Treat yourself as a daughter

My whole high school period was a fool who didn't follow suit very well.

When I was in middle school, I always wore jeans and a T-shirt when I went out. I especially liked to buy a pink T-shirt.

My mother ignored me and didn't do anything for my clothes. I even wore jeans to a wedding reception until someone told me I was dressing for the wrong occasion. At the time I didn't understand, I didn't think my clothes were okay. When I think about it now, I think my mother is definitely lazy to take care of me, because if I was told to wear jeans to the wedding banquet, I would rather be absent. This mistake is too obvious. As a mother, there is no reason to find out that my daughter is going astray, so she She didn't pay attention to me at all. It's not easy for her to raise 4 children. I can understand that she didn't pay much attention to me. This is good and bad. The good is freedom. The bad is that I will be slow to understand, and everything has to be investigated. I have to understand the reason before I can do it. Really, the wedding is a big day for the bride and groom. Dress casually as if I don't take their life events seriously, I really don't do my business, but they are all invited, which means I have something in life with them. Relationship.

I was very averse to wearing skirts as a kid and I didn't like being labelled "feminine". It took me a long time to find that skirts fit well, especially for someone with big legs like me, where my feet can't fit in the pants (crying

I don't know when my clothes started getting better. It should be that I have been on the Internet a lot, and I have seen a lot of beautiful girls' outfits. Before the clothes got better, I also bought clothes according to the trend. Recently, when I was sorting out old clothes, I looked at my own history.

Now I don't care if I'm in shape or not, I like this dress, I just want to wear it, I used to care about thick legs, but now I don't care, my legs are fine, I don't want to hide them.

In addition to clothing, hairstyles are also. Thick bangs were very popular for a while, I went to get them cut, it cost me RM4, and my family said it was expensive. I was very complacent with the new hairstyle, but now I look back at the photos and feel oh-so-shy. The family's vision is right.

During adolescence, it is very easy to be jealous of beautiful girls. Looking at their many suitors, you will think that it is not just beautiful. At that time, I didn't appreciate it. Because of my low self-esteem, I felt that it was because of these beautiful girls that no boys liked me.

Aww, I was sick when I was a teenager. Please close your eyes and endure this bloody description of me, and forgive my psychological distortion at that time. Why is it so important for a guy to like him? 😂Why do I need to recognize myself through the eyes of others?

A lot of things were never told to me, and I didn't even realize this was a problem.

In other words, I saw a little red book and thought it was quite reasonable, but it hurts to think of myself as a daughter. What advice would I give to put my situation on my daughter? For example, I am broken up, and I can't get out of the pain for a year and a half. If this happened to my daughter, I would say don't give up the whole forest for one tree, the world is so big, don't worry about it On people who don't care about themselves, etc. From an outsider's point of view, things will be much clearer.

Since I was a child, I didn't consciously think about how I would treat him if I had a child. When I told people about this, they all said I wanted to get married and have kids. Actually no, I don't want my descendants to have the same regrets as me. In fact, I am that descendant. What I want to do to my descendants is that I hope my childhood can be treated the same.

I often think, I will let my child buy whatever book he wants, I will read with him, I will accompany him to write his thoughts, I will watch Disney cartoons with him, I will take him to learn what he thinks He can learn things like painting, music and dance. I will take him to do sports together. When puberty arrives, I will tell him to go to bed earlier, otherwise he will not grow taller.

These are all my childhood regrets, and I'm so glad I found this side of myself. When I grow up, I can do whatever I want, I fly high and far, I know what I want, I am happy and sad because of the little things, and I allow my emotions to rise and fall. It is good to feel that I can evolve, to think freely and not to spend time tangled, and I am also grateful that I have this condition.

I think why I have been writing these types of articles so often recently, most of which are to heal myself, maybe this is my current state.