Community Call for Papers | About Women's Job Search Dilemma and the Lies They Have to Tell

Due to the epidemic, many of my friends are in the predicament of having to start looking for their next job...
A few days ago, when I chatted about the topic of [finding a job] in the circle of friends, I discovered that all industries are burdened with established impressions. In order to get a job, everyone has to use some sugar-coated shells to package themselves, especially women.

The burden of being single at an older age

Our company is a biotechnology company specializing in export sales. We have production lines, procurement, R&D personnel, quality control and export business in Taiwan. Although it has nothing to do with the business opportunities of the epidemic, our business has never been interrupted, so we are still recruiting people.
A few days ago, when a sister who was in her 40s came to apply for domestic procurement, the female supervisor listened to the other party's self-introduction, and the first thing was to ask.

How old are the parents? Are your parents healthy? Do you need to take care of yourself? Is there anyone else in the family to help with care?

It was only later that I heard that it was because the information column of the sister was filled with "single", so the supervisor was very concerned about whether the other party was mainly responsible for taking care of the parents, and whether there was a need for temporary leave to take the parents to see the doctor?

The stress of a divorced single parent

And a colleague of mine revealed to me when she was slightly drunk on a staff trip that she was actually married at the age of 20 and had a child who was in kindergarten. She divorced not long after the child was born. The child is brought by her and her mother.
But when this colleague came to apply for foreign business, she did not mention her previous marriage, and of course also concealed the existence of the child. Since her appearance is well maintained and she is not very old, naturally no one found out about it.

Several times we went abroad to participate in exhibitions, and the unidentified female supervisor always wanted to help her introduce foreign guests with good personalities (many of our direct customers are legendary golden bachelors).
Once I couldn't watch it anymore, and I felt bad for her to carry it by herself, so I secretly asked her why she didn't mention it to the company?
Just the child health insurance can be linked to the company, and the monthly expenses can be saved a lot.

She said that when she worked in other companies before, bosses or supervisors felt that a divorced woman with children must not be able to stabilize in the workplace. Even if she never took time off because of her children, bosses and supervisors would still look at her differently. The performance appraisal and promotion assessment were also made difficult.

According to statistics from Taiwan, during the job transition period, women's job-hunting time is about two to three months longer than that of men of the same age.
My colleague obviously has a strong foreign language ability, and his appearance is also very good. He can also cooperate with the company's regulations to go abroad to set up exhibitions, but he has experienced a job-waiting period of nearly 10 months (maybe it is also difficult to find a job in the central part).

Later, she changed her resume and concealed her situation during the interview, so she returned to the state of letting her choose the job.

This is actually an astonishing question.
If you see a male subordinate buy a house, a car or become a family in the workplace, everyone will subconsciously feel that this person's workplace stability has become higher, because he has a certain burden (debt), he will definitely work harder, even Will be willing to compromise on certain working conditions, as long as there is no change in the work.

But if a woman shows a certain emotional burden, whether it comes from taking care of parents, children, or even divorced, it will make people feel that she is an unstable employee! Not only will you encounter unnecessary difficulties on the way to job hunting, but it may also affect subsequent assessments and promotions.

The criticized unmarried single status

And I did lie about this job myself.
During the interview and chat, I found that the female supervisor in charge of the interview is a more traditional and conservative person, so I fabricated a boyfriend who I have known for many years and who agreed not to get married but want to spend a lifetime together.
Actually...I've been single for a long time and love being single.

Of course, I also successfully marketed myself to the company and got the position.

On a business trip abroad with this supervisor, a local guest with a good relationship invited us to dinner.
After leaving the table, the supervisor began to gossip about the female guest, saying that she behaved very aggressively, and that she has always been single without a male partner. It is obvious that there must be something unusual in her psychology.
Then I fell into a loop of repeated thoughts, "Is it because I have been single for a long time and become sturdy" "Or is it because of personality problems that lead to being single all the time"......

Right now, I'm very fortunate that I have a fictitious and stable boyfriend XD

Every time I go abroad on business, I have to share a room with this female supervisor.
Every night, she would call SKYPE to go home in Taiwan, chat with her husband and children, and I would also play footsteps and chat with the "legendary boyfriend who has stable relationships" (actually my brother XD). She buys gifts for her husband and children, and I also buy gifts (actually, for my mother, and then my brother doubles the money XD)

A little girl who is worried that she will get married quickly and run away

There is a younger sister in the circle of friends. She graduated from college a few years ago. When she applied for a job recently, she also encountered an older female interviewer who kept asking her if she had a boyfriend? (She really has) Any plans to get married?
However, I can probably understand this case.
Since the job vacancy she was interviewing for was an assistant, it was estimated that the interviewer would be worried that she would get married and have children soon after her job, and it would take a lot of time and cost to train people from scratch.

But I think if the interviewer was a little boy today, the interviewer's question would not be these...

Men seem to be more professional occupations

In our country, there are girls' classes, and many of them became doctors later. And they and my high school boy classmates have now become hospital colleagues (after all, there are only a few big hospitals in the central part of the country XD)
Therefore, our current alumni reunion is also co-organized together. Even if you have been to this school in high school or joined us in high school, as long as you graduate from this school, you are the target of our recruitment ( lol), after all, everyone's time is really hard to get together.

I heard some very special phenomena in this workplace several times during the banquet.

For example, a male classmate who had already won a lot of time in a large hospital, obviously did not take a biology class in three years of high school because of the grouping relationship, just because the score in the big test was too good, so he entered the medical department.
On the other hand, I was a rotten physics student for three years in high school, but was admitted to a department that required physics.
So during the summer vacation of the freshman year, he helped me with physics, and I helped him with biology. The two of them could be called brothers and sisters in trouble (laughs). This revolutionary emotion also established our friendship.

On the stage, he always humbly said that he could climb faster because his classmates let him in the same period.
But he also confessed to me in private that he is also a surgeon, and everyone still wants to choose a male doctor. Naturally, his performance is better accumulated (hospitals focus on registered performance), so the evaluation score is relatively easy to win.

Another male student, just three years after graduating from the Department of Architecture, was suddenly inspired by the group of doctors at the reunion, and went to study the "Post-Baccalaureate Chinese Medicine Department". Of course, the most important thing in this alumni association is the test-related notes and reference book resources.
The application of professional painting skills trained by the Department of Architecture in the Department of Traditional Chinese Medicine is simply [high energy]!
Later, he was successfully admitted to the license. Although he is now paying to see a doctor in someone else's TCM clinic, his monthly performance is still much better than that of many female students who went into the workplace as soon as they graduated from the TCM department of a university.

Because in addition to gynecology, in the traditional Chinese medicine market, people are also used to looking for male doctors.
If you meet another interesting male doctor, it will be easy to accompany and support a group of sister fans and continue to go back to see gynecology.
The performance calculation of traditional Chinese medicine clinics is more cruel than that of hospitals. The rate of visitors, the rate of return visits, etc. are all linked to their salary.

And almost every one of my female students who have embarked on the path of traditional Chinese medicine has experienced the stage of dressing up and dressing up, just to make their medical skills look more convincing and get more return visits.
On the contrary, the male students almost never experienced such a stage.

Obviously, the effort in school is not less, and the purgatory-like internship career has also survived, but in real life, gender will still become a reference point when choosing a doctor.

come on, let's take a quiz

On the premise that you haven't watched this Korean drama, do you subconsciously feel that the female doctor in the middle is like a doctor who has just graduated and has little experience? And other male doctors seem to be more trustworthy?!

But in fact, they are all 40 years old in the play, and they are all 38-42 years old in real life, not the age of Xiao Xianrou, and the female doctor in the middle is both in the play and in real life. 40 years old. She is an experienced musical actor in real life, and she has also performed on stage with the crew. She is a very powerful actor. In the play, he is also an associate professor doctor whose ability is not inferior to others.
(PS. [Doctor Wise Life] This Korean drama is really good!! If you have time, I really recommend you to come and catch it.)

Epilogue

Is it fraudulent to get a job by concealing your true status as described above? I'm not sure about that either.
But in many cases, it is because the salary is really needed, that the public will use a more acceptable state to deal with the job search.
I don’t know if anyone has found from the stories in the article that even female interviewers may also use the same narrow perspective to evaluate job applicants.
Hopefully one day in the future, the gender lines in the workplace will be more blurred and more friendly.
Let the workplace return to the most fundamental evaluation method of functional competence.

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