每周3-2-1，學會獨處、做自己從當下開始

原文出處https://jamesclear.com/3-2-1/february-3-2022?rh_ref=ebaff8bc

3 Ideas From Me

I.
"If you added up all the time wasted searching for shortcuts and trying to cheat the process, the hard work could have already been done by now."

花時間投機取巧走捷徑的試誤時間累加起來，恐怕早已超過直接攻克難題所需要的時間。

一步一腳印，踏實往上爬，才是登頂的最好方式。

​II.
"Have no single point of failure.
Have no single path to success."

沒有單點故障，沒有單一通往成功的捷徑。

我不是很懂試條條大路通羅馬，試條條大路通羅馬，方法總比問題多的意思嗎🙄

III.

"In the middle, it feels slow.
In hindsight, it feels fast."

​局中者迷，局外者清。場外叫囂、場內發暈。

​2 Quotes From Others

I.
Author bell hooks on the importance of knowing how to be alone:

"Many of us seek community solely to escape the fear of being alone. Knowing how to be solitary is central to the art of loving. When we can be alone, we can be with others without using them as a means of escape."

Source: All About Love: New Visions​

多數人找尋社群是為了避開孤獨感，然而，知道如何獨處是學會愛人的核心，當我們獨自一人並學會獨處時，就不會把別人當作是逃避孤獨的手段。

人無法離群索居，物理世界上，日常所需總需百工方可斯為備，但心靈世界則是要學習獨處，人與人在一起如果只是因為怕孤單，就像是在掉入流沙後再拉一人，在互相牽扯中雙雙沉入流沙內。如果可以獨立獨處，則有更多的時間思考，自問自答，自我探索。

剛好今天就讀到@半調子人生 的發文<今天我自問自答了[聚焦]與[取捨]>與@Lemonway學習筆記 的發文<你每天留多少時間與自己對話呢？>，感覺與這個有點相似!

​II.
Stoic philosopher (斯多葛哲學家) Epictetus on taking action:

"Now is the time to get serious about living your ideals. How long can you afford to put off who you really want to be? Your nobler self cannot wait any longer.

Put your principles into practice – now. Stop the excuses and the procrastination. This is your life! You aren’t a child anymore. The sooner you set yourself to your spiritual program, the happier you will be. The longer you wait, the more you’ll be vulnerable to mediocrity and feel filled with shame and regret, because you know you are capable of better.

From this instant on, vow to stop disappointing yourself. Separate yourself from the mob. Decide to be extraordinary and do what you need to do – now."

Source: The Art of Living​

​做自己，從當下開始。

The sooner you set yourself to your spiritual program, the happier you will be. The longer you wait, the more you’ll be vulnerable to mediocrity and feel filled with shame and regret, because you know you are capable of better

看到這段，我特有感! 或許是因為我想不清楚甚麼重要，甚麼更重要，甚麼最重要，因此蹉跎太多光陰。一轉眼已經年近半百(雖然我內心依舊住著一位年輕人😊)，偶爾回想起來，確實有種"如果我當時再努力一點.....我就......"，"如果當時選擇......那麼就......"的遺憾。

長輩常說的話，往往都是他過往的遺憾所堆砌而成，並且期望透過晚輩來推倒這遺憾築起的牆。我發覺，我似乎有類似的傾向，常跟小孩說要搞懂自己想要甚麼，自己想追求甚麼，早點搞懂經濟運行的方式，財富累積的方式，管理自己的時間與金錢外，更需管理自己的注意力.....bala...bala...bala....而這不就是活到現在的我，長期在順流中回望人生長河中那些濺起水花的石頭後，那種無力感所堆砌起來牆嗎?! 希望小孩不要被同一堵牆擋住，希望他們可以穿越這道牆，到牆後找到更好的生活方式的。但~~~似乎~~~還未達到我想要的，因為我還未能穿越自己砌築的那道牆，怎能奢望我的小孩能獨自穿越？!

離題了~ 做更好的自己，從當下開始!!

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1 Question For You

A question from Barrett Brooks on choosing your heroes:

"Here’s the thing about your heroes: You have to know about them to look up to them. The candidate pool is 100% limited by your exposure. That’s why so many kids look up to athletes, I think. They haven’t been exposed to enough other people to look up to them.

Here's how I think about that: Who haven’t I been exposed to that would inspire me if I knew they existed or knew the details of their lives? And how could I learn about those people?"

這邊的英雄，更像是你景仰、嚮往或是想學習的對象，俗語說：三人行必有我師，因此人人都可以成為"英雄"。

你選擇的英雄總是受限於自己的眼界，那些常曝光在你視野前的人，就容易被當作是英雄看待，就如同@一隻有頭蒼蠅<好像懂了甚麼是眼界>說到你的"世界"，即代表你的信仰。視野之外的人，若仔細觀察，或許也可發現他(她)的不同之處，從中找出值得學習的事物，或許她也會變成你的英雄。

你是否有甚麼特長或專才可以持續曝光，可以讓別人學習到甚麼？找到它，你也可以成為某人的師，甚至成為某人的英雄。