Do you really know the people around you?

Today, I received a message from a friend who has not been in touch for a long time. She said that her husband was robbed by her best friend, and now she is considering divorce and wants to ask my opinion.

Everyone should be familiar with this kind of plot, and although my friend is very angry and sad, but the most unacceptable is that the usually seemingly docile best friend is so scheming? In fact, I was not surprised at all about the tragedy she encountered, and I reminded her to pay attention to this best friend. Why? The following is what I have observed from their interactions in the past.

Friend's Traits:

Pretending to be pitiful : For example, I would often say that there is no man around me who can help me with computer repairs, water and electricity, so my friend "enthusiastic" asked her husband to help.

Strong jealousy : When they are chatting, girlfriends always like to criticize others (especially women), when my friends praise a celebrity or a good person, girlfriends always pick out the shortcomings of the other party and criticize them At one point, there were very few people in her heart that she truly admired and admired.

Very sensitive to interests : For example, when my best friend knows that a certain person has special skills and connections, they will ask my friends to help them introduce them, and they will continue to urge the promotion. If the connection fails, they will become angry.

Worship powerful men : Although girlfriends always say that they are very picky and most male friends around them look down on them, they are always very interested when they hear someone mentioning men of status, although they will not necessarily ask for introductions , but I will definitely ask a few more information about this man. Of course, I have praised my friend's husband many times, and said that I envy her luck in picking a good partner.

Why are girlfriends with the above points particularly dangerous? Think about it carefully, if a person especially likes to pretend to be pitiful with men, then some men will definitely be overwhelmed. Coupled with the fact that they are especially jealous of the same sex, how can same-sex friends be spared? Jealousy is something that cannot be controlled by self-control. Today, girlfriends will be jealous of others, and they will definitely be jealous of same-sex friends, right? ! So when we make friends, it's best to beware of jealous people. They may not rob their partners, but they will definitely be jealous of what we have and do things we can't imagine.

As for the yearning for powerful men and interests, this is like a powerful aphrodisiac, which is absolutely incomparable with pure friendship. When we naively think that our love is stronger than gold, when interests When a conflict occurs, the other party will definitely put the word of advantage first, and leave friendship far behind, especially when the partner of the same-sex friend is very good, be careful.

Of course, the above is just an ordinary case, which does not mean that everyone will encounter the same situation, but it can also provide you with a reference for making friends, and sincerely wish everyone to meet good friends with good hearts.