A soft heart is the biggest help to achieve compassion. Five years ago, I lived on a night shift for three consecutive years. From the initial dissatisfaction to adaptation, Buddhist thoughts really influenced me a lot.

"Why do you think about others?"

"If you're not feeling well, do you still think about the well-being of others?"

People are selfish, so it is difficult to think for others and think from the perspective of others. I think this should be what most people say from the bottom of their hearts.

In the past, I also thought that it is the basic principle to be good to myself first, and then to be good to the world. How can I be good to the world first and then be good to myself? People are not that great.

Afterwards, I came into contact with Buddhism and the concept of compassion, treating all beings in the world as my own mother, and wishing everyone well. Such thoughts are really difficult to understand and difficult to realize. What Mahayana Buddhism talks about is altruism.

In the past, my sister would complain to me in the store, but suddenly she was attacked by customers? There is no reason, so I will be very sad, and my answers are often very standard, as long as I have a clear conscience, don't be influenced by other people's words, and don't think too much. If I go deeper, I will say that the person who scolded you is stoma karma, and you are scolded for eliminating karma. Of course, they don't understand, and I just follow the scriptures. Because when I am scolded, I also have emotional reactions, but because I am the boss, the emotional reactions will be restrained because of this role! However, I watched the monitor and watched the process of my sister complaining about being scolded for no reason. I realized that it was not "without reason". In order to scold this "effect", it is because of the "cause" of my contemptuous expression, and that expression hurt the customer's heart...

So compassion and altruism slowly sprouted in my heart. I remember that one day my wife asked me, why should I pray and be grateful for people I don’t know?

Me: "If others are good, we will be good."

Wife: "Other people won't give you money when they make money."

Me: "We are driving on the road today, is there any possibility of an accident?"

Wife: "Maybe hit someone, or get bumped."

Me: "That's right, if we all wish everyone well on the road, be safe and have no accidents, will we not be hit by ourselves, and we will only bump into others, but we hope that everyone is safe on the road, isn't that another Letting go of our chance to hit others. Others may not spend their money on us, but if the social order improves, people don’t have to worry about food and clothing, and the economy improves, will we also benefit from it.” This is what Buddhism calls altruism.

As a result of altruism, you will benefit yourself, right?

To learn to be altruistic, you must first have a compassionate heart, and equate yourself with the public. If I donate with joy today, it is tantamount to donating myself. How can I equate myself with the public? It is to regard the public as one's own mother, with a very soft heart, everything is light.

I always encourage myself in this way. Some people may say that I can’t survive in the society if I have a soft heart. To survive in the society, I need to be ruthless to gain a foothold and make money. However, I still warn myself from time to time not to lose myself. Kind of heart to go, no matter where? The road is always broad!

The popular term now should be "empathy"