Mood. Record. "When you are misunderstood by others, do you choose to explain or be silent? 》

I must admit that sometimes I always feel that I am a very lucky person, especially when I encounter difficulties, I always meet noble people, such as doctors, nurses, etc. who meet the hearts of doctors and parents to solve my health problems. In the process of reading, because of a special fate, I accidentally saw Tingting, a Taiwanese Sagittarius mum who shared her feelings after reading in the reading alumni reunion on Facebook. Maybe as she said, she and I have never met each other. Maybe it was a previous life. Because of fate, I feel that I have a special relationship, I also have a special sense of trust in her, and I can share my life experience.

I rarely give self-affirmation, this kind of self-identification, self-confidence, I am still learning. But thanks to the encouragement and support of Sagittarius Mommy, I have the ability to challenge writing, something I never thought I could do. When she mentioned to me that I could actually start expressing my emotions through writing, the problem, I was still questioning my abilities. I also kept telling her about my poor writing skills. But because I wanted to get out of my comfort zone (COMFORT ZONE), I decided to give myself a chance to try, after all, live to be old and learn.

This is the fourth article I uploaded on MATTERS . I enjoy the moment of writing. I just want to record my mood. Maybe there are people in some corner of the world who are facing the same troubles and problems as me. Those who are destined have the opportunity to know through my sharing that he is not alone. What I want to share today is when you are misunderstood by those around you, do you choose to explain or remain silent? Whether it is in the workplace, relationship, marriage, or family, as long as interpersonal relationships are involved, being misunderstood is inevitable. Sometimes I ponder, why is there always some specific people who are often misunderstood and spread rumors, is it his own problem (such as poor popularity)? Or he was too taciturn, too kind.

I personally agree very much with the sayings that people are good at being bullied by others and the dog bites Lv Dongbin . Something happened in the company this morning. An old courtier who was serious about his work was rumoured by a new colleague who was about to leave and destroyed his reputation. In the eyes of other colleagues, this old courtier may be considered annoying because he is too self-disciplined, and he will never allow himself to participate in any gossip and right and wrong. Unfortunately, his efforts are not recognized by other colleagues just because he does not belong to the same group. When you don't fit in, you're naturally isolated, that's the reality! This kind of scene should be a commonplace in the workplace! But because my natural sense of justice is full, I said to this senior, how come you know that people are framing you, and you have no intention of defending or scolding yourself? But the senior's response to me was, forget it.. Those who are clear will self-clear, those who believe in me will unconditionally trust me without my explanation, and those who do not trust me will be the opposite , so why explain so much?

Maybe it's a trivial thing to many people but why do I take it so seriously? Maybe it's because I'm often misunderstood so I feel the same way. I pondered for a long time, and when I was misunderstood, I said a word, forget it , how many grievances do I hold in my heart, and how many similar incidents have I experienced before it is enough for a person to see through and look down on the right and wrong in the world? Think about it from another angle. When we don't make any explanation, are we indirectly letting the rumor mill succeed, which makes it worse. One pass ten, ten pass a hundred, rumors will be fabricated into facts. Maybe the bully, like me, wanted to pack up the grievances for himself at the beginning, and reflected the plight he was facing, but it didn't get the attention of the manager and the boss, which led to frustration. How many people are silently swallowing their breath in order to support their families?

The same misunderstandings are also faced in marriage. For example, some feudal-minded families will blame the woman for the problem of infertility. Even if their son has sexual problems or is infertile due to some health problem, elders will choose to avoid it. And how many innocent women are silently enduring these inexplicable charges and slander. As for divorce, I have heard and seen many cases. For example, the son cheated, but it is the woman who is blamed and misunderstood. Some aunts and six grandmothers will morally kidnap and say that it is because the woman did not perform her duty as a wife well that she sent her husband to look for prey. How ridiculous!

Today's society seems to lack empathy more and more. If we think about it from a different angle, would we be happy if something happened to us? How will we feel? At present, I don't have the best solution yet, but I hope that when dealing with others, everyone can be heart-to-heart. If you don't want bad things to happen to yourself, your children, or even your family, please don't pour dirty water on others , please do your best. Do your best not to bring them mental pain, no more rumors, no more fabricated facts. Interpersonal relationships are very fragile, how many people's relationships are defeated by one mouth. God gave us a pair of ears and a mouth to make us listen more and speak less.

May you all meet colleagues and family members who treat you well. May this society be filled with love and hope .

May justice be at ease in the hearts of the people, and may all injustices allow time to prove the truth of things.

I hope that what you are looking for will be calm for a while, and take a step back and the sky will eventually come true.