Every road has a view

A good friend, Xiao Yi, went to work in a well-known consumer goods company for people's livelihood. Since it has a long-standing reputation, he naturally has high expectations. He can be one of them, and he is happy every day. But not long after, I found that the Weibo she posted every day seemed exhausted and difficult. Every day she gave herself positive energy and encouraged herself. We talked many times, and she told me many stories to express her unaccustomedness and disapproval. At first, I took out my "positive energy" to encourage her: change herself, adapt to the environment, open up your mind, invest in a new environment, persevere and persevere, persevere, persevere and persevere.

This is what I have always agreed with. If you can't figure it out, you have to rush forward. Overcoming difficulties is the indicator of life progress, but things seem to be getting worse and worse. I thought about it carefully for a long time. She has no major problems, but there are many small problems. Most of these small problems are caused by different personalities or ways of thinking. They are just different, and there is no difference between good and bad. But many times, fate is not determined by good or bad, but by aura, just like two young people fall in love, they don't feel that they are not bad people, they are just inappropriate.

But most of the time, we don’t think so, and we feel that we are not strong enough. When making a decision, we are all careful. Once a decision is made, we must make the decision the right one, and we are unwilling to admit failure. I have received a lot of letters from netizens. Half of them talk about their current situation and ask what kind of decision they should make; half talk about their current situation after making a decision, and ask how long it will take to see the results and whether they should persist. If it was before, I would say decisively: "How long have you been insisting on this, and you want to see the result?" But Xiaoyi's incident made me realize that I was on a wrong path, or a path that made me uncomfortable. On the road, perseverance is not a good thing.

After I figured it out, I said to Xiaoyi, "It's better to give up, this company is good, but if it goes on like this, you won't have time to watch movies with your boyfriend, go home and have dinner with your parents, or even every day. You have to live carefully. You can't say that work must be happy all the time, but if it makes you uncomfortable all the time, it's not because you don't work hard enough, but because you don't fit in personality and thinking. , you will never be happy.”

In fact, during that time, I have been entangled in this matter, and even confused. I don't know how to tell if it's not working hard enough, or not being mentally compatible. Maybe it's just a feeling. Sometimes we get a particularly precious opportunity through hard work, and we feel that we already have it, so we will persevere and never let go of ourselves.

My former boss once said, "The sixth sense of people is very good. When you feel uncomfortable or something is wrong, there must be something wrong." A job cannot make us proud all the time. , happiness and fulfillment, and the fact that no matter how hard you try, you're uncomfortable, maybe that's a sign that you should let go.

Xiaoyi resigned, and he was worried about when he could find his next job. If he couldn't find it for too long, how would he maintain his life in Beijing? But just a week after she resigned, her boyfriend said: "I like you who are happy, happy, and unburdened now, I would rather you be an ordinary girl, instead of being depressed, anxious, and worrying about the future and unable to sleep. A real strong woman in the workplace."

That day, her boyfriend proposed to her. Now Xiaoyi has not yet started work, but is wholeheartedly preparing for the wedding. Start a new page in life. Really, I am very grateful to Xiaoyi, thank her for changing my mind and letting me learn to let go of myself. Many times, we are forcing ourselves to do well and be perfect, and blame ourselves for our little mistakes; Force yourself to be an outgoing, cheerful, lovable person, but feel overwhelmed by your introversion and poor words; force yourself to grow into the kind of successful person who has a neat suit, sits in first class, and lives in a five-star hotel, And I feel anxious and depressed because I am still living in a messy shared apartment. We are forcing ourselves to be another self that we don’t know every moment, and in the end we don’t know what we want at all, because our hearts have already become hard.

After such a trivial matter, I also faced many choices in life and work, simple, difficult, smooth, and troublesome. If in the past, when encountering simple and smooth things, you will be full of self-confidence, and when encountering difficulties and troubles, you will naturally be anxious and complain about why it is you. But this time, facing any options in front of me, I became indifferent. The smooth ones should do better, the troublesome ones can just exercise themselves. Everything that happens in the world will make you stronger and more mature. Every choice in the world is not good or bad. Every road has different scenery. Accept the opportunities and love that life has to offer. Make life a little softer and don't blindly guide yourself by worldly standards.

ꨄ On a wrong path, or a path that makes you uncomfortable, sticking to it is not a good thing

ఌ Sometimes we get a particularly precious opportunity through hard work, and we feel that we already have it, so we will persevere and never let go of ourselves.

❦ Every occurrence in the world will make you stronger and more mature. Every choice in the world is not good or bad.

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