The Ukrainian-Russian War is also a mirror of real life

It was dinner time one evening in 2013, and my mother had to temporarily get rid of the clingy little girl who was under a year old at the time, and fed the mouths that hadn't eaten yet. So, I took my concubine into my room and let me, who was working, take care of her first.

Yes, I am at work, and my working hours are never 9 to 5. As a part-time research assistant of several bosses who have taken over many odd jobs, I open the mailbox, and each has a job explained, and it can be dealt with first. When the niece was brought in, I was processing the exam papers that I brought home from Linkou yesterday, registering students' grades one after another. Then, holding the child and getting the grades at the same time can barely make do.

At this moment, an old man who hardly participated in the actual operation of housework, but liked to play chess indiscriminately, walked into my room with a shitty face.

Can't you see your mom is busy? Can't even help! Sitting in the room every day is very relaxing and nothing to do!

This old man probably thinks that I have to go into the kitchen with my child to help cooking, as in the old commercials or dramas, so that I am really doing something, otherwise as long as I sit, in his eyes, I am relaxed and relaxed, as if I didn't see it, I was holding the child in my left hand and pressing the keyboard in my right hand.

An old man who has never been involved in housework has absolutely no idea that "one kitchen can't hold two women", and of course he doesn't think of the danger of carrying a child into the kitchen and possibly being hurt by heat. Not only have no practical experience, but also made it clear that they do not want to have copper, lithium and zinc.

Look carefully before you speak! I'm taking care of my children while working, it's not easy to be idle! (laugh)

Old men often want to see stitches and insert needles, and give me a hat that life is easy and nothing to do, and it is not only today. In the past, when faced with such mindless criticism, I tried my best not to take it to heart. So even though I was a little unhappy at the moment, I still suppressed the fire in my heart first, with a calm tone and a sincere smile, and gave him this answer. who knows......

Tell me again and give it a try, be careful I beat you!

That's not it! I didn't talk nonsense. I am indeed doing my own thing while helping, and I am not very leisurely or relaxed. It is a fact that many things are really not what you think.

How can an old man have no head in his head to threaten to use violence against a woman who is helping to take care of the child, just because I told him the truth that made him lose face? Reasonably and peacefully explain my situation here, but there is a danger of being beaten. If I hadn’t been holding the child, I believe he would beat me right away.

The old lady seemed to hear a rattling voice in the kitchen. Zhang Luo's meal just came to an end, and hurriedly came in and called for the meal, trying to ease the emotions of both parties. stop whining Oh! Now that this has happened, I have no appetite. I feel terrified no matter what I think about sitting at a dining table with such an unreasonable old man who just wanted to use violence to maintain his dignity.

do not care! After sending the old lady back to the old lady, with fear in my heart, I quickly packed my backpack, quickly passed the dining table, and rushed out the door. I was worried that the old man would chase after me. I didn’t even dare to wait for the elevator, so I quickly put on my shoes and ran down. stairs.

How are you now! Where are you going to run to, if you go out, don't come back!

The violence revealed by the old man's words became more and more hideous.

I tell you! I'm going to the police station for the record now, and I want the neighbors in this building to know that you are a violent old man who is inexplicably and irrationally attacking his family! You wait for the police to come!

I was in the stairwell, cranking up the volume of the shouting to the point where as long as the occupants of this apartment were at home, they could hear it. I rushed downstairs, grabbed my bicycle, stepped on the pedals, and rode like a lifeless ride. I didn't feel safe until I arrived at the 10-minute drive away from home, tied the research room assigned to me at that time, and locked the door.

In fact, I didn't go to the police. Although I was facing the threat of violence, I still wanted to show some sympathy to the family I lived with. I saw what this old man cares most about: face, so I used the police to remind him that if he accidentally shows his face that is usually not known to outsiders, I will let him become this apartment, and even this alley is the most notorious man!

Trying to keep calm, suppressing the heartbeat that skipped a little, shaking hands, he first entered two sets of phone numbers into his mobile phone, one is the Alley Police Station, and the other is the 113 Domestic Violence Line. She hid in the research room all night, had nowhere to take a shower, and was sweating profusely. She was exhausted and did not close her eyes all night.

In fact, you can come to my house to take a bath at that time, and it is no problem to live in my house.

Afterwards, I learned that a friend in the lab where I was in distress said this. I'm a person who doesn't bother my friends as much as I can, and I don't have a change of clothes to go out, so it's strange to ask to take a shower at someone else's house.

It was probably my counterattack, which was beyond the old man's expectations (it can be seen that I was kind, courteous, courteous and thrifty before), and I didn't come back to embarrass me after I got home. For many years, his impression to the neighbors in this apartment is "friendly, polite, funny, easy-going", plus a "good man" who will help take out the garbage and walk the dog. If his image collapses among the neighbors, he will be pointed out. A little embarrassing. It seems that my shouting in the stairwell the day before made him a little scared.

Since then, the social distance between me and this old man is to maintain three meters. If less than three meters, I will pick up my mobile phone to record, or make a gesture of dialing to the police station and 113, reminding him not to go overboard. Occasionally when I meet someone with a friendly tone who wants to talk (who knows if he wants to lower my guard), I always respond in a chariot-like tone: "What are you doing?", "Don't come near!", "No time! ”, otherwise it has been read.

I don't regret running away from the house that night that night. Since then, I have adopted social distancing, videotaping, and posing to the police as a means of self-protection. Of course, in doing so, I also bear the burden of my hard-working mother, and my brothers and sisters who have no relationship with my father.

Small countries should not stimulate big countries! Ukraine got Russia to fix you, it's self-inflicted!

Ukraine wants to join NATO, and this is what Russia cannot accept. Russia wants Ukraine to discuss everything with Russia.... so that the whole of Europe will return to the right track that Russia thinks.

Even if it is not in the real battlefield of Ukraine and Russia, this kind of discussion still gives me a very strong sense of sight.

Why don't you talk to your dad well, so you don't provoke him on the front!

When he says he wants to hit someone, don't continue to stimulate him to do it!

These relatives who defend the perpetrator never want to understand. When I face this old man's malicious criticism from time to time, "I sit and relax, I don't help with housework", I have chosen to swallow it silently and don't care. How many years have I been? ? At that time, before I rushed out and threatened to call the police, I explained to him with a smile that I was not as relaxed as he said. If rational explanation is useless, then further self-preservation is necessary!

If Putin is not the President of Russia, he may be the kind of relatives, neighbors, passers-by who are not advanced, self-righteous, and low-key. As long as they do not cater to their unreasonable demands, they will threaten action or affection. Then, there will be a large number of village wishes around them, and they will continue to use tolerance and harmony as reasons to ask the victim to communicate with the perpetrator rationally, not to provoke the perpetrator, and avoid the attack. The head is fine.

If the victim wants to protect themselves further, these villagers will begin to examine the victim, and they feel that the perpetrator will explode because the victim does not discuss it properly, so the perpetrator will have to violently confront each other.

Everyone's life will see Ukraine, and Russia's shadow, kneeling to seek peace, will always only make the perpetrators more and more domineering. You don't want to touch politics, but politics wants to touch you at any time.

No one is an outsider, even if we are no longer on the real battlefield.

Come on Ukraine!

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