"Self-decoding: Love Myself" essay competition, let's talk about "sex"!

※ Introduction

Kiss, hug, caress, and make love. She would still be wet, but she still didn't have the feeling of being filled in the little yellow text that she had seen when the foreign object entered. The broken groan was connected with a certain emotion in her heart, she was thrown out, then pulled in, thrown out again, entered again, and then there was a slight "snap" in her mind, and she couldn't think of anything anymore .

The two chatted after having sex for the first time, "Are you in love?" "No." "Otherwise, why haven't you done it for so long?" Shen Yanyu looked at the sleeping person next to her pillow, and suddenly felt that she didn't have the passion she had after having sex. She is no longer interested in masturbating the people around her and her future, and the loneliness that is missing in her heart has not been filled as before. After a brief shower, she rode to the beach alone. He took out the lighter and the cigarette case from his pocket and lit it. The whole seawall was only lit by her faint flame. It's a bit cold tonight, it should be more peaceful if someone sleeps beside me.

(The above is from @五月. )

※ Reason for initiation

Readers in Taiwan can more or less feel the spread of the recent #Metoo incident, from the political circle to the academic circle to the entertainment circle, and I think this should not be just a "case" problem, but a problem of the whole society . The various incidents of sexual harassment and the various controversies that follow are actually inseparable from the so-called "sex". Whether it is female sex or male sex, these are quite complicated and difficult to sum up in one word.

So what is "sex" to you? What is your body like to you? Is it ashamed? Is it private? Or confident? What about your sex? Is coding required? Is it still possible to be frank?

In addition, recently, the editor-in-chief @Jeger has also launched a "Community Activity Proposal｜Welcome to Code Color City" on Matt City, and the concept of "sex" has gradually attracted everyone's attention in Matt City. So why do you need "code"? Is it ashamed? Or is the "code" mentioned by Soliton an unknown trauma in life ? Or maybe @Angela Chen wrote about the "coding experience" 30 or 40 years ago and reflected on the concept of sex education at that time, so it is "have to code"?

In order to respond to the above various experiences related to coding, this time, my younger brother, I once again launched a solicitation for essays! Everyone is welcome to talk about your "self-related" sexual or physical experiences, which can be brave and loving. Also, do you like the way you look now? What twists and turns have there been? From what experiences have you learned to "love yourself"? This process involves digestion, is it time to share?

※ Detailed Rules for Calling for Papers

• Theme: Anything related to the exploration of one's own body or sexuality.

• Number of words: 500 words or more.

• Associate this article and tag: Love Myself

• Time: from now until July 31



※🦄Reward🦄

When thinking about rewards, I feel that giving likecoin every time is so boring, this time we will draw a lottery! Draw books and Traveloggers NFT! That's right, it's pumped! There are eight prizes in total, three books, five Traveloggers, and each person can only get one prize at most!

prize one

Amiya. Srinivasan, Sexual Justice: Who Decides Your Sexual Fetishes, Sexual Objects? Not your free will, but class, power, and pornography. How to free yourself from these shackles? "

Is your sex really in your control? Or is it influenced by various ideologies and political powers? We being the Internet generation, the Internet is a powerful lever that deepens gender class issues in the real world? Or can it be leveled because of its anonymity? Does a poor black woman face the same gender oppression as a middle-class white woman? All of the above issues can be discussed in detail in this book, and perhaps it can further lead everyone to rethink what kind of imagination "sex" is.

prize two

 Annie. Aino's " Memory Is Nothing But Everything Seen Through: 2022 Nobel Laureate of Literature Anne Aino's Classic Novels "

As a Nobel Prize winner, Aino often writes her own experiences into her novels. Perhaps this book can be said to be a great "model" for this essay call. Aino explained in detail how she kept self-doubt and disconnected from the world repeatedly during the process of pregnancy and abortion. Especially when you fall into "that monster" in your own womb, it may be another self that falls at that moment, another self that you don't want, a self that doesn't even have any love.

prize three

Chizuko Ueno, "Beginning at the Limit"

Chizuko Ueno is a writer and scholar that I have liked quite a lot these past few months. This book "Beginning at the Limit" is a dialogue between Mr. Ueno and an AV actress Ryomi Suzuki who graduated from Keio University. Through this book, we will see an incisive dialogue between a woman from a wealthy background who has become an actress and a well-known feminist. There is no dispute, no right or wrong, only two women's views on self and gender, the whole book The feeling is tender and thought-provoking.

prize four

Five Traveloggers NFTs! The funding for this event is the source of funding for Matt's "Event Ambassador"! Everyone is welcome to participate 😎

※ Example article (the old style is called 🤖GPT writing, haha)

我的身體，我的性，對我來說並不是隱藏或羞愧的存在，也不是為了別人的目光而存在。它是我，且唯一的我，這樣的認識源於曾經的掙扎與尋求，也是過去的碼無法掩蓋的現實。曾經，我將性視為一種禁忌，它是被緘默、遮掩，被教育和社會壓縮在角落的存在。我記得，當年學校性教育課的老師們搞笑的表情，帶著緊張和尷尬，猶如談論著世界末日一般。那時的我，如同許多女孩一樣，為了自身的安全，被迫學習了"忍耐"。因為，忍耐意味著不問題，不探索，安靜地接受那些不公和不適。然而，我明白這並不是我要的生活。我開始問問題，我開始學習並了解我的身體，我的性。我發現，我的身體並不只是一種物理存在，而是感知世界的方式。我的性並不只是生理反應，而是與他人連結的橋樑，也是我與自我相認的過程。這些發現，使我將自己看見為一個完整的人，不再被矮化，被忽視，被打碼。確實，我碼過，為了避免那些貶低與評價，為了避免被他人畫出的框架壓碎。然而，我也看到，不論是否打碼，那些痛苦仍會存在。所以，我選擇拆碼。透過寫作與分享，我打開了對自我的探索，並找到了自我接納與愛自己的力量。現在，我愛我的身體，我愛我的性。它們讓我看見世界的美好，也讓我經歷了人生的種種。我嘗試去接觸那些我曾經害怕的部分，我嘗試去理解與愛護它們，就像我對待我自己的方式。回顧過去的波折，我認為，每個人的身體與性都應該被尊重和欣賞，而不應該被壓縮或打碼。我們需要敞開心胸，接受並理解自我，並且，這個過程是需要時間和勇氣的。所以，讓我們一起，在自我認識的道路上，同行、分享，並共享愛與勇氣。