large and small, and people from all over the world.

This immigrant city feels very similar to Canada. It is full of openness, freedom, fairness, competition, the spirit of contract and the sense of rules represented by a market culture, which is different from the power culture in the north.

This city does not worship heroes, but only pursues its own individuality. It is precisely this urban characteristic that can attract young people with ambitions, desires and dreams. Many people who come to Shenzhen are self-made. They are young and active, open and free, dare to think and act, creative, pursue efficiency, and dare to compete.

And this free trading market carries the great dreams of countless little people from all over the world, releasing the huge potential and power of each of them.

The cultural heritage of a city can be classical or trendy. In my eyes, Shenzhen's free market culture just represents marine culture.

Compared with farming culture, market culture teaches people to cooperate, negotiate, compromise and play games, rather than rule and obey, conquer and resist, close in or use violence to overcome violence. And this marine culture just forms the urban culture of Shenzhen—adventure and hard work.

In the end, I think that the reason why I like it so much, and even fall in love with it at first sight, is that its personality perfectly fits my character, and even releases my inner desire for freedom and adventure.

If you find the soil and environment that suits you, then you will be nourished. Similarly, if you find the interpersonal relationship that suits you, you will surely be nourished instead of internal friction.

I LOVE SHENZHEN ❤️

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