The 537th day of Perth Diary, from the regret of love

I have too many regrets in my life, and I believe you do too.

If, if I have the opportunity to go back to that moment in the past, I think I will do my best to remedy those regrets, but there is really no if in life, only tomorrow.

Next month will be eight years since my father passed away. I didn’t get to see my father for the last time, and I couldn’t be with my father in his last days. On the contrary, the last time I saw my father was because of my argument with my mother. Go, just say goodbye, goodbye is already in the coffin.

But my father's regrets made me fight for the injustice of my father's life. The revenge of killing my father was irreconcilable. What killed my father was his upright personality and the incompatibility of the environment. I was powerless to change the environment, but it gave me the motivation to change even if I risked my life. Since then, I have become accustomed to injecting the power of grief through running. This is my cowardly and inferior self. I began to change, and today I can finally Standing on another piece of land is my father's regret that gave me the courage to change.

The regret with my mother comes from the gap in cognition and the collision of two personalities. My mother never admits mistakes in her life, but my character is that mistakes are mistakes. If I do something wrong, I have to admit it and pay the price.

Therefore, although my mother is still alive, the content of my thinking and the cognition of my mother influenced by her background, we have no way to communicate with each other is my second regret. What is more painful than the separation between heaven and man is actually , Although people are alive, they are more painful than death.

My mother's regrets have also prompted me to work hard to change other people's perceptions. I think this is also the source of strength my mother's regrets have given me.

These regrets are actually related to 'love' , which is love for parents.

The vast majority of love with a mutual attraction turns into regret that immature people do not have mature love for themselves.

When you are immature, you don’t know how to pay attention to your own emotions, your own ideals, and you can’t take care of yourself well, how can you have the ability to love others normally? In the end, it’s nothing more than turning your fears and needs to others in the form of love. the other half.

The regret of love comes from the fact that the pace of growth of two people is always difficult to synchronize. One person always walks too fast, and the other walks too slowly. When the gap cannot be reconciled, we can only choose to leave at the right time.

Regret comes from the fact that pain can promote people's growth. The immature person began to mature after the severe pain of parting. The person who accompanied you through the growth process in the past has been with others.

Regret comes from the fact that it is difficult to give people the determination and motivation to grow without experiencing the pain of parting.

So when I read the poem "Love Someone", what moved me the most was the last line :

like someone,

Starting from the value of the face, falling into the talent,

Loyal to character, obsessed with the flesh,

Fascinated by sound, drunk by affection.

together like this,

is married to love,

May you meet a mature lover,

May you be less hurt when you are stubborn,

May you catch up when you wake up.

I hope that when you wake up and start to grow, you can catch up with the other person you fell in love with back then.

But the world is made up of regrets, you don't know how to cherish when you have it, and regret it when you lose it.

Even if you miss this regret, there are bound to be other regrets, and our memory is only occupied by those unforgettable regrets.

To love yourself comes from regrets that you didn't know how to work hard when you were young, regrets that you couldn't tell right from wrong when you were young, hurt the right person, chased the wrong goals in life, and regretted that you grew up too slowly and wasted the past years.

The biggest regret is the long road of life, everyone will leave themselves one after another, we can only walk the whole journey alone.

But the biggest positive effect of past regrets is to give us the motivation to seek change. Whether it is loving our parents, loving others, or loving ourselves, the regrets left behind make me try my best to remedy what has not happened in the future, so as not to repeat the same mistakes.

These regrets and powers from love, the more sincere and pure they are, the greater the pain they will cause us, and the greater the positive power that can be generated.

Therefore, there is no need to be too sad about the regrets of the past. The past that has happened is powerless to change. The only thing we can do is to turn the pain into grief and anger, and become the power to change tomorrow.

No matter how bruised and bruised you are by love, don't give up sincere love, because the power of growth comes from licking the wound and self-recovery.

The desire for love, the pursuit of knowledge, and the compassion for human beings are the three passions that Russell said supported his life.

I believe that Russell's longing for love in his life must have brought him countless pains and growth. He pursued and longed for knowledge in self-questioning, and he came from the profound experience of his own suffering, which made him understand the suffering of human beings. Full of compassion.

The 533rd day of Perth Diary, the truth of life may be growing in pain

So please don’t be afraid of regrets. Without regrets, there will be no wounds. Without wounds, you will lose the window to see the essence of things. How can you mature as soon as possible.

Please see through the essence of life as soon as possible, still choose to love it, and use your love to create the meaning of life.