Hey, the big sweet potato from ten years ago, please receive the letter!

Hey, big sweet potato from ten years ago, hello!

I'm curious under what circumstances would you read this letter, sitting at your desk seriously? Lazy in bed watching? Or, hiding in the school toilet and peeking at it? XDD

I suddenly had the opportunity to write to myself 10 years ago, and honestly, I don't know what to say or what not to say. If I tell you what will happen in the next 10 years, will it keep you stuck in the "future" I tell you? Does it affect every decision you make next, making you lose your freedom of choice in some way?

If so, I might as well not tell you what's going to happen in the next ten years.

If I really have to say anything, I can only say that your next ten years will be beautiful and precious to me. I hope you can experience and feel all things firsthand, and cherish all the time.

Instead of talking about the future you, let’s talk about the present you.

You are preparing for the SPM exam for Form 5, right? We grew up thinking that exams are a big deal, as if we were alive just to study for exams. I don't seem to have any other goals other than getting good grades in the exam, so when I think about the last exam in middle school, I feel very confused, and I don't know where I will go in the future and where I should go.

I want to tell you that it's normal to be confused. On the one hand, you don't know yourself well enough, and you don't know what you like and what suits you; on the other hand, your parents protect you so well that you only follow step by step from childhood to adulthood Parents arranged to go, so good that you don't know what the world looks like outside the scope of your parents' permission.

I want you to understand that your life, and the rest of your life, is yours, not someone else's. So, start taking control of your life and work hard for yourself. Think carefully about the life you want and plan for your life. Trust me, you absolutely have the right and the ability.

Life is not just about reading exams, it also has dreams, passions, longings and so much more. . . Most importantly, know what you want. If you don't know, you can be brave and try something different. There are a lot of things you have to try to know if they are suitable for you, just take what others say as a reference. It is the most real thing that I have tried and felt.

The world is very big, and there are too many interesting things waiting for you to explore, so, don’t just fall asleep when you have nothing to do, try more different activities, read more books, and slowly find out Your own interests, discover the things you like, imagine the life you want, and then regard it as a goal, and plan and realize it step by step.

Remember that you hate the traditional education of your parents, because they are really strict, so you don't have the same freedom as other classmates, and you can't give your whole heart to the society you care about like other classmates. Although I still feel regretful when I think about it now, all those things have passed away, and the past, let it pass.

It's just that if there is a similar situation next time, maybe you can try to sit down and have a good communication with your parents, try to understand their thoughts, and let them know your thoughts. Although they are stubborn and may not listen, how can they know what you think if you take it to heart? Right?

Remember, when communicating, even if it is reasonable, try to be patient, control your emotions, and don’t raise your voice. While sometimes aggrieved, raising your voice doesn't make the message communicate effectively, it just makes communication more difficult. So when you can't talk, just leave for a while to calm down, and then find a chance to talk.

Oh yes, don't you have a singer dream? If you really like to sing, you can sing it seriously, it's not a big deal to try anyway. It is very happy to be able to work hard for what you like to do. You don't care too much about what others say. If you want what you want in your heart, go after it. Be brave!

Speaking of singing, it probably reminds you of him, right? I can tell you about this, you are all doing well, so you can let go. Do you still remember that song that he practiced with you countless times for the competition? Think about it now. This song really suits you right now. . (laugh)

Now I will give you this song, I hope you can get out of this relationship slowly, and you will stop calling him secretly.

***A song for you in 2011***

Finally, I want to say, don't be too hasty, take one step at a time, and rest assured that it is more important to do things well. Sometimes it's faster to go slowly .

Well, I remember you don't like being lectured, so I'll stop here. I don’t know if you will choose the same path as me in the end, or live a completely different life, but I sincerely hope that the path you choose next is for yourself.

Bless you here, I hope you dare to dream, love yourself, and love life!

October 12, 2021 Big sweet potato ten years later