After reading "The Indiscriminate Lover"-Love is a weapon against indifference

"Love Indiscriminate" is a really good book, there is no doubt about it.

In fact, when I first saw the title of the book, I was a little puzzled. At that time, I didn't understand what " no difference " meant. In fact, the so-called indifference should mean that there is no difference and no selfishness . However, if you really want to have an undifferentiated lover, I don't think it will be easy. Unless everyone is implanted with the "love" chip.

But when did we become so unloving in our hearts? Are there too many unanswerable questions in life that wear out the love in my heart? Or was the world mistreated and lost the heart of the lover?

Many of the possibilities mentioned in the book have touched me now. Although I am still not proficient in the operation of e-books, the content of the book is very exciting, and people can't help but want to know the ending and keep reading it unconsciously. But there are many aspects that need careful consideration, so I slow down my reading speed and try to think about how to become a person who can love unconditionally during the reading process. I found it really difficult, after all, everyone has selfishness. The policy of indiscriminate love is written in the book, which subverts my thinking.

So what is the most important thing about being a human being? I think the answer is "love" .

Do people have the power to change the world?

We don't necessarily know how the universe works, but in fact, we all have a universe in our hearts, which makes each of us different. No matter how small we are, we can still shine and have the power to change the whole world.

I especially like this sentence. Everyone, no matter how small, has the power to make a difference if they want to. Just like Ling Benwei , the character in the book, after he first expressed his concern for a stranger, he brought him unprecedented new ideas and actions, and from here he began to escape the painful prison of his daughter's death. He can even say: "To be able to love people, to live is not just to live" .

He began to try to care for strangers, and to love and accept them from the heart. This is a very positive change. Because he is no longer bound by the hatred of the past.

As time passed, the thoughts remained, but the hatred slowly subsided. He used the rest of his life to hate the murderer of his daughter, not so much in vain as it was a consumption of life force.

His life can be used to love people and love a lot of people, but isn't it too wasteful to hate someone? His life is long gone.

Many people also need help in times of distress, but most of them do not take the initiative to ask for help. He and his wife often deliberately pay attention to whether there are people who need help around them.

The husband and wife began to pay attention to those in need. They carefully observed the possible needs of the people around them, and it was deliberate. There are many possibilities in the world that need to be deliberately created , whether it is a habit or a lover like this, it must be done deliberately before it can be done. Ling Benwei started to do it deliberately from caring for strangers, so that the life of their husband and wife began to be different, which should have been unexpected for them. And such behavior is also a weapon against indifference in today's society. This unconditional love is what I see throughout the book.

The public opinion manipulated by the media is like a sharp knife, placed in front of their necks, and the blood will flow into rivers with a little force.

Although the family may be a factor in a person's crime, the perpetrator is always an independent individual, and the responsibility is placed on the family because everyone thinks that the individual is not enough to bear all the crimes? If someone commits a crime after If it is said to be persecuted by the social system, then should the whole society bear the responsibility?

This part also made me a little worried. Sometimes I sigh at the news content broadcast by the media, but it brings deeper harm to both the perpetrator and the victim. Are these media not conscious? Some media even take the bottom line on these perpetrators or victims, dissecting and analyzing the privacy of the victims or victims for the sake of ratings, so that the families who have been injured will be hurt twice. Such reports sometimes affect the viewers, making the viewers become critics, and even worse, making the parties darker. Instead, it is a kind of drag on the event itself, without any substantial help. I really hope that the media can have self-control and empathy, and use this mentality to report news that is both true and human.

Recently in Japan, there was a young man who killed indiscriminately on a train. His expression was indifferent, without any remorse. What kind of pain and hatred made him such an indifferent murderer? Is it a family education problem? Or did the social environment treat him badly? Or are there more reasons?

No matter which one is, it is a question that we need to think about, just like Weisheng in the book. A little more care and understanding of the child can save the child who has gone astray in time, instead of turning a blind eye to the child's perverse behavior.

Another thing I see in the book that cannot be ignored is that children imitate the behavior of their mother or father.

Wei Sheng beat her in exactly the same way as her husband, so he always knew that his mother was raped by his father. When he was young, he was a secret bystander, and when he grew up, instead of taking up the responsibility of protecting his mother, he beat her

It is often seen in society that the father will beat the mother's family, and their children are likely to be the ones who beat their wives in the future. This has certain research results in psychology. Because of the child who watched his father beat his mother, he would have a thought in his heart: I must not be like him in the future . This inner oath can easily be presented in two modes, one is that he will never beat his wife; the other is that he will do something to his wife unknowingly. Because in his subconscious, the images he saw as a child had been deeply planted in his mind, so he acted the same way. My husband is an example, so when I read this passage, I was especially touched.

The most embarrassing thing in the book is the young couple Zhao Jingfeng and Pan Jining who have always longed to have children. I finally got a child, but in my own wrong obsession, I not only destroyed my own life, but also destroyed other people's families. If there is a time machine, she must be eager to do it all over again.

This story has always made me unable to let go. It is like a gas that is entangled in my heart and cannot be dissolved. It is very uncomfortable. Maybe I always hope to see a happy ending in my heart, especially this pair of children who have been waiting for a long time, and a couple who love and support each other, as if such an outcome should not happen. Cruelly, something like this must have happened all over the world, only with more or less damage. Hope to have a Happy ending, is this also my obsession? So why is it so uncomfortable?

Just think:

If there is a time machine or a time folding machine, I would also like to go back to the past to change a certain point in time, but how much help does such a change really help in the future? Will it change, or a life that I am not satisfied with?

The above are the experiences and feelings I got from the book, and these are all questions worth thinking about. I will leave it to everyone who reads this book to taste and interpret it for themselves! I really recommend this book to everyone! I wish there was more love in this world.