:: Life Record:: Celebrating Valentine's Day, how to achieve a balance between the two

A few days ago, when Valentine's Day was over, a friend sent me a message asking me how I spent that day.

: Ah, it's very common to sleep until you wake up naturally, and eat breakfast happily. After going out for a walk, Ah Chou ordered a hot pot, and finally went home to meet the new cat, and spent the day like this.

: I'm so envious... I'm so envious of the couples who take the initiative to arrange the itinerary

:envious? Suddenly I don't understand the meaning of friends

The friend went on to say that he had already made a reservation for the restaurant, and he was looking forward to whether the boys would prepare surprises, but nothing was left. After dinner, he started to swipe his phone~~ I felt that he didn't pay attention to this festival at all. I

After listening to it, my thoughts went back to the year before. It is rare to have a special day when we can get along again. I also happily booked a restaurant and booked a seat by myself that day, and arranged the itinerary for that day. Full control arrangements

result

on the contrary

After the day was over, I always felt something strange, an indescribable void

But there is no explosion point, so it is placed like this

Until the eve of Valentine's Day this year, I took the initiative to tell Ah Chou, is there any restaurant that can arrange for you on that day's itinerary? That day, I wanted to enjoy the itinerary you arranged and surprise A Chou, who was usually full of wood. That day, he rarely showed his will to survive. Not only did I pick my favorites for breakfast, but I also found a cool tea-based hot pot in the restaurant at night. Shop

What I was going to do that day, he cooperated without complaint all day long, and made me live comfortably. Except I am very grateful to Ah Chou for being a little caring every now and then, so as to keep the little candlelight of love in the wind and rain. To be a little trash, and occasionally there are times when you want to be pampered

On the other hand, the experience is that if you feel any discomfort in your relationship, you have to say it.
say it right away

Otherwise, the other party can't read minds or divination, and will always think that you have a good heart.

But a lot of the other half (including the former me) also think that the other half should understand me very well, he should be able to see my inner theater

As everyone knows, usually do not know

Fortunately, I felt that "I don't like to order restaurants by myself" that day, and I brought it up to chat with Ah Chou, and he was also willing to change, creating a happy day for everyone.

I shared the above transformation process with my friend. He also thinks that maybe he can try it in this direction, otherwise he will feel uncomfortable in his heart. Maybe you who read the article may want to say such simple and trivial things. Write it down?

Haha, looking back, it seems like a small thing

But the things that can pass are the small things, and the things that can't get through are the big things. Every aspect of getting along with a couple is honed by themselves. No one is born close to another person. This is the first time I realized that there are many The communication and running-in described by experts of both genders also have such plain and clear practical experience.

Many things that were thought to be no big deal turned out to be the beginning of another thing

Maybe the only way to discover and solve small things in this way is the way for both parties to get along for a long time.

Such a clichéd ending (laughs)

Maybe the actual couple's daily life, that's it

Postscript: After the friend said it, the other half also said it. Because the relationship between the units was transferred recently, he never paid attention to it, and hoped to be considerate to each other, so it ended successfully like this.