Perth Diary 531st, become 'true', see the 'true' around you

True or false, even a three-year-old child can tell which is the better answer, but it is the most puzzling choice when entering society, and it also makes countless people lose their eyes and cannot tell the true from the false.

The biggest feeling of coming to Australia, or what I want to find after leaving my homeland, is "truth" besides freedom.

I can't accept all kinds of 'fake', all kinds of unspoken rules, all kinds of hypocrisy under all kinds of masks, and all kinds of exploiting relationships in the society. What our true love finally faces is all kinds of disposables.

So everyone started to learn to wear a mask, and different people have different masks, I have never learned to wear a mask, my parents can't, my brother didn't learn, and no one taught me how to use a mask , I also don't want to wear a mask.

Of course, being frank and sincere to people does not mean that you will be able to have good interpersonal, working, and emotional relationships with people around you. In addition to being sincere, a person's growth is also accompanied by learning the sense of interpersonal boundaries, but sincere If you always take advantage of relationships in exchange for people, it is actually hurting everyone in this environment.

Some people always teach us: Can enthusiasm be eaten, can kindness be eaten, can sincerity be eaten?

In fact, what they said was very euphemistic. What they said was, can good qualities be used to make money? When I was not mature and strong enough, I always questioned myself, and I even questioned my parents who were too stubborn. Culture, ignorance of current affairs, did not teach me the ability to walk in interpersonal relationships.

But when I began to gradually see the laws of society, understand my own personality characteristics, and judge which are the advantages and which are the disadvantages, I no longer question my true feelings for people, and I also see that I will never learn. I don't agree with the falsehood, deceit, and use of relationships that can be "big rich and rich". It is obviously my own advantage but it will become a stumbling block to my better life. This is one of the reasons why I decided to leave.

I went to the Philippines in 2018, and I changed my environment. Did I get the sincere feedback from everyone I wanted?

Didn't quite get it.

I stay away from the Chinese circle, live in a Filipino family, and hang out in the dive shop of foreigners. I have not changed the way I treat people. I always do what I think is right. I have received sincere feedback from some foreign friends. , I also met some blond and blue-eyed people who were greedy for profit, which made me think more. It turns out that people are more influenced by cultural traditions and family education, and have nothing to do with human nature or race.

After becoming a diving instructor and living alone on the island during the epidemic, I was even more injured. If I just quietly did what a tourist should do, maybe I would not have such a deep contact with the local culture.

When my enthusiasm for environmental protection encountered the interests of local elites, and I was extremly, suspicious, and framed, I began to have a deeper understanding of the ugly side of human nature, which is also related to people's living environment and is closely related to people's cognitive level.

So I left the Philippines and landed in Australia. The environment in Australia is relatively purer. After all, everyone can get a life that can at least guarantee basic survival with their own hands. People who are hypocritical will not easily regain the ability to be sincere.

And no matter how deeply I collided with reality, I have gradually improved my outlook on life and the world while holding firm to my values.

Over the years of running the official account, I have insisted on recording my life experience and growth. I am fortunate to be liked and appreciated by many people. My sincerity has won the trust of many people. Of course I also know that maybe I and this one Many people are in close contact, and maybe this beautiful relationship will be broken, because such things have happened many times, so I started to just want to be myself and no longer have any illusions about others.

Be a real person, never try to take advantage of others, you will never be a person who has both ways, you are a person with principles, you will run into walls everywhere that are opposite to your principles, these make you strong.

The active and kind feedback from others will be your reward for treating people with sincerity, not the reward you ask for.

You can't ask everyone to treat you sincerely, but you can filter your own friends' environment, maybe this is one of the reasons why I am extremely harsh on my circle of friends now, this is not mental cleanliness, I recognize that there is a relationship between people This kind of subtle energy interaction and subtle influence, compared to being with "fake big empty" people, I would rather maintain my secluded life and get energy from myself.

I found that only when a person treats others sincerely enough, can you discover the truth of others.

Maybe, sincerity really can't make you live, but it can really make you gain inner peace and happiness. If it can really make you go against the hypocrisy of the whole world, it will bring you enough tempering, and it will also help your inner self. Growth, this, is enough, who said that we must rely on sincerity to survive, sincerity makes us happy, and hands make us survive.

If a society requires you to give up the right to be 'true' in order to survive, it is not your problem, it is the problem of the soil, if you cannot be sincere all the time, it is the problem of your beliefs, not the problem of the soil.

If sincerity prevents you from surviving, forces you to go nowhere, helps you accumulate courage, develop your potential, and lets you leave the depraved environment, maybe there will never be a perfect environment in the world, but when you are strong enough, you will start Gradually build a 'real' living environment around you, this is the world you live in every day.

You don't have to complain about the "fake big empty" around you, you need to build a strong heart and defend your values ​​and beliefs in the process of sticking to your "true" beliefs.

If a person gives up the truth, people will fall. If the vast majority of people in a society give up the truth, it is only a matter of time before the whole society will degenerate.

Only by sticking to your own 'truth' can you have the ability to see the 'truth' of others.