Carrying some fragmented thinking from Weibo

Very happy to receive the registration code from Matters! I sent an application in July this year, and I used the gmail mailbox. I didn't expect that the ladders had expired and I still haven't received them. I feel very sad. Because I now work in a foreign media, my office computer can directly climb the wall. I was pleasantly surprised to find the registration code when I checked my email today, and I registered immediately. I came to matters by groping all the way from the end media. As a journalism student, what I felt most deeply in the four years of college was the change of the whole value and the change of information channels. This transformation contains the characteristics of the times and my personal experience, and I will expand on it in the future.

I first learned about blockchain technology in July last year, and I kept thinking that it would be great if it could be used by social media! Because this method resists my most hated censorship! I was reported because of my remarks on WeChat. Later, I moved to Weibo and left a lot of thoughts on Weibo. Of course, a large part of it has been censored by Weibo (which also makes me feel the importance of the blockchain discussion platform), and now I will transfer it a little bit and edit it slightly. These are just my humble opinions, and I want to discuss them with you. Don't take offense if the writing is not good. :)

*Published on August 17, 2018

#Memories about reproductive rights I first realized that family planning was wrong in 2012, when I was 15 years old and in my third year of junior high. At that time, in Nandu Weekly, I saw a report on the petition of the parents who lost their only child. I began to realize that the responsibilities of being an only child turned out to be very heavy--multiple children are 1 and many, while only children are 1 and 0, with and without; as an adult only child, the financial pressure is also very heavy, In the future, two people may have to raise four parents and one child.
Later, when I went abroad to play and chatted with foreigners in the youth hostel, they all said that family planning is unbelievable - the state restricts you from having children? Simply authoritarian, authoritarian! I found that I had no way of refuting it. It seems like a door has been opened at this time, but in fact we have been brainwashed for too long: the population is too large, family planning is the basic national policy, it is good to have one - so I am used to it, I don't even feel that my rights are being deprived of .

Then there are two more stories. One is my mother and the other is my life mentor.

I like children very much. I like to play with children since I was a child, but I didn't have my first cousin until I was 12 years old. I have a very good relationship with him.
Before this, my mother once asked me, do you want a younger brother? I said, um... it's better to be my sister! I like little girls. My mother didn't speak, she felt her stomach and stared at the wall in a daze. After a period of time, my mother had an operation and looked very weak. She lay in the hospital for a while, the nanny took care of her, and I went to school by myself.
It wasn't until I was in high school that I found out that my mother had aborted the child, it should be a little brother. The reason is that my dad was working in a state-owned enterprise at the time, so if he gave birth to this child, he would not have a job and would not be able to support him.

Another story is that this year, the Lantern Festival Flower Market returned to middle school. My junior high school IT teacher offered to see me. In fact, this course is not very important in middle school, so logically speaking, we should not have much contact with it. But in fact, this teacher is a teacher who encourages us to study philosophy and to think about society. Perhaps it is out of appreciation. He used to chat with me and gave me a lot of advice (for example, don’t study journalism, and even provided examples. Later I found out that he was also Zhao Sile's teacher. Haha!). So for me, he is a life mentor, a good teacher and a good friend.
He specially found me in the lively flower market and chatted with me face to face for a while. He reminded me that the things I post in the circle of friends are sometimes too radical. In fact, I know a lot of things myself. Don't send them out to let people get a handle on them, and protect yourself. When we were "arguing", he told his story about his second child: as a public official, it is not allowed to have a second child in violation of the family planning policy. Although there were rumors about opening up at that time, it was never achieved. Wen; At that time, his wife was four months pregnant, and he posted the good news on his Moments. I don't know who told the school leaders that he was forced to accompany his wife to abort the child when the child was five months old.
"The child has taken shape and is a girl."
"I had a lot of fights with my wife about this. I thought it was cruel to her, but there was no way."
"The principal is a very good person. He just persuaded me to think about whether to keep this child or not."
Six months after their family lost this life, the country took a month to quickly cancel this basic national policy of 30 years and fully open up the second child.
Now, the teacher also has a second child, a little brother.
But I still remember that night, next to the big red lantern, in the central square where there was laughter, singing and dancing, the helpless and desperate look in his eyes when he spoke to me. I also remember that I crossed my hands, and the nail prints I left on my arms, while listening, pinched them into the flesh. I can understand his guilt -- a teacher who teaches goodness to others, but can't stand up when the person he loves is hurt, even I feel the sadness of being born at an untimely time and making people miserable -- let me I'm at a loss for words, and I don't know how to respond to his story.

He didn't look at me, but looked at the lively stage of the flower market, and then ended the experience with one sentence: Although they have a third child, their family will not forget the second child, and they will still regard that day as a death day, and also Will tell the children about the existence of this sister, because that is a life.

Maybe the stories I tell are not as cruel as abortion and Sheung Wan, but they are more common and more likely to happen in the city. The cannibalism of this policy is to strangle innocent children in the operating room, in the womb and in the mind. It is what we memorized and unconditionally believed when we were 15 years old. "Family planning" is a basic national policy.

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