Maintaining a relationship is actually very simple, as long as you can do three things

There is no doubt that most people actually pursue a stable emotion, because this will not only make them feel safe, but more importantly, we will be happier. Because in real life, most of the emotional cases we have seen are not complete, so many people begin to have doubts about such a thing as emotion, thinking that emotion has a shelf life. How sweet the emotion will change the taste, or become another emotion, such as from love to family and so on. In fact, it is not a very complicated thing to maintain a relationship, or to keep our emotions fresh, as long as you can do the following three points.

First, how long your self-confidence can be maintained, how long the other party will love you

Many people tend to fall into a state of anxiety after entering a relationship for too long. For example, women may think that as they grow older, men will definitely like the new and hate the old, and even hate themselves. Men, on the other hand, may think that they don't earn enough money, that there is no way for their women to lead a sufficiently superior life, and that none of the bulls they have boasted have come true. Women may despise themselves and think that they are not worthy of her.

Obviously, when two people in a relationship begin to doubt themselves, all kinds of contradictions will inevitably follow, and the sweetness between them will disappear. So why is this? Obviously, the reason why this type of emotion has deteriorated is the low self-esteem in their hearts. In fact, most of the time, the reason why we fall in love with a person is definitely because we are very confident in front of each other and can feel ourselves in the eyes of the other party, which is what we often call the sense of existence. If this sense of existence disappears one day, it means that such a feeling also disappears. Obviously, for those couples who still love each other but have to choose to break up with each other, the reason for such a phenomenon is that they lose their confidence in front of each other. If we want to keep a relationship fresh, the most important thing we need to do is to maintain our self-confidence at all times, instead of self-doubt and self-denial at every turn. From a woman's point of view, the growth of years will indeed affect our appearance, but at the same time we must also realize that the charm of a woman has nothing to do with age, as long as we can maintain self-confidence, we can find the beauty that belongs to our own age. And this beauty is also very attractive.

From a man's point of view, it's true that we have to be responsible, but that doesn't mean we have to be rich or powerful. As long as we can take up the responsibility of the family and let our lover and children feel full sense of security, then we are a qualified man, and there is no need to completely deny it because none of the bulls we have boasted have come true. Own.

In short, in love, no matter what time it is, we must maintain enough self-confidence, believe in our own charm, and believe in our ability and strength. Only in this way will we not seek a sense of existence from our lover too much, and only in this way can we truly feel our own existence and our importance to each other. Only in this way can we make our lover feel full of security and let them always wander in happiness and sweetness.

Second, don't force the other party to change, just change yourself

Many times we will have such a phenomenon, that is, many couples are often satisfied with each other 100 points when they are just in love. However, when they officially entered into a relationship or got married, their attitude towards their lover changed 180 degrees. As long as they saw each other, they would immediately enter an emotional state, point to each other, and then ask each other. Change, anyway, is dissatisfaction with the other party.

Obviously, no matter who the person we fall in love with, there must be shortcomings and advantages. Otherwise, it is impossible for us to fall in love with each other, and it is even more impossible for us to enter into a marriage with each other. So what is the reason for us? How many people change their opinion of their lover after marrying them? In fact, the reason is very simple, that is, we always hope that the other party can be closer to our ideal image of the perfect lover. Obviously this is an impossibility for the simple reason that no one in this world is made for you. Each person's behavior, habits, and character formation are related to their growth environment. These are immutable objective existences. If you have to change, you will not be able to live with yourself.

So what can we do to make our emotions more stable? In fact, if you really want to improve your marital and emotional quality, the only way is to change yourself, not to force the other person to change. The reason is that if you force the other person to change their character or behavior, it means that you are already dissatisfied with the other person, or you make the other person feel that you are dissatisfied with them.

However, for any person, if they really want to change their character, it will be an extremely difficult thing, and most of the time it is an impossible thing, so when you go over and over again And the three focus their attention on the shortcomings of their lovers, then the only thing they can do is to repeatedly expose their shortcomings to you, so your emotional state will inevitably become worse and worse. So how can we improve our love, or the quality of our marriage? In fact, the best way is to change ourselves. For example, if we can't let the other party change their shortcomings, then try to accept these, or ignore the existence of the other party's shortcomings. From another perspective, if we want to make the other person love us more, then please improve ourselves first, only then will the other party cherish you more. Instead of screaming every day to let the other party love you, let the other party cherish you more, and let the other party change for you.

Third, establish a spiritual connection with your lover

There are many types of love, but true long-term love usually has such a feature, that is, two people who love each other can communicate with each other at the spiritual level, and they are each other's soul mates.

Obviously, we all know that the most essential reason why human beings have love is because of the existence of hormones. But when two people enter into a relationship, the secretion of hormones will gradually decrease as time goes on, so two people who were originally very in love will inevitably lose their previous passion, and their feelings between each other will become more and more getting lighter.

But if two people who love each other can establish a spiritual connection, can comfort and tolerate each other when the other is depressed, and can accompany each other intimately when the other is happy and crying, then such a relationship will definitely last for a long time. The passion between them can last forever. So if you really want to build a lasting and stable relationship with the person you love, you need to go into the heart of the other person and at the same time give yourself to the other person without reservation, so that the two people can form a spiritual connection. .

Of course, the so-called spiritual link is not only the ability to feel the emotional state of the other party and resonate with the other party, but also the spiritual resonance at the level of concepts, knowledge and culture. Therefore, when we enter a relationship or marriage, we also need to actively improve ourselves and keep pace with the growth rate of the other party. Only such a relationship will be more close and stable. In short, for us living in the current era, it is not very difficult to obtain a relationship, but if we want to obtain a stable and lasting relationship, we need to do at least the above three points.