富兰克林十三条美德修养
在《富兰克林自传》中,富兰克林给出了一张清单,上面列出了13条美德, 或是成功要素.
1 TEMPERANCE. Eat not to dullness; drink not to elevation.
节制:食不过饱,饮不过量。
2 SILENCE. Speak not but what may benefit others or yourself; avoid trifling conversation.
缄默:只说对人对己有益的话,避免闲聊。
---- 言多必失, 成年人的社会一定要管住嘴.
3 ORDER. Let all your things have their places; let each part of your business have its time.
秩序:物归其位,事有定期。
---- 进入新环境,最重要的是先摸清内部的规矩, 规律, 很多人还没搞清楚内部形势就出局了.
4 RESOLUTION. Resolve to perform what you ought; perform without fail what you resolve.
决心:该做的事情一定要做,要做的事情一定做好。
5 FRUGALITY. Make no expense but to do good to others or yourself; i.e., waste nothing.
节俭:只为对人对己有益的事情买单,即不要浪费。
---- 从俭入奢易, 从奢入俭难
6 INDUSTRY. Lose no time; be always employ’d in something useful; cut off all unnecessary actions.
勤勉:不要浪费时间,只做有用的事情,戒除一切不必要的行为。
---- 时间是每个人唯一公平的资源
7 SINCERITY. Use no hurtful deceit; think innocently and justly, and, if you speak, speak accordingly.
诚恳:不要恶意欺骗人,思想纯洁公正,讲话也是如此。
---- 现实社会中, 诚恳更多是对应着答应别人的事情, 要办到
8 JUSTICE. Wrong none by doing injuries, or omitting the benefits that are your duty.
正义:不做伤害别人的事情,做有益的事情是你的责任。
9 MODERATION. Avoid extreams; forbear resenting injuries so much as you think they deserve.
中庸:不走极端。对别人的伤害保持隐忍,将此视为应得之事。
---- 极端者, 多数只能是批评家
10 CLEANLINESS. Tolerate no uncleanliness in body, cloaths, or habitation.
清洁:身体、衣服及住所,力求整洁。
11 TRANQUILLITY. Be not disturbed at trifles, or at accidents common or unavoidable.
平静:不要被琐事、普通或者不可避免的事所扰。
---- 每临大事须有静气
12 CHASTITY. Rarely use venery but for health or offspring, never to dulness, weakness, or the injury of your own or another’s peace or reputation.
贞节:仅为健康或生育的目的进行房事。爱惜身体,不要损害自己或他人的安宁与名誉。
13 HUMILITY. Imitate Jesus and Socrates.
谦虚:向苏格拉底和耶稣学习。
---- 自大容易引起周围人的反感, 尤其是在中国