Find your "why" and hear those tiny shouts ~ "Matters Community Events Season 3"

How to discover your "why" in difficult times by Simon Sinek

The main source of this article, the podcast, is from: here . Once again: I am not a professional professional translator, nor do I have any teaching qualifications. All the content is purely for self-learning and sharing. If there are any mistakes, please give me more advice.

The outbreak and spread of the epidemic is probably the most unforgettable experience in our lifetime. To this day, there seems to be no clear sign of improvement. So how do we choose to live with this situation, and how should we pay attention to everyone's mental health?

Famous motivational speaker Simon Sinek said that no matter how strong and healthy people are, they will still be mentally damaged to a certain extent by the epidemic. Some people will experience it in the early stages of the outbreak, some in the later stages, and some people who are experiencing it, but almost no one can escape this fate. In such a situation, the discussion should be: "How should we face it?". Simon shared his approach. When predicting the great mental stress he might face in the future, he found several friends to promise each other, build a safe space for each other, and ensure that he would not cry alone. .

In later days, Semen began to find that his mood was a little unstable. He called his soldier friends who had experienced post-war trauma, wanting to know what happened to them before. Soldier friends describe three situations:

1) The sleep circadian clock begins to become confused, and the sleep time begins to be delayed, and the morning is very reluctant to get up

2) In the days of low execution, often use rest as an excuse, but day after day

3) Begin to avoid crowds and be reluctant to talk to other people

How to improve: Go back to your old sleep habits, open up to friends, ask for help

The emergence of the epidemic has once again reminded us of the importance of human-to-human interaction. It awakens our deep desire for the human voice and for touching the human body. However, we do not have good relationships when we are empty and vulnerable. Conversely, when we are at our best, we should cultivate good relationships. Only when the storm hits can we validate the relationships we've built along the way. Only when you are in the abyss can you feel safe and have a shoulder to cry on.

Beautiful words:

“The human animal is a legacy machine living in a modern world. And we still work the same way we used to. And we desperately need each other to survive and thrive as much as we did when we were living in huts in small tribes of 150 people.”

Only when we give birth to a helping hand for others can we truly save ourselves

When asked what advice he could give to "friends who feel lonely and have no one to talk to," Semen pointed to the well-known Alcoholics Anonymous (AA). There will be a set of twelve items that many people are familiar with. Of these twelve items , only when the 12th item is actually completed will the chances of successfully quit drinking will be greatly improved. And this twelfth item is to help another alcoholic who is experiencing the same as you.

The reality is that we can only truly heal ourselves when we reach out for others. And this principle can be repeated in situations of all sizes. If you need a shoulder to cry on, lean on someone else's shoulder first. When you feel lonely, please give some company to those who are alone.

“And this goes way beyond these subjects, which is if we're looking for love to help somebody else find love, if we're looking for the job we love, to help somebody else find the job that they love. And there's tremendous value in service.”

Practical Tips for Caring About Emotionally Disturbed Friends

There are times when declarative sentences give better results than interrogative sentences, such as "How are you?/How are you?". We can try saying, "You look a little different" "I'm a little worried about you". Declarative sentences will reduce the space for schmoozing, but the point is that we have to express it with heart, with love, and with empathy. Remember, we are not here to solve problems, but to provide a safe environment. Getting them to open up comfortably is our only goal, not a solution.

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Postscript: Simon. ‧Sinaike is my personal favorite speaker, every time I can get full inspiration and motivation from his speeches or interviews. In the audio of this issue, although the words and sentences used are very simple, and there are no particularly beautiful or rarely used new words, it is admirable that it can bring out such amazing information.

For me, the biggest insight and moving is the paragraph "Only when we give birth to a helping hand for others can we truly save ourselves". Looking around, we are in the midst of this chaotic epidemic, and we are paying more attention to our own bits and pieces than before. After all, as Simon mentioned, almost everyone’s emotions cannot escape the ravages of the epidemic. The only difference is when and how much.

But what is even more ruthless is that under this same sky, at the same time, there are more tragic and mournful cries emanating from all over the world, but they are helplessly covered up by other voices. Among these sounds are the Burmese and Israel-Palestinian incidents, and it may also be the struggling sound of a seabird stuck in the sea by the oil spill.

Today, I would like to hold an essay writing activity with a slightly high threshold to encourage everyone to share a social issue that they deeply care about or hope to start to care about. People can share what inspired you to start, simply tell a moving story about the issue, introduce the non-profit organizations that represent the issue, or how you've been contributing and why you should join.

Call for Papers : All Matters users

Event time : From the event through to 12:00 midnight on July 30th

Bonus base : total bonus + late bonus

How to Participate : 1) Join #heard that tiny cry 2) Associate this article

rule of activity

 1) There is no limit to the number of submissions but old papers cannot participate.
2) You can use other activity texts to participate.
3) Each user can only get one bonus (with the highest amount first)
4) The form and subject matter are not limited, and the number of words must be at least 1000 words. 5) No insulting, offensive, or uncomfortable content is allowed, otherwise the qualification will be disqualified.

Prize distribution:

 30% - Top 5 with the highest amount of support 30% - Top 10 with the most clapping 20% - Top 10 new authors with the most clapping (with less than 100 followers, the day of the settlement event will prevail)
20% - split equally among all participants who did not win

If there are any objections, the decision will be final. If there is anything overlooked, please @Matty and remind everyone, I will add it in the comment area.