About "Courage to Be Yourself"

Why are we so obsessed with "being ourselves"? What's more important to you? I used to be obsessed with this, but now I'm more and more suspicious of whether the phrase "be brave to be yourself" is a compliment or a curse. What kind of person can be themselves, the premise is probably to return to a state of constant self-attention, always alert to what they need and want, and then compare with the gifts given by the outside world, suddenly in the tension of this gap tendentious action. In the end, this action will be admired by others and dubbed the title of bravery.

I think, if you think about it like this, the people who will be bravest to be yourself may be children and autism. It's also when I'm with my daughter that I find that the child is always very capable of being himself, and I often can't be myself because of this, so I get mad, thinking, at least when I'm a father, I'm afraid I'm not at all. Brave. It is true that the vast majority of people who are "brave to be themselves" have a childish, juvenile feeling, and even a little crazy. It sounds like an artist, but it sounds like an autistic person.

I'm always wary when I hear someone compliment someone on being "brave to be yourself." On the one hand, he was wary of the compliment, which showed his own cowardice; on the other hand, he was also sweating on behalf of the complimented. Such compliments only encouraged him to pay more attention to himself. In this way, the "brave self" repeats and degenerates at the instigation of others and constant self-concern, and will eventually become the mentally weak, Narcissus who falls into the water.

Maybe in the end, we should no longer take “self” too seriously, and should not pay attention to who “self” is and who each individual is, but what they actually do. If no matter what you do, the evaluation of the harvest is always the same praise for "self", that is to say, if nothing has been done, then this "brave self" is not worthy of any praise.