Can't be without you?

From time to time, I will see some middle-aged people complaining, lamenting that others despise him and treat him poorly. They seem to be very angry and aggrieved. Normally, we should sympathize with him and pity him, but from another perspective, will the troubles of these people be related to taking themselves too seriously? Do you think too much of the favors of others?

Sometimes, too much emphasis on oneself will lead to the illusion of "can't live without me", thinking that oneself is very important, unconsciously showing conceited air, and then subjective, dictatorial, domineering, and not good at others.

In retrospect, I have also had this kind of self-improvement experience. I always feel that I have to be present whenever something happens, to arrange and reconsider all the details, and to take all the situation as my responsibility.

I remember one time when I was rushing to an important meeting, I encountered a traffic accident on the way and couldn’t go to the meeting on time. I was so anxious at the time, but my colleague called me to persuade me not to be nervous and deal with the problem at hand first. I was worried that I would not be able to achieve it in my absence. cooperation agreement. But it turns out that as long as there is sufficient preparation and communication in advance, other colleagues can also handle things well, and no one will have major problems. Maybe I was too young at the time, and I felt very uneasy that I could be replaced at any time, but with the increase of age and seniority, of course, I will understand that the world will still function without anyone, and it is too important to think of myself as a human being. Silly and naive.

This kind of thinking is not to belittle yourself, but to accurately understand your position, you don’t have to be strong in everything, don’t mind the attention or contempt of others, remember that no matter what you do, you are just an ordinary person, it’s easy to learn to think like this Forgive the meaningless. In fact, being a person and doing things should be done to the best of your ability, and it is enough to be safe and secure. Don't worry about yourself in order to satisfy other people's ideas, and you shouldn't complain a lot about situations that you can't control.

"This company can't do without you!" "They can't get things done without you." "It's important to have your participation." This kind of joke can only be heard, don't take it seriously. It must be remembered that in fact you are not there, everything will be business as usual, the earth will not stop, this is quite certain, hahahahaha...

(Written in 2018)