每周3-2-1--找對賽道、作有影響的選擇、別怕犯錯
原文出自 James Clear https://jamesclear.com/3-2-1/october-5-2023
3-2-1: On regrets, failing gloriously, and how to make good choices
"Before you discover what you love: fewer commitments, more experiments.
After you discover what you love: fewer experiments, more commitments."
找到真愛前,少承諾(投入)、多嘗試;找到真愛後,少嘗試、多承諾(投入)
這邊指的是事(WHAT),但我覺得也可以指人(WHO)
我鼓勵小孩多方面嘗試,也是基於這個理由! 總拿自己當作負面教材,因為年近半百,我還在尋找WHAT I LOVE!!! 幸運的事,我有找到WHO I LOVE。年輕的時候多嘗試、多體會、多思考,找到所愛的事物機率總是高些! 總有些事情是會作得累但起勁的,當你有那感覺的時候,恭喜您! 距離所愛已經不遠了。
"It's hard to save poor early decisions with good late decisions.
It's hard to write a best-selling book if you chose an unpopular topic.
It's hard to build a happy marriage if you married an unhappy person.
It's hard to make money in real estate if you overpaid at the beginning.
Certainly, things can be improved by making good decisions along the way, but the effects of poor early decisions tend to linger."
不對的賽道上狂奔,終究無法到達終點
女怕嫁錯郎、難怕入錯行! 認真投入前多想想,確認是正確的賽道再開始加速!
"One filter I use for making decisions: How much can I influence the outcome after the initial choice is made?
When I can do a lot to influence the outcome, I'm less worried about risk. Even if the choice appears risky on the surface, I can likely create a good outcome with effort.
When I can't do much to influence the outcome, I'm more risk averse. Even my best effort won't move the needle. Your ability to influence the outcome after a decision is made is a crucial thing to consider."
謹慎抉擇那些你能影響結果的決定
開車上路後,可以隨時轉動方向盤更換路徑且時間充裕的話,就別怕走錯路,或許因為走錯可以看到意外的美景。
跳水就不同了,一躍而下,你就算在空中盡力扭動,能對落點產生的影響不大,這時候就需要注意風險,免得在半空中後悔就來不及了!
Martial artist and actor Bruce Lee on pushing yourself: "Don't fear failure. Not failure, but low aim, is the crime. In great attempts it is glorious even to fail."
李小龍說:別怕失敗!! 目標太低,雖沒敗績也無用! 挑戰巨大,雖敗猶榮
How can the work you're doing today accumulate and layer on top of what you did yesterday? Find ways to compound your efforts.
想想昨天作的事,有哪些是可以以在今天再疊加上去的?
常說的複利,就是每天進步一點點,堅持帶來大改變。而那個進步一點點,是必須得能疊加的,如果今天往右、明天往左、後天往上、大後天往下,雖然都有進步,但最終你可能還是在原地打轉。
這個問題,相當適合每天睡前問問自己,如果答案不多甚至沒有,就該要驚覺自己是不是虛度了今日、昨日,甚至先前的所有日子!
但別擔心,你並不孤單,從今天開始問自己這個問題,每天問,就有機會可以找到能持續疊加的事物!