Loving and being loved should not be multiple choice questions

We always encounter strange multiple-choice questions about love in our lives, such as:

The parents asked, "Dad or mom, who do you like more?"

"If you could only choose one to love and be loved, what would you choose?"

 When it comes to love, people seem to like to fight to be their favorite; they also seem to choose to only love or be loved because they can't be loved - presumably to comfort themselves.

"Tell me everything"

When I was young, my elders liked to say, "Everything is balanced, and there is nothing perfect in this world." - that is, it means that it is impossible to satisfy everyone. Most of the words are just used to say it, as long as you get to know them a little more, you will feel that they are devastated...

Don't talk about human beings saying one thing and doing another, I think this sentence is correct, and the bigger the more, the deeper you realize that life is probably this principle.

to love

When you only choose to love, the greater the chance of being let down, people think that you are easy to bully, and naturally attract more people who come to take advantage . (Not only) Many people in Asia ask women to give, but they never thank them. Women feel hard and sad. Whenever they ask, they will be ignored or even scolded for "greed", thinking that it is their "duty", and the exchange is always Not to be cherished, no amount of love can bear this kind of treatment, and it is probably because they are not tough enough.

The love of men and women in society has different values. In the feudal society, husbands and children need to go out to work when they have financial needs at home. They must take care of all aspects, and there is nothing to be picky about, so they are called "very good." For men, as long as they have certain economic conditions, or even not, as long as they are not bad people, they will occasionally bring something to the house and occasionally give their other half a hug, as if it is already "uncritical love" .

"Choose to love or be loved", at the social level, men and women themselves are at different starting lines, and it is still a gap that women can hardly match.

be loved

When you choose to be loved, it is presupposed that someone will be kind to you, but this kind of goodness is something you won’t feel too guilty about, otherwise you won’t be able to just be loved , but you won’t be able to move yourself if you can see it. How can the love that is given be counted?

Recently, I was reading an old saying, which tells the story of a husband and wife. The husband asked for marriage because he liked his wife. The wife knew that the husband liked her and agreed because of interests. After the two got married, the husband always obeyed the wife's words, even if the wife was unreasonable, she was always humble, and even did not hesitate to destroy the relationship with her family. This is probably a wife surrounded by her husband's full love, right? But the wife has never thanked her husband, but always uses him to achieve her own goals, blaming her husband whenever she fails.

The wife is unhappy that she can't get comfort at home, and she has no sense of security. If the husband wants to please his wife, he can't communicate and advise him. He can only "seek justice" for his wife outside. In the long run, the husband who used to be good has gradually become more ambitious He was narrow, and followed his wife all day to make trouble for no reason. In the end, he became a selfish person, abandoned his wife and children, and even stole the family's wealth, but his wife still did not change her temperament, and was arranged by her family to be in the suburbs. The house is dying on its own...

 Blindly pampering will make people more and more greedy. They don’t know how to thank others for their love. They always feel that they are righteous and they will not feel guilty and will not love, but how can the person who chooses to love satisfy all the wishes of the other party Woolen cloth? Is there really a good life to live like this?
I think probably not.

Loving and being loved should not be multiple choice questions

"Everything is perfect." When you love someone, you will give, and you want the other person to respond equally. Of course, the equality cannot be quantified. Just to make yourself happy and secure is a very balanced relationship.

I like to read Shuangwen very much. The short super sweet pet articles will make me get a lot of happiness, and I will read it many times. It is probably about how one party protects the other and how to make the other party happy and safe. Live steady. Probably this kind of story blurs the love's giving and the giving's satisfaction, so this multiple-choice question appears. In my opinion, this is a huge misunderstanding, or a lie, which makes you fall into a relationship and feel that Can survive until the end of life, but forget that love itself is joy, sweetness and happiness, and life is to support each other and move forward together. How this misunderstanding/lie came about is a big issue, but in a word, it is a means used by people who don't love to deceive others into paying.

People who want to be happy should not be trapped in this multiple-choice question, let alone choose the answer in it.

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