The transition of the first 30's

Yesterday, a good friend called. We chatted on the phone for more than three hours. The reason why we had so many conversations was because we hadn't had a deep chat for a long time. Only record our content.

house price

We talked about a lot of topics today. First, I talked about her buying a pre-sale house, and said that she would start saving money in the future. I was only worried that she would not be able to make money, but she said that if she didn’t buy it, it would become more and more expensive. And I say this is anticipatory psychology! But indeed, everyone thinks this way, so it is understandable that house prices are getting higher and higher. Those who own a house don't want house prices to fall. So this seems to be an irreversible thing. So she thinks that she can do it first, while now she thinks she can do it.

drop control

I was surprised that one day she would tell me to do it first and then say something like this. After all, as a Virgo, it is difficult not to make a decision to move later. You must first think of the worst and be fully prepared. She said there were so many things out of control this year that it was hard to tell.

And I also agree that since resignation, many things are not in the situation predicted at the beginning, and even our mentality has changed again and again. We have all learned to follow the situation and can only solve one thing . There is not enough time for worry, and anxiety is also faster to deal with than to tell others.

For families, partners, and colleagues, we also begin to learn to let go of our entanglements. We really can only control ourselves. Other people are not under our control. We can only adjust our mentality and how to make our own decisions than others. How am I still important.

Friendship in a partnership lasts longer than love

In fact, I used to pursue my soul mate very much. I felt that the partner must know me very well, and then I felt that we were very compatible, but she kept telling me that her husband did not make her feel very compatible at the beginning, but after getting along, When they feel they can communicate, they begin to understand each other. She thinks that it is unrealistic for me to pursue sparks or be very enthusiastic at the beginning , because who can keep the enthusiasm? In the beginning, the compatibility is just patience with each other, and the spark gradually subsides is all kinds of incompatibility. So she always felt that the fit at the beginning was false. Remind me not to be too demanding of the other party to understand me as long as I can chat.

And now I gradually feel that long-term relationships are built by friendship, not love. Love can make people willing to give, and friendship is the key to long-term business, so I also began to want to know people for the purpose of establishing friendship rather than finding a partner. Hopefully such a theory can lead me to a truly stable and long-lasting relationship. (laugh)

Time is the criterion for prioritization

Listening to the gossip of the people around you, although you can understand the person involved, it is not like the old chicken woman. If you want to save others or persuade others, you can only ask yourself how you will make decisions when you encounter them? and admonish it. If the other party is willing to listen to suggestions, they will be willing to propose a plan, but they will only answer if others ask questions, instead of trying to intervene in the other party's affairs by relying on themselves as a relative or friend. I don't know if this counts as indifference? Maybe it's also that we don't have the time to pay attention to others as we used to? ! In short, who is worth our time, has a ruler in mind.

Dazed at work

The arrival of 30 is really a reminder, reminding us that we are not in a good position in society. I think she has a strong practical ability, negotiates the price, and has good skills. I encourage her not to use the salary of the back office to do so much business. Before receiving the bonus, she will seriously think about how to realize her ability after buying a house.

As for me, as mentioned in the previous articles, I can only try to get the license first. I can say everything... I remember the feeling I wrote late at night:

This time I have deeply realized that where you spend your time and energy, you will grow stronger.

Stop looking back at your losses and focus on the compounding effect of rolling out yourself.

The fear is still there, and the anxiety still pops up from time to time, but it is unexpected to have it now.

The unknown is worth our adventure!

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