Would it be too self-righteous to use your own experience to educate your children?

Going to work, watching dramas, and writing are the current daily routines. Recently, I was watching "Our Blues Time". The first three episodes focused on a group of middle-aged people who grew up in poor fishing villages. Work, but in order to support her daughter to go to the United States to play golf, sell houses and borrow money everywhere, the debt is high, and she is transferred back to the Jeju branch to be the manager, and reunites with her high school classmates she has not seen in 20 years.

Hanxiu was the first love of Enxi High School. Enxi dropped out of school after the death of her mother. She grew up by selling fish and pulling 4 younger brothers, and accumulated rich wealth. Gao Dahanxiu wanted to be a basketball player in the past, but he never mentioned it to his family. Because his family was poor, he chose to give up directly. In order to let his daughter continue to practice basketball in the United States, he wanted to borrow money from grace and affection. Together, we revisit Mokpo, the place where high school off-campus teaching is held.

"Besides going to school, as long as we were in a bad mood, we would put on our uniforms regardless of whether we were in the morning or the morning, and jumped into the sea with a plop." Worrying about his youth, Han Xiu looked at himself on the beach bitterly. His wife and daughter kept saying that they would give up golf and go back to Seoul. Lost the chance to chase your dreams.

Like Han Xiu, we use our own life experience to view the education and growth of our children.

Take me as an example! I was very poor in English and mathematics in high school, I failed the joint entrance exam, and I didn’t know English well since I was a junior high school student. Many students from elementary school to junior high school have already taken English preparatory classes before moving from the mountains to the small town. , Silly didn't know about the preparatory class at all. The female English teacher Park Keyian believed that most of the students had attended the preparatory class, and the pronunciation was casually taken in class.

Therefore, starting from the second grade of elementary school, my son asked him to study English, for fear of falling behind like me.

But my son's English is good, not because of this, but because he is interested in foam toy guns, he went to foreign websites to inquire, and exchanged his experiences with netizens in English.

My son will be admitted to a good high school. Among the 5 subjects, his math scores are slightly lower. He will be asked to remediate mathematics in the first year of high school. He knows that the TOEIC score will help him apply for extra points for admission. English tutoring, practice English answering and writing.

There was no obvious rebellious period in my son’s middle school and high school. In the middle school, he went to the English inspection class on time every Saturday afternoon. When he went to high school, he also went to math and English classes according to the arrangement. In mathematics, he chose a cram school teacher who spoke witty. , The second time I wanted to ask for leave, and after consultation, I also asked him to ask for leave.

Last year, the math test questions were difficult. For the students in the first group, the son did well in the test, with full grades in English and social, and he did well in the test. On the contrary, it was the Chinese language that dragged down the overall score due to poor composition scores.

It's funny, because my mother never felt that the composition needs to be strengthened, and did not let him go to the Chinese language intensive class in the third year of high school.

My son's handwriting is crooked, so the grader should have a bad first impression. After listening to him talk about the "If I had a new refrigerator" composition topic after the exam, he probably knew how to write it in a straight line. You can only get ordinary scores, as expected.

Restricted by the Chinese language score, when the son of Missing Communication Department applied for the first stage screening for admission, the communication departments of the two top universities failed.

Is the mother's self-righteous arrangement from her own school experience right? Is it wrong? It's hard to say.

But I seldom use force to educate my son. I remember sitting on the sofa a few months ago and watching YouTube videos about parental violence. My son said, "Mom, you and Dad never beat me! Your education It’s a very open and free way.” His words comforted me.