Community Activities｜Undifferentiated Lovers - The Paradox of Love

Sally is a person full of emotional contradictions.

I long for love, but I think why should I fall in love? What's good about falling in love? It's better to be alone.

But Sally herself is prone to have a favorable impression of the opposite sex.

Why is Sally so often full of contradictions?

I once asked him, and he said, "In a relationship, people are often together because of love, but they break up because of some things, so why are they together in the first place? Does love disappear so easily?

Even if they don't break up and get married, some people have a very good relationship before marriage, but after marriage they have a lot of quarrels because of "life", and even get divorced. If there is love, why can't they survive this big devil in real life?

And some people don't break up, get married, and grow old together, but human beings will eventually die. It is possible that the other half will leave before them, and they will make themselves miserable because they love each other.

So, to love someone, do you have to be with them? Can't you love silently, love silently? "

Hearing this, I don't know how to answer his question.

As far as I am concerned, when I start to have a good impression of someone, I really want to possess him, to be with him, and to give him the best and happiest world.

However, in reality, it is impossible to only be "happy". As Sally said, there will be disputes because of "life", because the disputes make each other into a bad mood.

Even if there are arguments and negative emotions, I think that's part of love, because you love each other and you have so many emotions.

If it was just a stranger today, I think I probably wouldn't even bother to bother.

After listening to what Sally said, I occasionally fall into conflict. Why does the love of parents for children not so easily disappear because of the disrespect of children to parents? Why does the love between family members not easily leave each other because of "life"?

However, the love between lovers is so weak, as Sally said, breaking up for various reasons, is that really love?

To be honest, whether it is Sally's idea or my own, I can't find a specific answer. Maybe it can be said that he is all kinds of contradictions.

There is a kind of love that I think is the most important thing for him, and that is to love yourself.

Once I lose myself, I think the pain is more painful than the loss of any kind of love.

I don't know what everyone thinks about love.