Express your mood [Are you willing to take off the mask of an adult and face yourself honestly]

Did you choose the mask you want to wear from the mask kitchen today?

Recently, I really feel the mystery of words. It is easier and more apt to describe our current joys, sorrows and sorrows in words than words. Can adults really say what they want when they want to tell their hearts? Actually not. First, you have to ask yourself if you have someone to speak to? Do you have enough trust in your listeners? This concern can be avoided by writing. With a pseudonym, with anonymity can truly express themselves. I enjoy the moment of writing, engrossed in my own world, no need for pretense, I can take off my adult mask for a while and take a breath.

When we were young, we didn’t understand why our parents got up before dawn, and we couldn’t enjoy the time to wake up naturally even on weekends. Now that I have grown up, I realize that what wakes up parents is the responsibility they bear: the responsibility of supporting the family, and the responsibility of taking care of the children's daily life. How many adults are in a state of life where hand stop is equivalent to mouth stop. It is true that reincarnation is also a kind of ability, which is absolutely correct. I have seen mature and stable men, and I have also learned from naive men. One thing that made me very clear is that maturity is not a personality based on fear. There must have been a lot of experience behind him to shape him today.

On the contrary, naive-minded adults only take into account their own feelings, and do not need to bear any responsibility. Just enjoying the days of eating, drinking, and having fun is enough. I often hear: I can not eat, I can starve, but my family needs to eat, and my elderly parents are still waiting for us to take care of them. [ There is a real difference between having parents and having parents . 】 A child without an umbrella must run hard . We do not have the right to choose our family, to choose our parents. When I was a child, I would often read about how my mother didn’t buy new clothes, why she didn’t dress up well, why she still drove a classic car at home and didn’t buy a new car, and so on, and so on. It turned out that the family could not afford it. Living expenses and education expenses have weighed down parents. But they still gritted their teeth and raised us.

As adults, how much grievance, sadness and pressure have you stuffed into your belly? Face life, family, and work with a mask every day. It is obvious that he is not living well, but he has to pretend that he is good and very happy. Do you dare to admit that you are the same? This phenomenon can often be seen on social media, where adults try to disguise themselves and present their best side on the Internet. It is obvious that the marriage is not happy, but the love is displayed on social media, just because I don't want to be a laughing stock in the circle of friends.

Are you the kind of person who just talks about what's on your mind? I am definitely not. After all, my way of making friends is to pay attention to three views, and to disagree with each other. I often hear people around me say: I've told the problem, can you help me solve it? If not, what's the use of saying that? It will only add to the troubles of one more person. Not everyone is fortunate enough to live a life of their own accord. From birth > kindergarten > primary school > middle school > university > love > marriage > having children and living a happy life . Will life really be so orderly and satisfying? The cruel answer is no.

When adults look back on their young and frivolous selves and recall their past lives, I believe most of them are in a state of remorse. Almost every decision we make has the potential to be regretted. When I was in school, I didn’t study hard, skipped school all day, and played games. All my friends were admitted to the ideal university, but I didn’t even have the qualifications to go to university. The young and frivolous view of love, love to the death and death, love to the end, people are hurt, money is gone, but it is yourself who is hurt. When you are young, you have no concept of financial management. You spend money like water, and you have a card in your hand. It was refreshing for a while, and he could be a hero or a hero in front of his girlfriend, but when the monthly bank statement came in, he realized that he had been a bear all the time.

When you look back at such a bad self, do you find it hard to believe how you can do those stupid things? I never thought that I used to be so absurd and regretted that I spent all my energy on the wrong person, but I was unable to live a good life for my parents. Get yourself into debt and have nowhere to go for help. You can only atone for your own mistakes day by day. You can't tell your family and friends, you can't tell your parents just because you don't want to let them down again. But now, when I meet the person I want to protect, I feel that I don't have the ability to make the other person live a good life. All kinds of experiences and unbearable past events can only be contemplation at night. After waking up, put on a mask and greet people with a smiling face as always, burying the pressure of sadness and being an adult who needs to face new challenges again.

Didn't you know that wine was so good? Bitter, astringent and expensive, why are men willing to spend money on drinking. I know that smoking will harm health and damage the liver, but I can't quit the habit of smoking. Adults clearly know the consequences, but they can't quit. Because what they drink is not wine, but loneliness . After drinking the wine one by one, it seems that I swallowed my troubles one by one. They are not smoking cigarettes, but indulging in the time of smoking a cigarette. Spit all the pressure out of your mouth and disappear into the air as smoke. Maybe this is how adults charge. The time when you can really take off your mask and be your true self may be as short as the time to smoke a cigarette or the time to go to the toilet. Do you agree?

After reading many spiritual quotes, Chicken Soup for the Soul advocates being yourself. But if we really take off the mask and get along with family, friends, and colleagues with our own nature, we will surely scare away many people, and only family members can always accept our nature. So you say being an adult is easy? Different occasions, different objects, we must put on different masks. My nature is a very cold person. People who don't know me will think that I am amazing and arrogant. This is my ability to protect myself, writing strangers. So you, who can know my secrets, know your position in my heart, right? Because in front of you, I can remove my mask and tell you the truth that I am not that strong and brave. I also complain, and I have a bad mood too. I don't want to be a sensible adult. [ sensible ] is definitely a derogatory term.

Anyway, I want to encourage the adults around me that there is no law that says you have to hide your vulnerable side. Cry loudly if you want to cry, bad emotions need to be expressed. I know you are very tired now. You were bad and bad in the past, it doesn't matter, it's all in the past tense. Now, the future you will be fine. Don't push yourself into a corner, anxiety and depression are already staring at you not far away, ready to attack you at any time. Not saying it doesn't mean you're fine, you're just habitually carrying it yourself. You're just running away from your cowardly self who doesn't have the courage to face it. I'm also always ready to be a listener. What adults need is not comfort. Sometimes a simple sentence: "It's okay, don't think about it, and I'm still here. That's enough ."

Stop writing here.