Feelings to express: [I don't want to continue to be a bad person]

[ A person who does not know how to refuse, all help is cheap ]

Today's refusal to be a bad guy story (1)

A while ago, I received a message from a friend asking me if I could offer my gynecologist, and also asked if my noble doctor could help with the delivery.

It turned out that her friend was pregnant (should be out of wedlock), but I respect personal privacy, I don't ask who the other party is, because she didn't plan to tell me which friend she was.

I told my friend the doctor's name and the hospital's name.

This morning, I received a message from a friend: "SL, can you help me call the hospital to ask for a package for the birth of a child? I have to have surgery and ask about the price of the sterilization operation."

I responded: "Tell your friend to ask her own questions, just call the hospital and ask the customer service, she will be careful when she asks herself."

The friend responded: "If you want her to ask herself, she will definitely say forget it."

OS in my heart: "What does that have to do with me? The body is hers, and the child is hers! How hard is it for adults to be responsible for their actions? How hard is it to call the hospital and ask?"

My friend responded: "Forget it, when I didn't say it"

Some of the busyness is really not worth helping

This incident reminds me of what Teacher Lai Peixia said: There are three kinds of things

1. My business

2. Other people's business

3. God's business

This was obviously someone else's business, so I deleted it

Blame me for being ruthless

I don't want to continue to be a bad guy

The one who is willing to stay for me is the best friend

I'm just filtering my circle of friends

This was obviously someone else's business, so I deleted it

Blame me for being ruthless

I don't want to continue to be a bad guy

The one who is willing to stay for me is the best friend

I'm just filtering my circle of friends

Today's refusal to be a bad guy story (2)

Received a message from E friend today

E: “hihi can borrow 500, monday give you back”

Translation: Hi, can you lend me 500? pay you back monday

This is not the first friend who has borrowed money from me,

She has money to pay, but she is not punctual

I am a very trustworthy human being

I still remember that she also borrowed 500 from me and said that she would pay it back on 28/1

But the date passed, and no return was received from her.

It wasn't until two months later that I couldn't bear to chase her for money.

I also declined her request today due to credit issues.

I don't want to be used as a cash machine, it's not a real friendship

Every time people think of me only when they need help

I was ruthless twice in a row today.

I want to shout out: I am brave! I bravely refused! My kindness is not cheap!

Today, I did self-reflection. Looking back on the past, I was really responsive to the people around me. It seems that there is almost nothing I can’t do. It’s not that I’m smart, but that I can explore myself. People around me are used to it. Sexually asking for ready answers in me.

Over time, I felt tired and my life seemed to be busy for others. The friends around me all go to the Three Treasures Hall without incident. As long as they come to me suddenly, they need my help for something.

I don't dare to refuse other people's requests because I'm afraid that my friends will hate me and give me a bad impression.

Too strong empathy is really not a good thing, and there is no bottom line to sympathize with others. Just because of the poor and reluctant to refuse.

Today, I decided to make a change. I'm going to present a resignation letter from a bad guy.

The friends I broke up with because of my rejection didn't matter.

Only the me who is willing to accept the real me is worthy of my good.