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♥️The fringe people in the previous class♥️

In this article, based on my experience (very subjective), I will share about the 4 characteristics of marginalized people in the class and introduce 2 purebred marginalized people in the class. Keep reading😁.

🍭Characteristic 1 of marginalized people will not be eaten 🍭

Let's talk about the first characteristic of marginalized people: they will not be divided. In the class, as long as someone brings some biscuits and snacks, there will be a swarm of people (even soda biscuits 🤣), "I want too!" is almost the mantra of most of our classmates😂, and if there is a marginal person at this time He also opened the snacks, do you think anyone will ask him for snacks? Absolutely not, whether that person brings Jinsha or Lay's potato chips will not be welcomed by everyone , but this may be the advantage of marginal people!

💀Characteristics of marginalized people 2 Self-isolation 💀

At the end of class, if there is a classmate who hardly leaves his seat , then he is called half of the marginalized. Marginal people will always "self-isolate" and dare not deal with other classmates. They are always on the passive side, and it is not easy to make friends . This is one of the major characteristics of marginalized people.

💕Characteristics of marginalized people 3 Pain in grouping 💕

Due to the lack of making friends , marginalized people are always particularly painful when grouping, especially in pairs , they dare not take the initiative to make friends, not to mention grouping! Therefore, in the last two or two groups, there are always 1 or 2 people standing on the edge of the corner waiting to be rescued. When they successfully enter a group, it makes them even more painful, because they must socialize in the group, and people on the edge always cross Don't take this step .

When a fringe joins one of the groups, the other group members also get a lot of headaches. Here is a bloody example that happened in the class: in the middle of a report, one of the fringe people in the class (referred to as classmate A) covered his face and cried because he didn't know what to say during the report. Let the other team members handle his work. The main reason for such an incident is "a relationship of unequal information." Student A should step out of his comfort zone and actively communicate with other team members, and team members must also accept Student A and establish a better relationship, rather than adopting A laissez-faire attitude to deal with classmate A.

🗣️Characteristics of marginal people 4 Talk less in class and talk more at home

Among the marginalized people I have met, most of them rarely chat with other classmates in class, and they speak very little in class, but when they get home, they can always chat for dozens of minutes with their familiar parents. And I will tell today's "exciting and sad" news, word for word.

🙄The fringe 1 in the class socializes the wrong way

We will call this marginal person No. 1 for short. No. 1 rarely pays attention in class. He sleeps almost 3 to 4 classes every day (the teacher can't control it), and when he is not sleeping, he often makes strange noises and drives others crazy; At the time, he liked to socialize with other classmates very much. I thought it was fine at first, but later he would intervene in other people's activities (for example: when the chief information officer was controlling the computer, No. 1 would take advantage of him not to notice, Pressing the button randomly, and then he doesn't know how to get back to the original state, so he can only let the information chief help him clean up the mess), after that, many students will hate his words and deeds , as long as the number 1 is close to a classmate, that classmate will be transferred immediately position to avoid trouble; when it comes to noon, this is when he is most serious, every time he queues up for dinner, No. 1 is either the first or the second, he can always finish his meal quickly, and Quickly queue up for the second round, and then put all the main dishes (ribs, drumsticks, chicken chops...) into his bowl, giving no one a chance at all , and sometimes when dinner is served on the 1st, There will be 1 or 2 classmates who say that they have not eaten yet, so what should I do? Want to call No. 1 to spit it out? From class, class, to meal, he annoyed almost all his classmates , so No. 1 is "on the edge of our class". If he can improve these problems (that is, not be too scornful), he should make more friends.

😡The fringe 2 in the class is not easy to get along with😡

The marginal person in our class, No. 2 (herein referred to as No. 2), was actually not a marginal person before. It was only during the second semester of the class that the students in the class gradually began to alienate No. 2. When I was in the first semester of the country, No. 2 was very peaceful and very friendly to people. No one refused to make friends with her , and she also had a few very good friends. They always walked and played together. A major turning point occurred one day in the next semester of the country. That day, from the morning, No. 2 was still very friendly, but in the afternoon, one of No. 2's very good friends did not know what to do, which made No. 2 very angry, and the two started yelling at each other. After a while, No. 2 went berserk, first screaming wildly (100 times harsher than a baby, lasted 7-8 minutes), and then started throwing her stationery at unrelated people (fortunately, she didn't throw scissors), her left and right neighbors were all affected. Enough of her behavior, she started to stay away from No. 2. Later, another friend of hers also came forward to care, but No. 2 pushed her away vigorously with her hands. No. 2 continued to take out the handout from the drawer and threw it to other people (by the book). In the end, she even released a great show: she overturned her desk and chair. At this time , almost all teachers and students teaching team leaders came . No one knew why No. 2 would go berserk. It was really terrifying that day. . After that, No. 2 became more and more easily angry and made the same behavior . Almost all the people in our class couldn't stand it anymore, and they stepped forward to comfort them (actually, their ears couldn't hold it anymore), but it didn't work either. No. 2 also called out louder, there was really no way to get her. Since then, the classmates have completely moved away from No. 2, No. 2 has become more difficult to get close to, and No. 2 has become a marginal person.

Am I borderline?

Am I borderline? I thought about this question for a long time, and finally gave myself an answer: I am half a marginal person . I was quite marginal in the class, but I always put my studies first in school (80% of my studies and 20% of my social activities), and I left social and sports far behind me. They are all doing homework or reading, and they don’t go out to play or socialize with their classmates . “No social, no friends.” I discovered this problem, and I must face it. I feel that I don’t want to become a 100% marginal person. I opened my heart and talked with my classmates after class (50% of learning and 50% of socialization). Gradually, more people communicated with me, and I no longer gradually entered the ranks of marginalized people.

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This series may continue and I hope you all enjoy it! Youtuber Huang Daqian has released a video about marginalized people before, I recommend everyone to watch it~

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