Chaos Daily Essay | Maybe you never lose

chance

After I came to Matt City, the first article I published mentioned that I came here under the recommendation of a friend, although the last time he published an article here was more than a year ago. . He has some "knowledge" of Matt City, but he doesn't necessarily have a yearning for Matt City like me or you who are reading this article.

He knew it was here, but his heart was not here. Yes, everyone spends time on what he thinks is important. Therefore, in this view, friendship is a special existence, although each other's judgments of "important things" are very different, but still can accompany each other and support the other person's heart. No matter how different the two sides think, sometimes even incomprehensible, but still give him full respect .

As mentioned in the previous article , this "nothing to say" melancholy, as you and I grow bigger and bigger, after encountering more and more helpless and compelled feelings, the emotion becomes stronger and stronger . We all understand that fate always selects for each person those close friends who will always "have something to say" with us through the inevitability of people coming and going.

A friend and I used to have such a "talking about nothing" relationship with me, but with each other's busy work and studies, the differences in each other's life circles became more and more different. Don't say anything", slowly turning into "Nothing to say" , this friend is the one who introduced me to Matt City.

indifferent

The busyness of life and the gradual habit of using "accordance" or "go with the flow" as an excuse, in fact, the two sides are not as important to each other as they used to be. In the end, everyone is expecting the other party to be more active and active, waiting for the other party to sincerely say "How have you been recently?" In the blink of an eye, more than half a year has passed quietly.

Both sides forgot to look for it, and seemed to think that there was no need to discuss , what is the answer to the drifting away . Maybe, occasionally, they will leave two or three sentences on each other's social software that gradually become formal and superficial. As a result, each other became polite because of each other, and slowly lost the resonance of previous conversations, once again fulfilling the motto of "no speculation, half a sentence" .

Perhaps, it was my unilateral domineering habit of "anyway, he will always be there, right?", I naively thought that apart from God, there is something for granted, there is something It's something that "I don't need any effort at all, I can get it easily" , completely forgetting the life of the past 20+ years, it has been a constant reminder of my teachings:

No matter what you see, hear, or admire. Always remember that nothing ever falls from the sky. Never forget who you are, remember that you are a person who is willing to be ordinary and refuse to be ordinary.

lose?

When I choose to see my friend's family background, beautiful and happy family life, and his loving parents who are enviable and admire his successful education, when I see him graduate, his physician father calls him "a new house" As a graduation gift , he does not have to worry about any economic needs such as survival, and expects him to focus on his career.

What is it that leaves us speechless? In fact, it's not that the focus of life and the family background of the friend are more and more different from their own, so that the two sides have nothing to say. Even in a relationship, the privilege of being able to choose how to control and proactively make changes is always in our own hands .

It is our own choice to no longer take the initiative and actively cultivate each other's friendship. After looking at everything our friends have, we do not choose to focus on ourselves. Our eyes are constantly attracted by those things that can't be quenched by hope. This contrasts with how pitiful his own experience is, and rationalizes his current stagnant, unsatisfactory situation.

Are you really speechless? Have you really lost the deep friendship of the past? Maybe you never lost this friend.

Perhaps, your friendship has never lost the warmth it deserves. Maybe you never lost , it's just that you don't want to accept the things you can never change; maybe you never lose , it's just that you don't want to stop looking at everything he has to show how humble you are; maybe you never lose , It's just that you don't want to focus on the things you should be serious about.

Maybe you never lost because you refused to give up.