inferiority of self

We are often at an alarming distance from who we know ourselves to be.

It is not easy for us to trust others, but it is easy to trust ourselves. We think we are trustworthy, but we often deceive ourselves by what we do. Maybe the self-deceiver doesn't do it on purpose, but the bad roots hidden in the ego always start on their own. For example, you initially thought that your company colleague Wang Xiaoming was capable and knowledgeable, and he was a friend worthy of your learning and making. So you started to associate with Wang Xiaoming. Whenever you encountered a problem that was difficult to solve, you would feel at ease to ask Wang Xiaoming for advice, and even let him help you. Solve problems. However, later you found that the people around you, including your boss, looked at Wang Xiaoming differently. You found that everyone listened to his opinions more than yours. Although Wang Xiaoming still treats you like a good friend or even a good brother, you have already Can't trust him completely. You start to be wary of Wang Xiaoming, you will look for his fault in some very small places, and you will say that the things you don’t do well are caused by Wang Xiaoming, you try to draw a clear line with Wang Xiaoming, if the situation gets worse One point, you will design to make Wang Xiaoming do something wrong, and even spread unfavorable rumors against him. In fact, you don't know what's going on in your heart. Your ego won't admit your jealousy and despicableness, but you will unconsciously hurt your personality and your friends with your actions. What's more terrifying is that throughout the process, you won't think you have a problem. You are a good person, it is not your fault, right?

Maybe you think such an example is too extreme and terrible, but please ask yourself, who doesn’t have a similar demon in their hearts? Who can really be true to their appearance, only do good things and not bad things, only tell the truth and don’t tell lies, and only help Others will never harm others secretly, and they will never shirk their responsibilities if they know their mistakes. Perhaps, you will think that the dark side of human nature is the norm, and it is not worth making a fuss. But when our society generally turns a blind eye to the dark side of human nature and avoids talking about it, when we are all used to pretending to be good people hypocritically, our situation is actually dangerous.

Dangerous, because we don't know the self who does bad things, we don't know our own insidiousness, greed, narrow-mindedness, suspiciousness, jealousy, and more unknown meanness. If we don’t know this, we will justly and indiscriminately do things that hurt others or deceive ourselves. The chaos of society, perhaps, is the result of too many people having too many vileness.

It is said that to know a person, don't listen to what he has to say, but see what he does. Pay more attention to your own behavior, restrain your unconscious despicableness more, and you will accumulate blessings for others and yourself.

(The core of things. 4)