Love Difficulties - Should I be in a relationship with a bad guy?

In the circle of friends, I am a voice and problem solver. Often when my friends are in trouble, or encounter setbacks in life, they will ask me for help, or want to get some advice. As the saying goes, the girls around me are relatively pure.

Recently, there is a girl S, who has felt a little lonely since she let go of her last relationship. She feels that she should talk about love at this age and get married after stabilization.

At work, she met a man with flower arms (full of tattoos). The flower-armed man had met her several times, and he started to attack. After taking the phone, he kept using rhetoric and vowed to meet with the girl S. Girl S has never met a boy who actively pursues her like this. Although she doesn't know her intentions, she feels that she should give the flower-armed man a chance to chat and have a meal.

The flower-armed man successfully made an appointment with the girl S, and on the way home after dinner, he tried to hold the girl S's hand, and sent it to the girl's house downstairs to kiss her. Girl S pulls back in danger and refuses the kiss from the flower-armed man. But from the beginning, the boy said that the girl S is his woman, and there will be no other woman except her.

Girl S has become his girlfriend in a blur...

The flower-armed man is very proactive. He knows where the girl S works and lives, so he often waits for her nearby, and even pretends to meet her by chance, pulling the girl S to have dinner with his friends. Girl S is embarrassed, because she never promised to be his girlfriend, so she started falling in love.

After the girl S told me about this, I made a general analysis, and I suggested that if the girl S liked him very much, she could continue. If you can't talk about liking, don't continue to think about it, because several problems with boys were found in the discussion...

1. There are bad tastes and good tastes, and he smokes and drinks alcohol. When he was young, he was a little hunk who would use weapons to chase down the enemy, and he considered himself a bad person, a devil, and a girl was an angel. (In fact, boys know themselves very well and are very frank, but girls should not expect to change him!)

2. I didn’t even know about the dating platform of the girl S, so all kinds of high-intensity sweet words are necessary for her (generally if you have a good impression of a person of the opposite sex, you will use different methods to get to know each other more! He is more like in a bar way of chasing girls.)

3. I want to use physical contact to confirm the relationship as soon as possible, and make a quick decision (pure girls are most likely to be bound by this kind of thing, thinking that they have been pulled or kissed by boys, although they were afraid or embarrassed to resist at the time, but it also means tacitly, girls should also take responsibility, they are started to fall in love but dare not refuse)

4. Will use bitter tactics, such as physical discomfort, self-mutilation, tears (generally girls are afraid of hurting others, this is a kind of kidnapping of girls!)

From the perspective of the girl S, how should the girl S choose the other half when she is at an age suitable for love and marriage? I told her 2 conditions for reference.

1. The other party has a stable job (generally speaking, a person with a stable job represents the company's approval, ability, loyalty, punctuality, good character, or good in all aspects, at least meeting the most basic conditions and approval will let him Staying in the company all the time. Generally, those with unstable work have some problems with their own personality or lack of ability.)

2. When you are with each other, you will be blessed by friends and family on both sides. (Bystander Qing's statement is not unreasonable. For example, the girl S talked to several friends and family members, and everyone was unanimously worried about the girl S, not blessing. The boy friend also told her boyfriend to cherish the girl S this time... )

After all, there are not many people who can meet the above two conditions and have a good impression of each other... Just refer to it!

I think the rare good man is the type of self-discipline! Why do some girls turn into white swans ~ black swans ~ day and night after dating and marriage? Mainly due to some worries and worries. If boys are self-disciplined, girls are very easy and cheerful, and girls don’t nagging, boys will feel very happy too!