The beginning of Hua Deng: Why does "Su Qingyi" always fall in love with the wrong person? Either a naive college student or a best friend boyfriend

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Have you ever met a girl? They always fall in love with married husbands or best friends and boyfriends, and they cannot control falling in love with the wrong person. The source is likely to be lack of love.

Because the family of origin is very bad, it is always in chaos, and the parents are often arguing. They rarely feel love, and the feelings are too flat and too unfamiliar to her.

On the contrary, the relationship with ups and downs and constant conflicts, just like her childhood, is so familiar, more like love! So they will always subconsciously choose the person they shouldn't love.

The same is true for Su Qingyi in "The Beginning of Hua Deng". The reason behind why she chooses an immature college student and her best friend's boyfriend may be lack of love.

Don't be too quick to say they're green tea, it's possible she's just making mistakes uncontrollably.

The following contains spoilers.

fall in love with romantic college students

Su Qingyi, who came from an unfortunate family and a selfish mother, never gave her love. She grew up without love.

She logically said that love was money to her, and she should love it realistically, but she chose a college student who was younger than herself.

The other party has nothing, but can only give you a lot of love. People who lack love seldom hear good words and seldom feel sincere love.

College student He Yuen's self-imposed love moved her. In fact, He Yuen didn't even know what he was doing.

After she became pregnant, Su Qingyi also dreamed that the other party would be responsible, but at the same time she knew that it was very difficult, so she gave him a choice instead of forcing him.

She also wanted to keep the dignity of her eldest sister, but the other party didn't show up, which really hurt her. The source of this was that the love she chose was too unrealistic.

It is precisely because he is unable to give you guaranteed love that he will give you so much love to move you and gain you! Also because of innocence and ignorance, it is easier to be romantic.

If it is a woman who is not lacking in love, she will not be easily moved by such romantic and empty love, and they will choose a more practical object. The other party may not understand romance, but will give you the most genuine care and sense of security.

A woman who lacks love is also particularly easy to be deceived. A few good words, a few thoughtful actions, and a few chats with her all night, she will think that you really love her.

After all, in her world, she seldom received such a small contribution.

best friend's boyfriend

Women who lack love are also very easy to fall in love with people they shouldn't love. They distortedly believe that pain is what love looks like, and love is entangled.

If they fall in love with a normal man, living a normal life will make them feel indifferent and make them mistakenly think that they do not love each other.

Because the care given to them by their parents is always accompanied by a lot of emotions, and they are always repressed. If there are no ups and downs in love, she will subconsciously feel that this is not love.

They will also unconsciously regard the wrong person as a parent, trying to win the other person's approval and his love.

Even if you have to pay a lot for this, you will not hesitate to endure the grievances and pain of being a junior, but you must continue to love.

Why is it that the more you lack love, the less happy you are? It is because of this that you have picked the wrong person from the beginning, how can you be happy?

Jiang Han is her best friend's boyfriend, someone she shouldn't love, but she quietly fell in love, and the other party also liked her, which made her even more overjoyed.

She forgot the cherished girlfriend's relationship, blindly pursued her own love, but only got misfortune in the end.

Jiang Han, who has an avoidant attachment, likes her generosity and gentleness.

When she was abandoned by Jiang Han, the trauma of her parents not loving her was also awakened! The other party even said that she was not as good as Rose, and the injury that was not recognized by her parents was also triggered at the same time.

As a result, Su Qingyi distortedly blamed Rose for everything, and at the same time acted aggressively towards Jiang Han.

In fact, the source lies in herself. If she chooses a suitable and normal person to fall in love, the final outcome will not be like this.

White Sakura Epilogue

The more you lack love, the more you must be careful about love, otherwise it will only make life repeat tragedies again and again.

When you are unconsciously moved for the rhetoric and the wrong person, you must stop in time! That's not love, that's just trauma clamoring.

Don't be deceived by yourself anymore. If that is love, why do you suffer so much? Why can't that person say he loves you, why can't he be responsible for you and let you bear the grievance and pain alone?

Born into a bad family, life is already a little difficult, but don't make it harder for yourself.

You should learn to appreciate safe boys, they are not that attractive to you, but they are the ones you really need.

Only normal and considerate people can calm your heart, and those who shouldn't be touched, let them go! He really has no right to stay in your world anymore.

You are just being controlled by the shadow of your childhood. Once you see the truth, you must know how to solve it and stop suffering.

No matter how nice you say it, no matter how many useless romantic actions you do, but you don't have the sincerity to really think about you, it's all empty.

Someone else's man, no matter how good it is, is someone else's. It is difficult for him to give you happiness. Real love is peace of mind and warmth, not entanglement in pain. If Su Qingyi had understood earlier, she would not have gotten this ending.