[Miscellaneous] Five years of longevity and a smile

This is not so romantic. It was a true story that a manicurist told me when I went to a high-quality nail salon in the East District for hand and foot maintenance yesterday. Do you think it is romantic or stupid to exchange five years of life for your sweetheart? Don't rush to answer.

In the famous Buddhist love story "Shiqiao Chan", the Buddha asked Ananda, "How much do you like this girl?" Ananda replied, "I would like to be a stone bridge, to be blown by the wind for five hundred years, in the sun for five hundred years, and in the rain for five hundred years. I just want her to pass by the bridge." And this was also included in the movie "Sword Rain", where Lu Zhu rides the drizzle with his own body. Even more popular is the poem "A Blossoming Tree" by Xi Murong that you and I are familiar with: "How to let you meet me, at my most beautiful moment, for this, I have been begging for five hundred years before the Buddha." , Missing seems to come with the fragrance of flowers, infatuation and moving.

However, these unforgettable stories and poems, returning to real life, are enough to be sad and terrifying if you think about them carefully.

Returning to the manicurist, she has a friend who likes a boy very much. After breaking up, in order to see him again, she actually went to the four-faced Buddha and made a wish to "wish five years of life in exchange for a chance to meet." Legend has it that if you make a vow to the Four-Faced Buddha, the more precious the vow is, the more it will be fulfilled. Sure enough, she saw him, but the relationship between the two came to an end. It shouldn't be yours, it's useless to ask God and Buddha, but it doesn't take many, many years for other boys to appear beside the girl, and the relationship goes well.

The moment of loss is always interspersed with tears and tears, telling that I love this person very deeply, and I must have this person. It seems to be infatuated, but now I think about it seriously, it is just an obsession caused by a sense of loss that has been abandoned . In fact, there is nothing that must be done in love. From the perspective of the total length of life, it is like a moment; breaking up, divorce, and giving up will not make your heart hurt to death. will be born again.

The lyrics of Tanya Cai's "Bottomless Pit" are beautiful, "Walking through a section / In another relationship / Why is love always unfilled and empty... (omitted)... It will soon be surging / The human heart is a bottomless pit", the original allusion is the lyricist Xiao Han It was found that a friend who was suffering from lovelorn fell in love with someone else a week after breaking up. The novels in the past have magnified and beautified infatuation, and indirectly people think of themselves too infatuated, but infatuation should never be a virtue, it is stubbornness to feelings, and in some respects it is a kind of shackles, once it is too addicted, it will attract pain .

A wealthy businessman has cheated many times, with two or three bedrooms and one truck. Others ask the lady, why don't you take alimony and get divorced? Taking alimony is not necessarily a disadvantage, but the lady replied proudly: "I'm so smart, if I leave, I will fulfill that couple..." Is this love? The elements of unwillingness and revenge are relatively large, which consumes youth, and suffers from the ordeal of his husband's infidelity and betrayal to death day and night. Who will take revenge?

But I wouldn't say her friend is stupid. If you've ever been sad and immersed in emotional quagmire, opening your eyes and closing your eyes are the same person and the same thing, you will definitely understand that obsession.

The Buddha said that there are eight sufferings in life: suffering of birth, suffering of old age, suffering of sickness, suffering of death, suffering of separation from love, suffering of meeting with grievances, suffering of not being able to ask for, and suffering of the five yin blazing. The first four kinds of birth, old age, sickness and death are not independent of human beings, while the last four all arise from obsessions, separation of wounds, reunion of love and hatred, seeking but not being able to, and indulging in form, feelings, thoughts, actions, and consciousness. If I am greedy for joy, I won't say something eloquent about the Buddha's whole heart. I just remember to give myself a hit when it is painful and difficult to make a choice. Obsession is suffering .