The strong woman you think may just be her protective color!

More than 10 years ago, when I was working in a publishing house, I still remember a profound memory.

A female store manager of a distribution bookstore that I am in charge of is about one or two years older than me. She has strong working ability, but she is very friendly to others.

I have known her for many years at work, and the business relationship is not bad.

Once we negotiated a book fair here.
But when I came to the site of the bookstore to take a look, the time for the book fair had begun, but the book fair had not yet been displayed.
I was anxious, because this was our key activity, and the activities signed by the company and the bookstore were not displayed. If the company was audited, it would be my poor communication and lack of business execution, and I would be miserable.

So I hurriedly asked the store manager to put it out, because I knew her well enough, so I also told her about my worries , as well as the urgency and seriousness, and so on. Worried and panicked , and a little bit aggressive .

Not long after I finished speaking to the store manager, a scene that surprised me appeared.

She actually burst into tears in two lines , and the strange thing is that her calm expression has not changed.

I was stunned. A store manager who was considered a strong woman suddenly burst into tears in front of me, which made me panic; I quickly apologized to her and said, "Did I put too much pressure on you? I'm sorry..." I was also terrified at the time.

The atmosphere at the scene is really wrong, I can only apologize. She never said anything, but she still replied seriously, "I'll make it right for the book fair! " I could only leave silently.

After that, we still cooperated as before. I still don't know what happened that day.

When I think about it again 10 years later, I go back to time and space to think.
She may feel that " I owe me, I didn't do what I promised. " Or she felt "I just didn't show it for a while, do you need to tell me so seriously? " She was aggrieved and wept.

Because we are familiar with each other and have some friendship, I put too much pressure on her in such a situation, and she may also be eager to be kind to public affairs, and she ca n't convince herself in public or private , so she weeps aggrievedly.

Of course, it's been many years since I couldn't verify it, and the bookstore is no longer there, but I think even if she finds the store manager, she won't tell me the reason, right? If she would answer me, maybe she would call me too much at the time?

Protective coloration

Thinking of my interpersonal experience, there have been some " strong women " in character. In fact, many of them are armed with their own expressions and aura , but in fact they are still little women at heart . When the pressure reaches a critical point, the physiology will change unconsciously, and you will feel caught off guard.

Everyone has more or less protective colors . After all, everyone has weaknesses that they do not want to be discovered and hide, but once the protection is broken, there will be reflex actions!
Some people's reflexes may not be as gentle as this store manager, and may be hurtful behaviors that infringe on others!

I have to forgive people and forgive them. I hope everyone will not be as scornful as me.

#Don't say because it's an onion

• Article 2020.3.17
• Addition 2022.3.18