Letter for the anniversary

Someone said : the two best things in our life, were the person in the very beginning, and the person at the very end.

That's a pretty good thing to be able to say, I think, to promise you that we will walk to the end hand by hand, to let you become the last best thing in my life.

But life is full of accidents, just like the accident of our acquaintance, our relationship, our marriage. I suppose we should not focus on promising each other an illusionary future, it is in vain. We’d better just try to become the backbone of each other to overcome every tiny difficulty in our daily life.

You have done so well on this point, not me. The only thing I have mastered, is to the plan the lunch and diner of everyday, that’s all.

Tell me I am not that bad;) What I would like to say, is to recognize your support, contribution and companionship in the last years. Or, I combine all these things into one word : LOVE.

Smart as you are, you may notice that I try to avoid this word. For me, it is too ambiguous, too inaccurate. What is love ? It only depends on what you are in search of in the intimate relationship.

The beloved one is one of the objects that we happen to meet at the right moment in the life. Marriage ties us together, but nothing is solide enough to be unbreakable. The alliance can become stronger only if we devote to reinforce it. To be aware of this fragility will remind us to always care each other’s feelings and needs, to not forget the love we receive from people is not a due but a happened accident which may disappear. I do believe we value better the thing only if it is not free. Love is not free and should not be.

It is not romantic right ? No, life is not a pinky world, nor is the marriage. Marriage is filled with stupid fight, unmotivated disappointment, unpleasant discussion. You must have experienced some tough moment in the past four years, me too.

But I know you and me, we are fighters, we do not give up easily. This point may help us to build a solid relationship which may last long time. It seems to be the case after four years of our alliance.

We should celebrate it. I, especially, should show my gratitude to you. To be with someone like me must be not easy. I have too many wired, I call them philosophical, doubts on myself, on the meaning of marriages, and on the life itself. Hopefully you are here to balance my pessimistic side.

I finish here, but our common life continues. For how many year more ? Wish us good luck.