Be tolerant when you are in love, turn around when you are not in love, Ma Yili's concept of emotional marriage is worth learning

In 2005, when filming the TV series "Jin Yiwei", a 21-year-old college student, Wen Wen, a boy from Xi'an, met Ma Yili, a 29-year-old girl from Shanghai.

At that time, they did not know that their own destiny would be intertwined with each other in the future.

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As soon as he graduated, the article received an invitation from the crew of the TV series "Struggle" to play the male No. 2 Xiang Nan, and Ma Yili was the female No. 1 Xia Lin.

Interestingly, in the play, the other half of the article is Li Xiaolu, and the other half of Ma Yili is Tong Dawei.

But such a plot arrangement did not prevent the two people from flirting with each other in private.

During the filming of "Struggle", the relationship between the two sublimated, from friends to lovers.

This also made Li Xiaolu and Tong Dawei a little embarrassed when they entered the play.

But actors are actors after all, and they still did a great job of filming.

In May 2007, "Struggle" was launched, and it became a mess. That year also became the "Struggle" year.

The leading actors in the play naturally became popular, and Zhao Baogang's golden signboard also shone again.

A year later, Ma Yili and Wen Wen, a sister-in-law relationship with a difference of 8 years, finally broke through the secular barriers, achieved positive results, and became husband and wife.

In September of the same year, their eldest daughter was born.

After marriage, the article's career entered the open mode and became a proper first-line niche student.

Although Ma Yili's career has also progressed steadily, she still cared more about her family and reduced her workload.

Husband and wife are of one mind, and their profits break gold. If the story develops according to this rhythm, the article and Ma Yili must be the envy of everyone.

However, when the marriage entered its fifth year, there was a crisis.

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In 2013, when Ma Yili was pregnant with her second child, the scandal between Wen and Yao Di spread all over the sky.

In March 2014, the media took a photo of the article and Yao Di together.

Subsequently, the article issued a statement admitting to driving without a license with Yao Di and apologizing.

In this regard, as a wife, Ma Yili showed the bearing and wisdom of the main room.

She chose to forgive her husband, and wrote the famous saying: Love is easy, marriage is not easy, do it and cherish it.

A year later, on the occasion of Ma Yili's 39th birthday, the article celebrated her birthday and "proposed" again. The couple embraced affectionately on the spot.

At the same time, the article also showed his repentance and loyalty by co-starring with his wife in a series of TV series, such as "Little Dad" and "Razor's Edge".

I thought that the couple who had gone through the trials and tribulations would hold hands and go on steadily.

Unexpectedly, four years later, the two suddenly announced their divorce, and both daughters belonged to Ma Yili.

Since then, the article's career and reputation have plummeted, and the career has entered a trough, with almost no drama to be filmed.

While Ma Yili was raising her children, Xingtu was not affected.

In 2017, a "The First Half of My Life" made Ma Yili red to purple.

In September of the year of the divorce, the TV series "In the Distance" starring her and Liu Ye hit the air. In October, she was nominated for the 32nd Chinese Film Golden Rooster Award for Best Actress with the movie "Find You".

In 2020, "Qipao Beauty Detective" starring her and Gao Weiguang will be broadcast.

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I have to say that Ma Yili lives beautifully. She knows what she wants and what she doesn't want.

In her marriage, she bravely chose someone 8 years younger than herself from the very beginning.

Although relatives and friends are worried, she has no turning back. In her heart, love is love, and age is not a problem.

However, when age is excluded from the marriage, there are other problems.

But when problems came one after another, she did not escape, and bravely chose to face and bear together.

It's all because of love in my heart.

However, at the age of 43, after successfully resolving the marriage crisis, she chose to let go.

There is no more reason, just because I don't love it.

It was also in that year that she became a divorced woman with two children.

It's a whole new identity, and it's up to you how you feel about it.

Optimistic people will be glad that they are finally single and can enjoy freedom; pessimistic people will feel ashamed and cover up.

Ma Yili obviously belongs to the former.

When she was still in love, she was tolerant and patient with her husband's mistakes and didn't let anyone joke.

When not in love, I chose to turn around smartly, neatly, and not sloppily.

After the divorce, although there are new troubles to face, she is still positive, living herself as an undefeated flower, fearless of wind and frost, and strong.

Such a concept of marriage is worth learning by modern people.

And owning oneself is the greatest confidence for a woman to walk in the world.

As she said, women have the right to love at all times.

The value of a woman's life in society is not to be a wife or mother, but to be herself.

And being able to be yourself without distractions is such a rare thing.

I have to say that Ma Yili's heart is really strong. She herself lives clearly, loves rationally, is independent and rational, which is great!

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Looking back at the mistakes the article made in marriage now, it is inevitable that people speculate that this may be the root cause of their divorce.

Whatever the truth, it is conceivable that no woman would be so arrogant that she would not care about such a mistake.

We all know that marriage is not a child's play, but a lifetime of mutual support.

Therefore, since entering into marriage, it is necessary to be loyal to your partner. This is not only the provisions of the "Marriage Law", but also the minimum moral bottom line.

If one of the parties has a situation in the middle and fails to perform according to the agreement, it is a breach of contract, and it will also force the marriage to a dead end.

For the other half, no matter how magnanimous it is, it will also produce irreparable psychological trauma.

Therefore, even though it has been many years, the past of that time has still become a gap, separating the two people who originally loved each other.

For anyone, once in marriage, it means responsibilities towards a lover and family.

Outside, you should be more cautious in your words and deeds, and always keep your identity in mind.

Otherwise, once you make a mistake, even if you know the mistake and correct it, it will have a significant impact on the direction of your marriage, and furthermore, it will also affect your career and life.

It is Ma Yili's classic sentence: Love is easy, marriage is not easy, do it and cherish it!